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XsarahGrace · Apr 28th, 2009, 09:23 AM

so i haven't been on here in ages, i told my mum she's suprisingly okay with everything however my OH has now decided he think i'm lying doesn't want to be with me, and the baby isn't his, well his the only person i have slept with in two years so unless i can get myself pregnant i told him his stupid.
i sat here in tears all weekend not sure how i'm going to cope and still unsure,
i have to sit and talk with him and my mum tonight and i have no idea what to say.
i was thinking of little things to say,

"I am not expecting you to drop everything for me, if you want to be with me fine but it shouldn’t be because I’m having a baby, you have to learn its not about everyone else though all the stuff everyone else says to try and make things difficult at the end of the day, its about our baby"

i don't know though i know i'll end up crying i just don't want to be without hiim things seem hard.
and also i found out i'm more pregnant then we intenionally thought so i'm 14weeks

leeanne · Apr 28th, 2009, 09:26 AM

I am sorry hon. I hope he does come around. If not, he's being selfish and should own up to his responsibilities.

lissaloo · Apr 29th, 2009, 13:49 PM

you poor thing i hope it all works out for you x

xarlenex · Apr 29th, 2009, 14:33 PM

After two years you'd think he'd love, trust and respect you. Its not like it was a one night stand, he needs to grow up

I hope he gets his act together soon for you and your baby

tasha41 · Apr 29th, 2009, 23:28 PM

I'm so sorry he's being this way. This happened to my friend also.. hope he smartens up and realizes what he's missing out on if he doesn't come around! Good luck with the talk!

Jemma_x · Apr 30th, 2009, 06:50 AM

Im sorry he being like this, i really hope he comes round

kellysays2u · Apr 30th, 2009, 08:13 AM

Hey hun. I am sorry to hear he is being like that. You don't need it at this time but it might just be that the fact he is going to be a father just hit him... He may calm down over time. My OH did. He didn't want me to have the baby but he is completely and utterly in love with her now... Well when shes not screaming our house down for her feeds or cuddles. Let us all know how it goes!

AppleBlossom · Apr 30th, 2009, 08:14 AM

A lot of men don't understand the words commitment and responsibility. He doesn't sound like he's worth the tears hun x

NuKe · Apr 30th, 2009, 14:22 PM

sorry to hear that darlin. he's probably just in shock. if he comes round great! if he doesn't you will do fine by yourself!!! good luck and god bless

Boothh · Apr 30th, 2009, 19:18 PM

dont worry hon, i think alot of OH react this way to some extent,
when i told mine the first think he said was
'are you lying'
i said no do you seriously think id lie about that and he actually had the cheek to say
'well i wouldnt put it past you'
hmph!
this was followed by the first 12weeks of me being pregnant him constantly arguing with me chopping and changing his mind about whether he wanted to be involved, telling me to get rid of the baby and telling me id ruined his life,

he calmed down abit after the first scan, but it still took him til 17weeks to tell his parents and i still havnt met them yet!!

he seems to have got his act together now though and things are really looking up for us, but i still cant help being hurt by the things he did if i think about them,

try not to worry because what will be will be in the end and you'll be fine either way, xxxx

Apr 28th, 2009, 09:23 AM	#1
XsarahGrace Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Southend-on-Sea. Posts: 1,019	:( so i haven't been on here in ages, i told my mum she's suprisingly okay with everything however my OH has now decided he think i'm lying doesn't want to be with me, and the baby isn't his, well his the only person i have slept with in two years so unless i can get myself pregnant i told him his stupid. i sat here in tears all weekend not sure how i'm going to cope and still unsure, i have to sit and talk with him and my mum tonight and i have no idea what to say. i was thinking of little things to say, "I am not expecting you to drop everything for me, if you want to be with me fine but it shouldn’t be because I’m having a baby, you have to learn its not about everyone else though all the stuff everyone else says to try and make things difficult at the end of the day, its about our baby" i don't know though i know i'll end up crying i just don't want to be without hiim things seem hard. and also i found out i'm more pregnant then we intenionally thought so i'm 14weeks

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Apr 28th, 2009, 09:26 AM	#2
leeanne Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: BC, Canada Posts: 26,691	I am sorry hon. I hope he does come around. If not, he's being selfish and should own up to his responsibilities.

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Apr 29th, 2009, 13:49 PM	#3
lissaloo Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 1,162	you poor thing i hope it all works out for you x

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Apr 29th, 2009, 14:33 PM	#4
xarlenex Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Bonny Scotland :) Posts: 3,339	After two years you'd think he'd love, trust and respect you. Its not like it was a one night stand, he needs to grow up I hope he gets his act together soon for you and your baby

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Apr 29th, 2009, 23:28 PM	#5
tasha41 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Hamilton, Canada Posts: 23,921	I'm so sorry he's being this way. This happened to my friend also.. hope he smartens up and realizes what he's missing out on if he doesn't come around! Good luck with the talk!

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Apr 30th, 2009, 06:50 AM	#6
Jemma_x Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 13,382	Im sorry he being like this, i really hope he comes round

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Apr 30th, 2009, 08:13 AM	#7
kellysays2u Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: New Hampshire, US Posts: 1,861	Hey hun. I am sorry to hear he is being like that. You don't need it at this time but it might just be that the fact he is going to be a father just hit him... He may calm down over time. My OH did. He didn't want me to have the baby but he is completely and utterly in love with her now... Well when shes not screaming our house down for her feeds or cuddles. Let us all know how it goes!

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Apr 30th, 2009, 08:14 AM	#8
AppleBlossom Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Liverpool, UK Posts: 25,860	A lot of men don't understand the words commitment and responsibility. He doesn't sound like he's worth the tears hun x

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Apr 30th, 2009, 14:22 PM	#9
NuKe Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: N. Ireland Posts: 13,158	sorry to hear that darlin. he's probably just in shock. if he comes round great! if he doesn't you will do fine by yourself!!! good luck and god bless

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Apr 30th, 2009, 19:18 PM	#10
Boothh Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Huddersfield/Manchester Posts: 6,343	dont worry hon, i think alot of OH react this way to some extent, when i told mine the first think he said was 'are you lying' i said no do you seriously think id lie about that and he actually had the cheek to say 'well i wouldnt put it past you' hmph! this was followed by the first 12weeks of me being pregnant him constantly arguing with me chopping and changing his mind about whether he wanted to be involved, telling me to get rid of the baby and telling me id ruined his life, he calmed down abit after the first scan, but it still took him til 17weeks to tell his parents and i still havnt met them yet!! he seems to have got his act together now though and things are really looking up for us, but i still cant help being hurt by the things he did if i think about them, try not to worry because what will be will be in the end and you'll be fine either way, xxxx

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