Snowball

I always thought that losing Beau affected me more than my DH. I spent months crying constantly (I still do from time to time) and as far as I know he didn't cry once. I'm not saying I didn't think it affected him, obviously it did but sometimes when I've been sitting crying my eyes out and looked up at him and he's totally not paying attention and watching the tv I just got the feeling that he never really thinks of him.

He came home from work tonight and was talking about getting his tattoos finished for the kids. Suddenly he mentioned that he's getting one for Beau on his arm!

It's made me feel all emotional. He never talks about him so for him to be getting a tattoo for him means more than he can ever say I think. I don't want to say I'm happy that he obviously misses him but it's so comforting knowing that I'm not the only one who thinks about our little boy

babytots

aww how lovely hun its so nice when they show that they think about our angels as much as we do. like your dh my df never showed emotion and i would find myself crying alone because i felt that although he would comfort me he wouldnt show me he was hurting too.

he got a tattoo in memory of jessica which was lovely and also i found out that at work when he was having a disciplinary at work he broke down in front of his bosses as jessicas due date was coming up. for him to actually remember was lovely as he is useless with remembering dates such as birthdays and anniversaries so to find out he had not only cried but remembered made me feel relieved that he did care just wish he would show that emotion to me. x

Linzi

Thats lovely hun Men seem to deal with things in very peculiar ways sometimes, and I think they feel they have to be strong for us.

You'll have to get some pics up when he decideds what he's having x

Snowball

Aw bless him for breaking down. My DH has said to me in the past that he's felt he's had to be strong for me and I think a lot of men try and take that approach.

I will get him to get pics of it as soon as it's done. He's got half of his arm done already and originally he was going to have the rest filled in with just tribal but he's getting quite a biggish design from what he said for Beau.

I'm going to get one done for him in the new year too. I really want to get one on my wrist with his name and DOB.