i'm not saying that all 17 year olds shouldnt....... but I am saying think twice.I Apologize if I've offended anyone. That's all. Maybe go and see a bit of the world first. Enjoy being a teenager.
When you're 70 you might appreciate it.
I'm 17, and my boyfriend turned 18 last month. We decided to start trying for a baby a year ago. But I wanted to wait till May 07 to come off the pill. So we've been trying just over 6 months. I came off the pill on the 8th May 07, but I'm not obsessing because it will happen when it happens. I know we aren't rushing into anything because when we first started going out and having sex I really wanted a baby (we where 15) but I didn't try to get pregnant because I thought it would be too soon. We live together because his Mum moved in with her boyfriend a year ago so I went and stayed there.
I'm 18 next year so if I do get pregnant I'll be 18-19. I just thought I'd join here because it seems like a very nice forum and nobody judges like they do on other forums I've been on. Also I don't really have anybody to talk to about TTC because we haven't told anybody because it will cause stress as I'm a worrier!!
I thought I had a miscarriage in September, and went to the Doctors today and he said it 'can' be normal to happen. I didn't think I was pregnant, I just had the little signs (sore boob etc etc that I hadn't gotten before) and then when I got my period over 2 weeks late it was very clotted and had pieces in it that looked like large clumps of liver (sorry if it's TMI).
Sorry that it's so long!
Hope it happens for you. When read posts like these i feel so grateful for baby ive got. ( i feel pregnant on the pill )
As people have said, about losing your first, i cant believe mine lived, as i never found out until 18wk and i had been still going out drinking, all that and been 5 theme parks, and i found out i had a healthy baby...
Btw im 18
I started TTC at 19 - a month off 20 (I'm 21 now - been TTC for a year) and had a miscarriage in my first pregnancy. They say that first pregnancies end in miscarriage because the womans body isn't ready at that point for pregnancy and can't handle it, or something like that.
My advice is not to overlystress about TTC because it can delay you get pregnant longer. I got pregnant after 3 months of trying and because i'm still emotionally dealing with my loss (almost 8 months ago) i'm still not pregnant again. Just go with the flow and it will happen soon. I'm trying to relax more so we can get pregnant with a healthy '08 baby.
JUST for the record, I'd like to say that I had a baby just before my 18th birthday. I was a "child" when I had her and let me tell you what- My husband and I get compliments every day from strangers on how well behaved and happy our little girl is! She is VERY loved and VERY well taken care of, in fact a bit spoiled! I didn't plan on having a baby that young, and though it was hard at times I have always taken damn good care of her!
I'm a bit miffed at the comment that you have to have a nice house in a nice neighborhood, and how much kids cost. This coming from someone who has no children yet? Kids can certainly be expensive, but they don't have to cost a fortune! I was able to get almost everything for my daughter for free when she was born, from people who were getting rid of things. And let me tell you, I only used the best. I'm not saying that's an excuse to have babies young, I'm saying you make it sound like a nightmare! I missed out on some of my youth- but I got something MUCH better in return.
ALSO- there are so many people like you two who assume you can't be a good mom or dad when you're "a child" (another thing I MAJORLY take offense to- I was living on my own before my 17th birthday). It's people like you who make it SO DAMN HARD to be taken seriously as young parents!!! I got SO MANY dirty looks when I was pregnant! I got sooo many dirty looks when I had a new baby in my arms! Now that I look at bit older it's not bad at all, but COME ON!!! Don't be those people who look down on us young parents. Those people make our lives hell!
Remember, there may be a thing or two you could learn from us young moms. When you come back on this site asking for advice or understanding, you'll be amazed at how many "children with children" will respond with encouragement and excellent advice.
(And one more thing, to be spiteful. How old will you be when your kids are 18? I won't regret anything when I'm 70- my kids will already have been out of the house for 30 years! I get the joy of being a mom, and still get to have my "life back" at a younger age!)
OK Sorry for being a ! I'm done! I'm just tired of hearing it from people who don't know what they're even talking about!
[color="DarkOrchid"]I agree that there are 17 year olds out there who can cope but I also agree that at 17 you're still just a kid. You don't feel like it but you'll look back in just a few years and think the same yourself.
My sister and my friend both had their first kids at 17. My sisters kids are now all in care and my friend is still living with her mum aged 24, with her 2 kids, working part time behind a bar and living on benefits. What kind of life is that?! At best you can hope to be living in your own council place on benefits for years to come.
When you have a kid you should want wants best for it, not for you and aside from putting your baby at risk because you're not done growing, you also have I'm guessing no education beyond school and no job. Also again even though you may feel very mature, you can't be by 17 and kids having kids tends to eventually lead to a new generation of kids having kids and other problems. Most teens seem to want a baby, probably because of the crazy hormone rush. Even I did at 17 but like most I waited and am glad I have.
Whats the problem with waiting for a few years and getting an education, a job and a house and then having a baby so you know you can provide the best you can for it? It's not like time is running out for you.
i am 19 and pregnant with my first! i know i am ready! i dont think it matters how old you are when you have a baby as long as your ready! having a baby at 13 must be hard..well done to you babe. really happy 4 you. Me and my bf both have great jobs (he has his own business) and we have a house so i know we can look after the baby financially. i think everyone is entitled to their own opinions however i think teen mums are great!!!
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Would be naff if we all thought the same huh? 
! I'm done! I'm just tired of hearing it from people who don't know what they're even talking about!
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