Jemma_x

Dont really want to go into to much because im so upset but someone who is meant to be a really good friend told me to get over it. How am i meant to get over losing my daughter? She was my first born, my everything and im meant to get over it.

Sorry for the little rant but i just needed to let it out

lisa_33

hi hunny,
i dont understand why people are so cruel, and so stupid to think that its something you can just get over...it really angers me. there nothing harder in life to face than losing your child, people just dont seem to get that. i think we have all faced people like this, and its very hurtfull. i hope your okay xxx

meldmac

I'm so sorry she/he was so insensitive. I've had a few pretty insensitive comments too and they are hurtful. I just had to walk away otherwise I would have said some things that I would have regretted later.

Snowball

The person I thought was my best friend more or less said the same to me a few months after Beau died. She said something along the lines of, 'I would have thought that giving since it happened in March (it was actually April) you would be over it by now'. After that conversation I cut contact with her. She'd been my best friend for years, I even had her as my head bridesmaid. I suppose when something horrible happens it shows us who our true friends are

Lexi mummy

im so sorry they were so cruel. you will NEVER get over losing your child ever. this is with all of us for life. i wish people who havent lost a child could keep horrible opinions to themselvers.

princess_bump

oh honey i cannot begin to imagine what you've been through, and i'm so sorry someone said this to you, certainly not a friend xxx

mammy_to_be

babytots

oh hunni how insensitive!!!! no wonder its upset you. you simply cannot "get over it" this pain will be with you for the rest of your life any mummy to an angel will never get over it.

sending you massive if someone ever said that to me they would wish they didnt lol. x

dippy dee

Aww hun big hugs to you, i know your little angel means the world to you and she always will, i'm always here for you xx

Nosy_Cow

Some people just don't know the pain of loosing a child. My closest friend lost her baby at 13 weeks in April. It was a missed miscarriage. Her baby had died at 6 weeks and at the time I was 10 weeks pregnant with Chloe. I didn't know what to do or what to say. The first thing most people think of is "Well it was for the best!" I don't think I actually said that but I think I kept saying "I don't know what to say!" It was hard for her because she wanted to be strong for me!

Then we found out Chloe was poorly at my 21 week scan and lost her at 25 weeks. It was devastating and I knew exactly what I should have done for her back then. But then we talk about it now and I look back and I was there for her most days when she was feeling down. I helped her to the toilet when she was bleeding heavy (she developed an infection afterwards) brought her prescriptions to her. And she did the same for me when I lost Chloe.

I guess what I'm trying to say is your friend has obviously never been through anything like you have. Although my friend lost her baby early on in her pregnancy she still knew the pain of loosing a child and that's what helped us through together. We're both angel mummy's together and I'm lucky I have that.

Don't take it to heart. Loosing a child is something you never get over! You'll always remember her and now she has a little prince to take care of from heaven. She'll always look after you and Connor. Ignore natsy comments from people who don't understand - just walk away from them!