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Old Nov 19th, 2009, 14:03 PM   #1
babyell
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It's 1pm and I havn't cried (so far).


Every day since we have lost harry I have cried my heart out, nothing sets it off it just flows. Everyday I have taken my kids to school, and ran home because I had the overwhelming urge to cry and have sat on the couch crying for hours asking God all questions, such as why us, what did we do, why couldnt I keep hold of my little boy, was it because I said I didnt want him once? so many questions that will never be answered. Keep telling myself It was one of those things. Last 6 months seem like a dream. Sometimes I try to convince myself that I was never pregnant, and it is June, I have just had implant removed and waiting to try. But then I feel bad for trying to erase Harry from my memory. I'm not sure if things are getting better or if I am just having a 'good day' today. Just looking forward. Gonna try and give my girls a good xmas, and hopefully we will be blessed with a BFP soon.
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Old Nov 19th, 2009, 14:25 PM   #2
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Everything you are going through is a part of the grieving process and you just look at it as so far today has been a OK day And if you do cry today so be it, you have every right too!
Thinking of you and best of luck
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Old Nov 19th, 2009, 14:37 PM   #3
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I had days where i would think i was holding it together then i would just let it all out

I am so sorry you have to go this if i could take your pain i would x let it all out, talk to us about anything you want to. time is a healer but you feel nothing will ever be better and for a while it wont

are you having a service for harry ? if you any help information or guidance let us know there will be someone here for

no reason why you cant try for another baby everyone has on here i promise that everyone has felt exactly the same.

I know you miss him and nothing i can do can stop it hurting, have you asked for counselling to help, I have mine and it helps just to say it all out aloud sometimes typing didnt help me

all my love x
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Old Nov 19th, 2009, 15:49 PM   #4
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Old Nov 19th, 2009, 15:52 PM   #5
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You're normal sweetheart! Don't think that because you're not crying doesn't mean you don't love Harry! And don't blame yourself. I know it's hard because we all do but Harry was needed in heaven! The first couple of days after loosing Chloe I couldn't stop crying and then I went numb and couldn't feel anything. That's when I made the mistake of going back to work. Once I was back at work my feelings came back and were 10 times worse. Give yourself time to greive honey. If you need any advice about anything let me know and I'll see if I can help!

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Old Nov 21st, 2009, 13:17 PM   #6
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You will have days where you cry all day and days where you feel almost "normal" again but whatever you feel is completely natural. We're all here for you no matter what.
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