Hi i just thought i would let you know that i was 19 with my first pregnancy the father of the baby was abusive and i had just left the relationship when i found out i was pregnant. I did not have the baby i had an abortion but i had a great DR she helped me and so did my mum and my new partner now my hubby. it was not an easy choice but it was the right one for me. in saying that when i was 21 i found out i was pregnant i was so scared that i was not ready for this baby. i worried about everything money we were only renting and i was scared that we could not cope. but once she arrived all of the worries i had were gone. I love my daughter she is pure evil now (hormonal 8 year old) but she is an amzing gift my hubby and i have with her. I was also worried when i was pregnant with DD #2 she is now 2. i think its a common feeling so dont be scared dont let anyone make the choice for you and look into every option.
good luck

i was 16 when i became pregnant with my daughter and 17 when i gave birth yes it was hard i was in one bedroom with 3 people but 3 months after she was born my boyfriend and i got an apartment for a pretty good price.... i would never go back and change havin my daughter she is light of my life!!!!!! hope this helps

Hi Hun. I Felt Exactly the same as you. But Do what ever is best for you. My hormones were all over the place one min i was crying, and thought my life was over, the next i was over the moon, =] ive just come to terms with the fact yes it was an accident but i (we) should have been more carful, everything happens for a reason, and although your sitting there thinking about the ins and outs try not too because all the worry it worthless trouble is i looked to much into it and ended up getting myself upset. but really things are NOT as bad as they seem!!! lots of people have children at a young age and cope. good luck with whatever you decide to do x

I was browsing the forums and read this. My heart goes out to you

I had an abortion many years ago after finding I was pregnant 3 days after leaving an very abusive relationship. The father was still in my life and I knew a baby would mean him in my life for ever and the baby having to live that kind of life. Not a life I wanted for my baby at all. I had no where to live or any support. I never told anyone I was even pregnant, except the father and he said he wanted nothing to do with it. Of course I knew this would not last. I went and had it done. Even though I feel it was the right choice in some areas, I regret it every day. If you have it done its something you need to think though. Its a pain I would not wish on my worse enemy. And that's not just the physical, but the mental pain. I was mucked up for a LONG time after wards and you will be in a state for months, you'll need support. Its not just a case of "this is the best solution".

It is your body and you can't let anyone outside you influence what *they* think is the best. You may have all these life plans, but perhaps your life was meant to take a different path.

They offer therepy when deciding on an abortion now, please utilize this, let them explain what options are open to you, don't just go on "what you heard" There are so many options out there to help young parents now, free daycare for those at uni included. It does not have to mean a negative future.

Have you heard of an open adoption? I wish I had knew of this option. Basically you'd adopt the baby to a couple, but you'd still be involved in her/his life .. there to see him/her grow but able to know she is being raised by a great couple who can offer all they have.

BIG to you. I hope you make the right choice for you hunny.

Sending you huge hugs.

From what you say, you sound really mature and you will have the support of two important people around you. The fact that you recognise your Mum and Nan's mistakes make any child you have very lucky as you won't replicate what has gone on in your earlier life.

If you have ANY doubt whatsoever about an abortion don't do it.

If you decide to go ahead and have the baby things will work out for you, it may not be the future you had imagined having but very few people have the life they had planned out, sometimes what they end up with is better!

Thinking of you.

Personally, it's not something I would ever have considered, not least becasue through the hospital I've met a lot of women who have had to make this choice. I've never met a mum who regretted her child. I have however met several women who really regret an abortion, and some who are very emotionally disturbed after it. That is not to say all women who have one regret it, but there are definitely some who do, and it's not something you can renege on later...

Hey Hun.
I know just how you feel, but I'm 16, and don't have a partner
It was my first time too, I'm in the same situation and have no idea what to do.
I know I'm not ready however i don't think I could stand off losing "bubble"
One thing most people have been saying to me is that it's got to be your decision,
Sorry I may not be much help but your not the only one out there
It's so hard making that life time decision..
xx