HIya. I'm 17 and 3 weeks ago I found out I was pregnant.

I've been going out with my fiance for over a year and we were happy, we don't have a house and I'm coming to the last few months of my school. He is at college studying hard. I had planned to go to University this year, I applied and got word back so it was all go then I found out I was pregnant.

I was like you and didnt really know what to do or think. I was happy, sad, scared, confused, worried. I made an appointment with the doctors, that helped it seem a bit more real and if I wanted to talk about anything I knew he would give me unbiased advice. Which is a great help. I told a close friend and their automatic reaction was 'get an abortion. You'll ruin your life'. As soon as he said this I knew that abortion wasnt right for me. Personally i don't think I could deal with my own thoughts and feelings if I got one. But that's just me. I know lots of people just now if they got pregnant they would terminate because its the right thing to do for them. It's down to the individual because at the end of the day it's your body and your life. Don't listen to your mum, or your partner. It will be you at the end of the day with a baby, not them. If you think you can do it and thats what you truely want, you do it. And if it's not, don't.

Take some time to yourself and think. That's what I did. I was getting pressured by my parents (still am) to have an abortion, but it just isnt me. Take your time over your decision, don't let anyone rush or pressure you. You don't want to be forced into a wrong choice.

Good Luck, feel free to PM if you want to chat

xxox

I know what you're going through. I've both been through an abortion at 16 when I was in an abusive relationship and now pregnant by my new loving boyfriend. Honestly? Abortion is not something to be taken lightly. Hardest thing I ever did and it took me to not long ago to get over it, I'm not nearly 21. I know now I did the right thing then for the right reasons, young, abusive r'ship, no job, wrong partner but I see now it was right for me at that time.

Now I'm nearly 5 weeks pregnant and extremely worried and anxious and still unsure but I know I'm going to be a great mum.

Its tough but its YOUR decision and no one else can make it. Try and think long term, can you cope with a baby now? Whats most important to you? You have alot of years ahead of you to have a baby and/or career. Everyones situations different, just make your decision for the right reasons.

Good luck babe!

L xxx

I don't know if this helps, but i'm just reading about your situation.

I am 24 married and pregnant.

My hubby nor myself have careers as such, just jobs. I work in shops and he works in an office. Not what either of us want to do.

We didn't plan this baby as we have quite a bit of debt, a really small 1 bed flat which my hubby and i fall over each other in.
And when I found out I was pregnant I was so scared! I didn't have a clue what to do.

But 1 thing I never even considered was an abortion, it took me about a week to get used to the idea, and even now with nearly 7 weeks left, i'm still scared, but determined to make it work. My mum made ALOT of mistakes bringing me up, there was ALOT of stuff that happened to me, and from my eyes I should never have been put in any of them situations, which now makes me even more determined to make this work and NOT make the same mistakes.

All I'm saying is, being 19 or 24, you still can get scared, but it's about what you can put into it that's the most important.

We won't have alot of money for baby, and a small flat, he/she will have to stay in the bedroom with us, but I wouldn't change it for the whole world. I love this little thing more than life it's self and always will.

As long as your baby has food, clothes clean nappy's and the most love in the world, what else does it need??

You can always go to college later, or do a computer course or evening course when your BF is home from work to look after baby etc.

If your determined enough, you can make anything work.

I hope this helps.

Laura and Flump. xx

Hi

11 years ago i was on same situation as you found out i was pregnant, i had no partner around as he did one soon as i found out my parents tried to push me into getting an abortion but i kept my dd and i had my other 2 girls after, ive been back to college still am at college now its is hard work dont get me wrong but it can be done and next yr when this bubs is born im hoping to go to uni.
Hope everything works out 4 you hun xx

Hi hun,
To me, it sounds like u dont think ur ready for a baby, u say theres a lot of things that you want to do first.
I had an abortion and it was the single hardest choice i have had to make in my life- but i wasnt in the right situation to have a baby at the time. Sure i would have coped somehow, but i knew it would have turned my world upside down (n not in a good way), it would have put too much of a strain on my relationship (my oh was sure he didnt want a child yet) and i didnt want to force him, and end up losing him through guilt from either party.
Only you know how you feel about the "moral" side of the abortion option. In my case, i had to put the lives of me and my OH 1st, before the ?week old pregnancy/baby/foetus (whatever u want to call it). Sometimes i regret it (im still baby mad- but it still isnt the right time), and other times- like reading ur post- i realise i made the right decision by putting myself first. The physical aspect of the abortion was much easier than i was expecting too (that was the aspect of the abortion i was most scared of- stupid huh?) no pain after- i just felt like i was having my period.
If you want to know any more about the ins and outs of it, feel free to pm me.
xxx

I'm 17 and i did'nt seem real to be too. I cried lots!

I don't agree with abortions personally especially after I had one at 17 but you've got so many things that you want to do, I get the feeling you'll end up resenting the baby later on in life. You really need to make a list of what you want and what's important to you.

Yeah, you don't sound ready, but I think that, if you want it to, it'll work out. Things may be tough for a while, but you'll be fine... Whatever you choose to do. Just think before you do something... Make sure you'll be okay with the end results.

Good luck!

Do what you feel is best. Personally I couldn't have gone through with an abortion, but I don't go saying to other people if you do your a bad person and things. It's your body and your choice and if you don't feel ready or that you would find it too hard then maybe it would be best to have the abortion and then try when your ready?
You should have a sit down and talk with your boyfriend and maybe a professional like a doctor or counsellor? They might be able to help you a little more?
When I found out the 1st thing I thought was I can't do this but an hour later I changed my mind and decided I couldn't have an abortion.
It was the best decision for me and I haven't regretted it. I go back to college in september as I took a year out. It'll be harder definately but it's not going to be impossible. Theres loads of help available.
Keep us posted
x

have you considered adoption? that may be an option?