You are intitled to your opinion. That is what makes this forum a great place. But please try to take into concideration that we have alot of young moms and members TTC on this forum. They are all here for support in one way or another. Your comments are coming off a bit hurtful and harsh.
Last edited by Suz : 28-11-2007 at 00:14 AM.
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I talked to my doctor when we wanted to try at that age, no lecture or anything. he said i was fine to TTC. My mother in law also knew and she was fine with it too.
Every woman cant be grouped together with physical and mental development, i dont feel any different now than i did three years ago.
well there is a lovely girl on her who had a child at 13 and 15 and is pregant again its her choice to get pregs and not were protection that does not mean than shes not a bad mum its each to there own if sh feels ready she is the only one that can that desion i have a mate who was preg at 17and had baby at 18and another at that was 18 preg had her at 18 turn 19 a wk later and they are both fab mums x
Over here we class as over 16 as adults not children.
Sorry but i do find your comments offensive.
As a young TTCer i didnt consider myself a child when we started and nobody i told treated me as a child and said i shouldnt go ahead because of that reason.
Last edited by Arcanegirl : 28-11-2007 at 00:54 AM.
accidental teenpregnancies are different to intentional ones. I applaud those girls who have coped in the face of difficult circumstances. But those who are being anive and are planning on making life difficult for themselves and the baby...well, I have nothing but sensible comments.
13, 15? It's illegal for a reason. They are children. Children should not have sex adn should not breed.
And one girl said she started TTC at 17 and they didnt have jobs but were working on it - NOT GOOD ENOUGH. Who would look after the child? How can a child feed if there's no money? How will bills be paid? Benefits?...give me a break....
I wouldnt buy a puppy if I coudlnt afford his food.
I wouldnt book a holiday if I couldnt afford to pay the flights.
I wouldnt try and get pregnant unless I could offer the child everything it needed. Love isnt enough. Not in an ideal world.
I'm not having this baby just for me to have a doll, or a cute baby to cuddle when I'm lonely. The baby isnt to complete me, it isn't an accessory. I'm having this kid because it's teh right time. I've had a good time adn am now ina position to offer a child a wonderful life. It's taken me a whil e to get here but I think I can give it everything it needs.
Kids cost a fortune - a home in a nice area (mortgage, all your utility bills, taxes, insurance, the chance your boiler might need replacing, your washing machine...), new coats each year, shoes, socks, clothes, bottles, baths, blankets, food, medicines, toys, swimming classes, education, bikes, birthday parties, dancing classes or maybe karate classes.... And that's all just if my kid is healthy. Otherwise, what about a special needs carer or special schooling and doctors and treatments? What if my baby is born prematurely? You dont get benefits for premature babies...check this news story out: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/7117416.stm
Sorry if this soudns grumpy, I am partic grumpy this week...
And one girl said she started TTC at 17 and they didnt have jobs but were working on it - NOT GOOD ENOUGH. Who would look after the child? How can a child feed if there's no money? How will bills be paid? Benefits?...give me a break....
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That was me....And i would like to point out we both work now full time and as to who would look after the baby, we have full support of both our familes.
As for not good enough, youd rather we hadnt looked for jobs? At least we did and didnt just stay on benefits the rest of our lives.
That was me...
youd rather we hadnt looked for jobs? At least we did and didnt just stay on benefits the rest of our lives.
no you're right. but i mean when starting TTC. jobs can be hard to come by. You are lucky. Some people might not be so lucky or have such good grades etc.
Not a personal criticism at anyone, just wating people to think twice, or even three times.
This is sucha huuuuge thing. As I'm sure you know.
This thread is just wrong we have lots of young Mummies on the forum.
There certainly are those at 17 (or around) that have babies & really needed to grow up before bringing a baby into this world BUT that doesn't mean every 17 year old will fail or should not consider having a family young these days younger adults are more mature & head screwed than they use to be. Then you get a woman in her 30's a man in his 40's totally incapable of looking after the child they concieved whist they inject drugs leave needles round their home ... to be blunt a bigger % of 17 year old young woman would do a better job of ... Ive seen many young Mums make GREAT Mums & Ive seen many who maybe should have been more careful because they weren't ready then I see people like my own father (yes the 40 yr old man who takes drugs & his slapped up girlfriend in her 30s) bring my baby sister into this world and fail as parants so badly from every direction. I wish my sister was with a young couple who feel they are ready to love a child than my own failure of a father & GF who I dispise (sp) for for bringing my sister into this world - their world of a shit life but she'll never know different.
You know when your ready ... Some may be wrong and just "awww I want a a baby" that doesn't mean everyone young adult thinks like that and it doesn't mean those in 20s/30s haven't done the same because they have!!
I appoligize for sounding harsh but I dont think children should be encouraged and congradulated for TTC. AT 17 you are still a child.
If my little girl comes to me at 17 and decides she wants to try for baby become a Mummy you know what mother instinct may not want my little girl to grow up so fast but I'd support her and congratulate her on success ... I will support her in any way I can but not being stupid she will also be left to stand on her own two feet and support her own decision.
At 17 I wasn't a child - I had a fully furnished house, was paying my own bills, had a job & a partner who was 7 years older than me had I decided on children then I was more than ready mentally. More ready than many out there twice my age at the time.
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