Hi, i'll be 19 at the end of this month. i havent really stopped crying and none of this feels real. i dont know what i want. The thought of having an abortion just brings me to tears. I've just(like tuseday) got a flat but its too small for a baby. me and my partner were not trying, this is a compleate accident. i had plans to go back to college and then uni this year. to buy a house for me and my partner to have careers and be married before this happend.
I have a supportive partner(19) and mum, but i know what they both think would be best although they are willing to support me whatever.
I just feel so so confused. i know that it probably would be harder to be a teenage mum, i dont have a career and my partner does not earn that much.
im scared about the changes to my body, i've only just learnt to love it. im scared about the thought of giving birth and how id cope after. but as i said i dont think i could go through with an abortion. i know id be a great mum whether it was now or in ten years, but i know my baby would have a better life if me and my boyfriend got an education and a house.
my mum had me young and my nan had my mum young. i dont want to make the same mistakes as them, and believe me they have made some awful ones. i would really like it if someone else has been in my situation to tell me how they felt, or what is it like to be a teenage mum, would you change that?
sorry that my post is all over the place i suppose i just needed to get it out.

I felt like the earth split open and swallowed me whole as soon as the + appeared.

I'm a great mum, and I could never have had an abortion, but in all honesty, I didn't think it through atall. I never even considered an abortion. I never thought about the fact that I won't be able to pee, eat, sleep, drink, be in pain, without my childs permission for the next few years. People think careers and relationships are the most important things to think about, but they're not. Are you ready to give up everything?

It doesn't sound to me like you are. My opinion on abortion has changed so much since having my daughter. I don't think it's the easy way out anymore. It must be the most devistating and heart breaking thing ever. Honestly, you do what is best for your situation. Think with your head but follow your heart.

Good luck.

It sounds to me like you aren't ready for this baby and as much as I don't believe in abortions I think in some cases, like yours, it may be the best option. There is a probablility that you will be bringing a baby into this world who you might hold resentment for and that isn't fair on you or the child. Then again you could have the baby and it change your mind completely. Only you can make that decision. Good luck whatever you decide x

If i do decide to keep my baby, i would never feel any regret or hold any resentment for him or her, No i am not ready, but i know id do a brilliant job thats whats mainly so confusing. is it hard to go to college once you've had a baby (im not talking straight away maybe a year or so)

It depends. If you live on your own you'll get free child care.

I was 18 when I fell pregnant, 19 when I had my daughter.

I was confilcted on what to do, just like you are now...I was upset and worried. However, I can't exactly tell why, but I just realized I couldn't go through with an abortion, decided to keep her and never ever looked back. Wouldn't change it now for anything...

Don't rush yourself into anything, talk with your boyfriend, talk with your mother... Clearly it's gonna be hard and you need to be aware of all the things you are giving up on.
Especially with your career and education still up in the air.

I don't think this is a situation where there is a wrong answer.

I'm going back to college in september. It would be hard but not impossible. If you're having any doubts about an abortion that's usually a good reason to have a good long think about it with your partner. Abortion never came up when I found out I was pregnant and I kind of rushed into everything. Obviously I don't regret it now but at the time I used to ask myself if I was doing the right thing. It's natural to have doubts and be upset when you wanted to do so much and all of a sudden the world seems to have crashed down around you

Yes, it is very hard. I go to uni (although doing it from home for the first year of my daughters life and going back to classes then).

It's extremely hard but possible. I don't want to sugarcoat it...

I know you'd love your baby and never regret it but be prepared for all the hardships.
It's a very confusing thing, I love my daughter and wouldn't change the fact that she is here for anything but I do wish she had happened a little later in my life.

However I have to say that keeping her was absolutely the best decision for me.

Keep your head high girl. Things will brighten up (:
I felt the same as you did when I found out.
But tomorrow I'll be in my 3rd trimester and I've never been happier in my life.

You have been blessed with a little miracle, and even though it may seem like it's the end of the world. Things DO get better. I promise you.

Hun do what you believe is best for you. Don't do anything rash without really thinking it through but whatever you decide good luck & all the best for the future.