Feeling quite isolated - Page 2

oldermummy · Dec 29th, 2009, 05:01 AM

Hi, it is difficult if your child has difficulties getting them out and amongst their peers, my son is being assessed for autistic spectrum and I was referred to a place called the toy library, i believe they have them dotted around the country, they are like a play group for pre school children with all types of special needs. They only have about 3 children per session and have a nursery nurse for each child. I am sure there should be something similar in your area, get in touch with your health visitor and see what she can suggest1 Good luck

Mumof42009 · Dec 29th, 2009, 14:37 PM

I wanted to send you

Tegan is gorgeous i wouldn't care what other people think sod them every child is unique and different in one way or other it would be a boring world if we were all the same! xx

Midnight_Fairy · Dec 30th, 2009, 05:07 AM

do you have any sure start centres near you hun?

littlekitten8 · Dec 30th, 2009, 07:48 AM

Hey hun just wanted to give you massive hugs. We have a place around here (can't remember the name off the top of my head) which is a soft play place just for kids with special needs. I went to the one back at home as part of my nurse training and it was brilliant. Even had its own outdoor play area for the older kids. I will look for it when James is fed and asleep and let you know what its called.

Tegans Mama · Dec 30th, 2009, 08:39 AM

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Originally Posted by EmzyMathRuby

do you have any sure start centres near you hun?

We do, and we've tried them. People seem to think its ok to let their children stand all over Tegan. It makes me so mad. Because she's disabled she's seen as less important.

Midnight_Fairy · Dec 31st, 2009, 13:09 PM

Oh thats a shame.

I kind of know how you feel but in a different way. My child was always the one that the other parents disliked! While the other children played nicely my son wouldnt interact and would bite or hit when frustrated. He was the only one out of the august babys thatw asnt talking etc I knew there was more to it then naughtyness but whilst diagnosis was going on I was made to feel like an outsider. I just gave up going in the end.

Its such a shame that people are so judgemental.

I ended up not taking him anywhere to be honest as he used to be a total pain and it was far easier just me and him.

He is at school now and it makes it alot easier. I do look back and feel like I was pushed out of all the parenting groups though

Pyrrhic · Dec 31st, 2009, 13:12 PM

I am so sorry you're finding things lonely in RL

You are such a wonderful person, you really don't deserve to feel this way.

Is there a special needs parenting group in your local area? If so, it might be an idea to join. I'm such a place like a soft play area would be happy to set aside an area on a quiet day of the week.

If there's not a group, have you thought about making one? There are probably quite a few Mummies feeling the same way as you

Mamafy · Dec 31st, 2009, 15:00 PM

I have nothing to add hun, it's awful how some people have so little regard

Tegan is absolutely beautiful, here for you

Tegans Mama · Jan 1st, 2010, 06:51 AM

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Originally Posted by rafwife

I am so sorry you're finding things lonely in RL

You are such a wonderful person, you really don't deserve to feel this way.

Is there a special needs parenting group in your local area? If so, it might be an idea to join. I'm such a place like a soft play area would be happy to set aside an area on a quiet day of the week.

If there's not a group, have you thought about making one? There are probably quite a few Mummies feeling the same way as you

Thankyou hun

It just feels kinda like hitting your head against a brick wall, Our town is a big town but we live very close (but not close enough for frequent trips

Unless we've got a hospital appointment for Tegan) to a big city, which is where all the groups are held. Since neither of us drive, although I am learning this year thankfully, its hard to get anywhere.

Thanks Mamafy, its nice to know I have somewhere to go when I feel a bit crappy

helen1234 · Jan 1st, 2010, 07:00 AM

have you go a sure start centre near you, they have sensory rooms etc, i bet she'd love that ours has soft play room in there too.

http://childrenscentresfinder.direct...mshire+Rutland

here's the list of east midland ones

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oldermummy Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 69	Hi, it is difficult if your child has difficulties getting them out and amongst their peers, my son is being assessed for autistic spectrum and I was referred to a place called the toy library, i believe they have them dotted around the country, they are like a play group for pre school children with all types of special needs. They only have about 3 children per session and have a nursery nurse for each child. I am sure there should be something similar in your area, get in touch with your health visitor and see what she can suggest1 Good luck

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Mumof42009 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Somewhere over the rainbow Posts: 3,668	I wanted to send you Tegan is gorgeous i wouldn't care what other people think sod them every child is unique and different in one way or other it would be a boring world if we were all the same! xx

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Midnight_Fairy Other BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: South Coast UK Posts: 17,320	do you have any sure start centres near you hun?

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littlekitten8 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Bristol Posts: 2,298	Hey hun just wanted to give you massive hugs. We have a place around here (can't remember the name off the top of my head) which is a soft play place just for kids with special needs. I went to the one back at home as part of my nurse training and it was brilliant. Even had its own outdoor play area for the older kids. I will look for it when James is fed and asleep and let you know what its called.

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Midnight_Fairy Other BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: South Coast UK Posts: 17,320	Oh thats a shame. I kind of know how you feel but in a different way. My child was always the one that the other parents disliked! While the other children played nicely my son wouldnt interact and would bite or hit when frustrated. He was the only one out of the august babys thatw asnt talking etc I knew there was more to it then naughtyness but whilst diagnosis was going on I was made to feel like an outsider. I just gave up going in the end. Its such a shame that people are so judgemental. I ended up not taking him anywhere to be honest as he used to be a total pain and it was far easier just me and him. He is at school now and it makes it alot easier. I do look back and feel like I was pushed out of all the parenting groups though

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Pyrrhic Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 14,567	I am so sorry you're finding things lonely in RL You are such a wonderful person, you really don't deserve to feel this way. Is there a special needs parenting group in your local area? If so, it might be an idea to join. I'm such a place like a soft play area would be happy to set aside an area on a quiet day of the week. If there's not a group, have you thought about making one? There are probably quite a few Mummies feeling the same way as you

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Mamafy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 7,536	I have nothing to add hun, it's awful how some people have so little regard Tegan is absolutely beautiful, here for you

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