¬.¬ OH's mother.

Rach+Stu · Apr 29th, 2009, 12:24 PM

i'm 18, and my OH is 24, we told his mother yesterday that i am pregnant, and already she is trying to take control, my OH wants the baby, and so do i, but she just keeps telling him behind my back to get rid of it, cos she thinks he wont tell me what she's saying. he's told her we both want it but she insists its not his choice whether or not someone my age has a baby. she right. its MY choice, and i want it, but why wont she listen??
ive told my OH that if she doesnt give up with the control freak attitude im goin back home cos its stressin me out too much....... HELP??? PLEASE???

tiggy · Apr 29th, 2009, 12:28 PM

Ur 18 hun no one can tell u wat to do it sur choice and ur body.

if u n ur oh want this baby then sod his mum and go for it.

ps good luck.

mummy3 · Apr 29th, 2009, 13:07 PM

personally I would get out of there, staying with MIL I mean, my MIL is exactly the same and she kept at my DH until I was 30 weeks gone to get abortion and we are in mid twenties! Might be she cant bear to see her son grow up?

Either way blokes tend to put on the blinkers where mum is concerned so space is very good idea!
Thankfully I only have to have MIL stay for a week 3 times a year as she in us we in uk

Good luck and dont ever let her get to you

MissCherry15 · Apr 29th, 2009, 13:29 PM

im 16 and even at this age its my choice. no one can tell you what you can and cant do.

i think you should be upfront to her and say that your well aware that she doesnt approove of the baby but its happening and why cant she just be happy for you two

lissaloo · Apr 29th, 2009, 13:42 PM

maybe hun she don't want little sticky fingers everywhere and sleepless nights with a screaming baby !!

you and you oh need a place of your own cause your pregnancy will be full of stress and misery and this is the one time in your life that you want to be calm and happy...

GET OUT OF THERE WHILE YOU CAN !!

shaunanicole · Apr 29th, 2009, 13:45 PM

It isn't her decision on whether or not you have this child, it's yours, no one else's. If she can't respect that and keeps insisting on an abortion then you really do need to get away from her negativity. Maybe within time she will become more fond of the idea. Until then you need to just keep your space and pay no attention to what she is saying. I wish you the best of luck sweety.

passengerrach · Apr 29th, 2009, 13:48 PM

LEAVE NOW lol i could not live with the inlaws now and i got on them with them fine before the baby came trust me they will be much worse once the baby arrives

Rach+Stu · Apr 29th, 2009, 14:01 PM

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Originally Posted by lissaloo

maybe hun she don't want little sticky fingers everywhere and sleepless nights with a screaming baby !!

you and you oh need a place of your own cause your pregnancy will be full of stress and misery and this is the one time in your life that you want to be calm and happy...

GET OUT OF THERE WHILE YOU CAN !!

we DO have a place of our own, she doesnt ever have to see this baby if she doesnt want o.. but she still interferes. i just dont understand why

xarlenex · Apr 29th, 2009, 14:29 PM

If yous are in your own place, and its a case of her nagging at your OH..tell him from now on you dont wanna discuss her 'negativity'..until her attitude changes you would rather stay far from her. It might be shock, she did only find out yesterday..I'd give it a couple weeks and you might find shes changed.

Alot of mights there lol But it is a possibility!

tasha41 · Apr 29th, 2009, 16:50 PM

You guys are both adults & this is your choice, no one else has a say in it. Ignore her calls or something, hopefully she'll realize how silly she's being and come around!

Apr 29th, 2009, 12:24 PM	#1
Rach+Stu Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: stafford, west midlands Posts: 43	¬.¬ OH's mother. i'm 18, and my OH is 24, we told his mother yesterday that i am pregnant, and already she is trying to take control, my OH wants the baby, and so do i, but she just keeps telling him behind my back to get rid of it, cos she thinks he wont tell me what she's saying. he's told her we both want it but she insists its not his choice whether or not someone my age has a baby. she right. its MY choice, and i want it, but why wont she listen?? ive told my OH that if she doesnt give up with the control freak attitude im goin back home cos its stressin me out too much....... HELP??? PLEASE???

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Apr 29th, 2009, 12:28 PM	#2
tiggy Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Sheffield Posts: 732	Ur 18 hun no one can tell u wat to do it sur choice and ur body. if u n ur oh want this baby then sod his mum and go for it. ps good luck.

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Apr 29th, 2009, 13:07 PM	#3
mummy3 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Az Posts: 6,612	personally I would get out of there, staying with MIL I mean, my MIL is exactly the same and she kept at my DH until I was 30 weeks gone to get abortion and we are in mid twenties! Might be she cant bear to see her son grow up? Either way blokes tend to put on the blinkers where mum is concerned so space is very good idea! Thankfully I only have to have MIL stay for a week 3 times a year as she in us we in uk Good luck and dont ever let her get to you

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Apr 29th, 2009, 13:29 PM	#4
MissCherry15 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Coventry, West midlands Posts: 1,226	im 16 and even at this age its my choice. no one can tell you what you can and cant do. i think you should be upfront to her and say that your well aware that she doesnt approove of the baby but its happening and why cant she just be happy for you two

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Apr 29th, 2009, 13:42 PM	#5
lissaloo Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 1,162	maybe hun she don't want little sticky fingers everywhere and sleepless nights with a screaming baby !! you and you oh need a place of your own cause your pregnancy will be full of stress and misery and this is the one time in your life that you want to be calm and happy... GET OUT OF THERE WHILE YOU CAN !!

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Apr 29th, 2009, 13:45 PM	#6
shaunanicole Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Deltona, Florida Posts: 3,152	It isn't her decision on whether or not you have this child, it's yours, no one else's. If she can't respect that and keeps insisting on an abortion then you really do need to get away from her negativity. Maybe within time she will become more fond of the idea. Until then you need to just keep your space and pay no attention to what she is saying. I wish you the best of luck sweety.

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Apr 29th, 2009, 13:48 PM	#7
passengerrach Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: stevenage Posts: 2,939	LEAVE NOW lol i could not live with the inlaws now and i got on them with them fine before the baby came trust me they will be much worse once the baby arrives

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Apr 29th, 2009, 14:29 PM	#9
xarlenex Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Bonny Scotland :) Posts: 3,339	If yous are in your own place, and its a case of her nagging at your OH..tell him from now on you dont wanna discuss her 'negativity'..until her attitude changes you would rather stay far from her. It might be shock, she did only find out yesterday..I'd give it a couple weeks and you might find shes changed. Alot of mights there lol But it is a possibility!

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Apr 29th, 2009, 16:50 PM	#10
tasha41 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Hamilton, Canada Posts: 23,921	You guys are both adults & this is your choice, no one else has a say in it. Ignore her calls or something, hopefully she'll realize how silly she's being and come around!

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