ADHD / Aspergers / Autism - Page 2

kittylady · Jan 25th, 2010, 15:25 PM

Hi, I have AD/HD and aspergers syndrome diagnosed at 11 and 13 respectively. Aspergers is on the spectrum but its not autism which can have learning difficulties which aspergers people don't tend to have. It is not 'naughty children' I have never had problems with my school or got a detention, although it exhibits itself differently in the female population. My mother found that she could control my condition through diet and I try to have no processed or little sugary foods and completely cut out fizzy drinks.
I have heard there is a 25% chance of passing it down to future generations if it is genetic and scientists are trying to discover the genes responsible. If you have any questions feel free to ask. I think I got my AD/HD from my Dad's side and my Aspergers from my mothers side (though she doesn't have it herself)

Justagirlxx · Jan 25th, 2010, 19:09 PM

They haven't proved either way that Autism is genetic hun so I wouldn't worry too much.

IMO with 1 out of 150 children being Austism spectrum, how can it be genetic? I have never met one autistic person in my generation (obviously showing there were much less). Autism rates have literally exponentially increased, to me this proves their must be another cause.

morri · Jan 26th, 2010, 02:59 AM

Well you maybe didnt know they were on the spectrum, tThere are a lot of undiagnosed adults out there.It is not exactly genetic as with syndromes, but it is genetic in the case if your dad and grandad had already features that are common in Asperger, then it is more likely to accumulate into later generations.

Justagirlxx · Jan 27th, 2010, 22:50 PM

yeah you definitely have a point that maybe they are underdiagnosed until recently. but still, my generation it was was 1 out of every 20,000///even if it were 50% greater than that would be 1 out of ever 10,000 // which would mean every single autistic person would have had to produce over 100 children each and pass it down to every single one of them to have the statistic we have now. (my math is off but you get the idea) im just saying they havent proved its not due to environmental factors which i think must be the case!!

bodacious · Jan 27th, 2010, 23:07 PM

They really have no idea what causes it. Theories range from something in vaccines to mercury in fish to even a type of genetic abnormality similar to what causes down syndrome, although obviously not trisomy 21. Even if it does end up being at least partially genetic, there's no point worrying about it. It will likely be years before you ever find out, and like someone mentioned earlier, it will cause you to miss out. Even if your baby does turn out to have some form of autism, its not the end of the world. You won't love him any less. Just try not to worry about and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and your baby.

rubyt · Apr 25th, 2010, 17:40 PM

Hi there,

I hope you don't mind me joining in here. I've been pretty sure that my partner has Aspergers for some time now, the more I read on it, the more it matches some of his more bizarre behaviours. It's not an easy relationship and I have often thought of leaving because of his rigidity and rages. I'm now pregnant, 15 weeks, and full of very mixed up feelings. I'm thrilled to be pregnant but so so scared that this baby will have Aspergers too. I know this is a terrible thing to say but I'm scared I won;t be able to bond with a child with Aspergers. Living with my partner is sooo difficult at times. How will I ever cope with possibly 2 people with this condition, the impact it will have on my life makes me terrified. Then I feel so horrid for having such bad thought about my baby. Please if anyone has any advice or words of sense to help me get my head round this. I feel terrible to have these bad feelings towards my unborn baby but if it carries on like my partner, it will be so very very hard.

JASMAK · Apr 25th, 2010, 19:53 PM

I think that it is caused by environmental factors such as pesticides and air pollutions. There may be a genetic link that predisposes a person, but I think that something "triggers" that. I am avoiding pesticides...kind of hard to avoid air pollutions.

Midnight_Fairy · Apr 26th, 2010, 05:06 AM

I wouldnt worrying about bonding with your child hun. I think you and your child willhave a fabulous relationship. I know I do with my son x

rubyt · Apr 26th, 2010, 16:19 PM

Thanks both for your replies. Had a difficult weekend with my partner and spent too long on the internet last night and started to tie myself up into knots.

Emzymathruby, your words were exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you! I know I will love this baby no matter what and it's reassuring to know you have such a lovely bond with your son. Was there a genetic link that you knew about or was it just a random thing?

Midnight_Fairy · Apr 27th, 2010, 07:14 AM

Well after looking into family history we have found that my cousins have ADHD and a distant relative with autism but nothing close linked really so it almost came out of no where.

