lisa_33

sorry i just need to get this out somewhere.
when i lost maisie my eyes have been really opened to the reality of baby loss, sadly i know some of it is unpreventable. but what about the ones that are not?
you do hear about babies dieing due to failure in our hospitals, mainly down to staff shortages, bed shortages and so on. but what about our babies who are lost due to staff failing to do there jobs properly? why isnt the reality of that publicised! on here and all over the place we read each others stories, midwifes didnt listen or belive them and it results in babies being lost.
when i had my massive bleed at home, i was so relieved to get to hospital the ambulance seemed to take ages, but i got there, a place of saftey and my baby was still alive. to then lie there knowing in myself that her only chance was to be deliverd asap. a roomful of people, looking as if they didnt have a clue what to do...while i am in tears begging them to get my daughter out. watching a baby on the monitor for 1 hour and 45 minutes as her heart got weaker and weaker. it was a slow drop, there was plenty of time to save her but they didnt not untill it stopped.
it didnt take me long to find out what should have been done in mycase of placental abruption, what guidlines and protcols shouldve been followed so why do the staff keep getting away with ignoring these. is it just a case of wait and see, or are they just so incompitent? 1 minute can make the difference of life and death with an abruption, they had 1 hour 45 to so its so wrong. i am constantly haunted by the words of the midwife monitoring me, telling me we have to be ready to run to theatre...surley at this point it was clear to do so. i was in a new £20 million maternity hospital, with aparantly all the equitment, theatres and staff needed to deal with emergancies. but i have just to accept staff change overs was probably what caused the problem??(poor handovers)
theres to much, how many die because they just didnt bother to do scans, check positions of babies...take note of lack of movements, proper heart tracings or when a simple case of antibiotics would have been all thats needed. there are so many preventable horror stories, and alot of them are down to negligence, not lack of funds!!
i dont want compensation from the nhs fund, i want people to pay properly for there mistakes, people to know exactly what goes on in our hospitals and things to change!
im sorry i hate these people so much, everyone who has lost there child should leave the hospital feeling as though they done what they could, not knowing that they helped cause your baby to die!!
xxxx

jess_smurf

i know how you feel they just dont seem to care they ripped your whole world apart do they ?

i am slowly giving up x

lisa_33

nah they dont care at all jess, i am still waiting on the results of my seriuos incident report, but they keep giiving me dates then excuses...the latest one being the last doctor to be interviewed is now working in a different hospital in another part of scotland and is currently out of the country on annual leave. its discusting to think she is having a nice holiday, after letting my little angel die xx

Lexi mummy

im so sorry this has happened to you. i feel so angry about this, they should of bloody done something sooner. i feel the NHS almost look at losing a baby as "oh well you can have another" but it doesnt work that way. each baby is unique and a proper person that is important. i wish they did more and tried to help more. my story is very different to yours. however my little girl slowed right down in movements for a good few weeks before she died and they just ignored me when i told them i was concerned. xxx

Tasha

The hugest understanding hugs hun. My little girl died because of the NHS, so many people failed her, I have seen from a number of experts since that they failed in there duty of care for my daughter. They spent 8 long weeks not following guidelines, protocol and correct procedures, they then treated me like sh*t once she had been born, and again breeched there duty of care by emailing me her post mortem photos. I hate them, and hate the fact that it seems to be okay to hide behind the title of a doctor/midwife.

I am so sorry for all you have been through hun, it is so tough knowing that someone somewhere could of done something and saved our little ones

v2007

Its a f**king joke isnt it??!!

Taylor died because i was sent home becasue they didnt have the tme to section me.

I went back 48 hours later and she was dead, all i got was a sorry.

V xxxx

lisa_33

thanks so much girls,
it just hurts so much, to begin with i was under the impression her little heart stopped suddenly but to see her tracings and see her deteriorate for so long is heart breaking. she was nearly so lucky, she fought so hard was such strong chubby little thing that only needed a gasp of air.only needed to be brought into the world. they made so many mistakes that its unbelivable.
tasha maybe when you are able to and have time could you maybe msg me with what happened...if not i totally understand. why did they email you her post mortem pictures? im so sorry, that sends shivers down my spine hunny xxx

lisa_33

SORRY!! there are somethings that a sorry is acceptable for...but not for that!!
its disgusting....the couple of times i have spoken with the woman heading our investigation, she has said that she cant tell me anything at this stage but she feels im owed a huge apology by them as they got it wrong. i feel as though our babies are just numbers, its a kind of well you win some you lose some and thats just how it goes attitude from the nhs
xxx

serina27

It takes the piss with Hope they told me I wasnt in labour was sending me home and i broke down and explained the monitor didnt pick up my contractions in my last labour ...12 hrs later Hope was born to early ...if only they had believed me they could of tried to prevent it ...they could of put the drip on ....then my last pregnancy i stated i thought i was leaking waters was told this is your 5th pregnancy your bladder will be weaker ...no check no fuck all ...only bcos i have small babies i had a growth scan at 36 wks and guess what next to no water 2.3 levels ...and do they deliver no they monitor me daily and deliver at 37 wks bcos its term then that morning the senior registar says this is gunna end in section ...i say give me one now i get you have delivered naturally 4 times before we have to try ...13 hrs later destressef baby born not breathing via emergnacy section ...they saved her but what if .... i coudnt of coped if i had lost her they knew my history and still took a gamble on my babies life ....sorry i went on but your right they dont care xxx

Tasha

V so many I know your story and it still breaks my heart for you

Serina, I have never heard Hope's story before I am so sorry they didnt listen to you, all to often they dont claiming Mum's dont know what they are talking about and they are 'professionals' etc, I am also really sorry for what you went through last time too, my youngest was born by emergency c-section due to distress too, a very traumatic experience

Lisa you right sorry isnt enough, they shouldnt of made these mistakes I will send you a pm now x