I dont know what to do.

I found out I was pregnant and was all happy about it, me and my boyfriend both were.

We told his family and they reacted a lot better than expected and said they would support me either way. I was on a high.

I told my parents because I thought the sooner i tell them the better. It didnt happen like that. My dad went mad. He's telling me to get an abortion over and over again and I had to stay at my brothers house because it just wasnt safe. I was forced to come to a decision on Sunday night, I told them I would get an abortion and burst into tears. I really don't think I want one, but at the same time some of the things they say I can understand since I'm only 17, but not all of them. I think my dad is embarassed. He says I will destroy my family if i go through with this. I havent told them that I havent actually came to a decision. I've been crying and crying and crying and well I think that if i get this upset and just the thought of having an abortion its not the right thing to do?

But I dont feel like I've got a choice with my Dad, he's told me he wont support me and my brother, even though he is understanding is saying it IS a possiblity that I will get casted out. My boyfriend is really happy that I'm expecting and really wants me to keep it, but he understands it's my decision. I just don't know what to do. My Dad says he will tell all my family because he wont be able to keep it a secret, but if I do keep it why can he not keep his mouth shut until I', 12 weeks? I dont want to upset my family for nothing.

I'm at a loss. I'm really scared, and I don't want to break up my family, but I don't really want an abortion. I just dont think I could do it.

Hun
I am so sorry to hear your situation.
My father, growing up, was very abusive and he tried to make me leave my boyfriend. I understand this is different, but he told me I was embarrassing the family because he didnt approve of him. I ended up leaving home with just one carrier bag of clothes and no money and living with my boyfriend and his family. Five years on, and we are married. We both have jobs and we're doing okay.
What I mean is, there must be somewhere you can stay, perhaps at your boyfriends. You sound like having an abortion is not your choice, and if you do go ahead with it, its a huge decision that will impact on the rest of your life.
I hope that you'll realise even though yes you are only 17, that you saying 'it isnt safe' with your dad, means its time to perhaps think about moving in with your boyfriend. xxx

hey hun I am 17 and expecting aswell am 30 weeks and it a wonderful think. just do wat you think is best and you will be ok. xXx

Aww hun what a horrible situation you have been put in.
First off hun you must do what is right by YOU & not anybody else.
Family can overcome shock as many do but you need to decide if you could live with any guilt that may come your way?? As the lady above says, maybe its time to move into your own place with your partner as so much pressure would be taken off your shoulders. Please just do not do it to please others. They are not in your shoes, and do not have to deal with your inner emotions.

All the very best hun xxxx

Please please please do not go ahead with an abortion. You obviously dont want one, and you will regret it for the rest of your life.

Your dad proberly just needs time to cool down and get used to the idea. Is there no-where you can stay for a few days/weeks? At your boyfriends? Give your dad some space.. Tell him it's your decision and although you respect his opinion, you could not get rid of you baby, you and your boyfriend both want to raise the child and you need him to help and support you.

Most parents come around in time and once he sees his grandchild he will be over the moon x

Don't get an abortion you don't want hun. You'll regret it forever.

Your father is being very immature. I'd let him upset everyone, if I were you! Saves you the trouble. They come around eventually in most cases anyway. You just have to stand your ground. Tell him, since the legal age to have sex is 16, so is the legal age to be a mother.

My dad tried to pressure me to have an abortion also.. but ultimately, it's your decision. You have to make it & live with it for the rest of your life, if you don't want it, I don't think it's an option.

Even if your dad tells your whole family, they might not really care; my dad was pissed at first obviously and is a dick still about things but my extended family has been great and really helped me out a lot .. so it makes him behave himself a bit? You also have your boyfriend's family's support, correct? My boyfriend's family has been great.. whenever things get stressful at home or my dad's being a jerk, I know they're going to still be nice to me and it's a place I can sort of get away to.

Good luck hun!

In a Ideal World.........

We would all meet a special man and fall in love, get married, have fabulous jobs and dream homes and lots of money in the bank and nobody would have fertilty problems and have children, but the reality is that none of us live in a Ideal World, we live in reality....and this baby is your reality, not your Dads....do what's right for you, in both your heart and in you head!

im not a teen but i had my 5yr old when i was 18 (preg 17) i did not tell my parents i was preg till i was 5 months because i knew they would try and make me have a abortion that i did not want. they say things that sound harsh like they will disown you but when they know u are not going to give in im sure they will come round. my parents adore my little girl and have said they are glad i kept it a secret coz she best think thats happened in the family. as for the shame on the family your not the only 17 yrear old to get preg n not the last. its your decission not your parents so do what you want. my daughter is the best thing that has ever happened to me and if my family did not speak to me because of her i wouldnt care. x

aww hun please dont have an abortion! i can tell you realy realy dont want too and if u did you would regret it forever! Seriously think this through before you make any decisons! I cant really say what too do regarding your dad but if your OH's family are happy and will support you all i can say is let them help you through the hard times for now your dad will come round sooner or later xx