I find my son more loving than alot of boys his age. I think its just because he needs me more kind of thing. They do test you (alot!) lol and push you to the limit but you know they are not doing it on purpose and you will get that rush of love. I know alot of parents of ASD children have AMAZING bonds x

Jan 25th, 2010, 15:25 PM	#11
kittylady Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Birmingham, UK Posts: 1,180	Hi, I have AD/HD and aspergers syndrome diagnosed at 11 and 13 respectively. Aspergers is on the spectrum but its not autism which can have learning difficulties which aspergers people don't tend to have. It is not 'naughty children' I have never had problems with my school or got a detention, although it exhibits itself differently in the female population. My mother found that she could control my condition through diet and I try to have no processed or little sugary foods and completely cut out fizzy drinks. I have heard there is a 25% chance of passing it down to future generations if it is genetic and scientists are trying to discover the genes responsible. If you have any questions feel free to ask. I think I got my AD/HD from my Dad's side and my Aspergers from my mothers side (though she doesn't have it herself)

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Jan 25th, 2010, 19:09 PM	#12
Justagirlxx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Connecticut, USA Posts: 2,989	They haven't proved either way that Autism is genetic hun so I wouldn't worry too much. IMO with 1 out of 150 children being Austism spectrum, how can it be genetic? I have never met one autistic person in my generation (obviously showing there were much less). Autism rates have literally exponentially increased, to me this proves their must be another cause.

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Jan 26th, 2010, 02:59 AM	#13
morri Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Hamburg(Germany) Posts: 6,135	Well you maybe didnt know they were on the spectrum, tThere are a lot of undiagnosed adults out there.It is not exactly genetic as with syndromes, but it is genetic in the case if your dad and grandad had already features that are common in Asperger, then it is more likely to accumulate into later generations.

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Jan 27th, 2010, 22:50 PM	#14
Justagirlxx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Connecticut, USA Posts: 2,989	yeah you definitely have a point that maybe they are underdiagnosed until recently. but still, my generation it was was 1 out of every 20,000///even if it were 50% greater than that would be 1 out of ever 10,000 // which would mean every single autistic person would have had to produce over 100 children each and pass it down to every single one of them to have the statistic we have now. (my math is off but you get the idea) im just saying they havent proved its not due to environmental factors which i think must be the case!!

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Jan 27th, 2010, 23:07 PM	#15
bodacious Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Missouri Posts: 335	They really have no idea what causes it. Theories range from something in vaccines to mercury in fish to even a type of genetic abnormality similar to what causes down syndrome, although obviously not trisomy 21. Even if it does end up being at least partially genetic, there's no point worrying about it. It will likely be years before you ever find out, and like someone mentioned earlier, it will cause you to miss out. Even if your baby does turn out to have some form of autism, its not the end of the world. You won't love him any less. Just try not to worry about and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and your baby.

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Apr 25th, 2010, 17:40 PM	#16
rubyt Pregnant (Expecting) New BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 6	Hi there, I hope you don't mind me joining in here. I've been pretty sure that my partner has Aspergers for some time now, the more I read on it, the more it matches some of his more bizarre behaviours. It's not an easy relationship and I have often thought of leaving because of his rigidity and rages. I'm now pregnant, 15 weeks, and full of very mixed up feelings. I'm thrilled to be pregnant but so so scared that this baby will have Aspergers too. I know this is a terrible thing to say but I'm scared I won;t be able to bond with a child with Aspergers. Living with my partner is sooo difficult at times. How will I ever cope with possibly 2 people with this condition, the impact it will have on my life makes me terrified. Then I feel so horrid for having such bad thought about my baby. Please if anyone has any advice or words of sense to help me get my head round this. I feel terrible to have these bad feelings towards my unborn baby but if it carries on like my partner, it will be so very very hard.

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Apr 25th, 2010, 19:53 PM	#17
JASMAK Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: May 2008 Location: CANADA!!! Posts: 10,938	I think that it is caused by environmental factors such as pesticides and air pollutions. There may be a genetic link that predisposes a person, but I think that something "triggers" that. I am avoiding pesticides...kind of hard to avoid air pollutions.

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Apr 26th, 2010, 05:06 AM	#18
Midnight_Fairy Other BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: South Coast UK Posts: 17,320	I wouldnt worrying about bonding with your child hun. I think you and your child willhave a fabulous relationship. I know I do with my son x

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Apr 26th, 2010, 16:19 PM	#19
rubyt Pregnant (Expecting) New BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Posts: 6	Thanks both for your replies. Had a difficult weekend with my partner and spent too long on the internet last night and started to tie myself up into knots. Emzymathruby, your words were exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you! I know I will love this baby no matter what and it's reassuring to know you have such a lovely bond with your son. Was there a genetic link that you knew about or was it just a random thing?

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Apr 27th, 2010, 07:14 AM	#20
Midnight_Fairy Other BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: South Coast UK Posts: 17,320	Well after looking into family history we have found that my cousins have ADHD and a distant relative with autism but nothing close linked really so it almost came out of no where. I find my son more loving than alot of boys his age. I think its just because he needs me more kind of thing. They do test you (alot!) lol and push you to the limit but you know they are not doing it on purpose and you will get that rush of love. I know alot of parents of ASD children have AMAZING bonds x

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