MommyTammyPA

Hi girls! I have been becoming increasingly worried about my son's behavior. He is only two years old. I work with children & i teach child development to teen moms, so i am very familiar with typical two year old bahavior. But, as a first time mom of a toddler it's very different than all the things i have "learned" in college or in text books.

Ever since my son started walking at 12 months, he has been unmanageable! He is always in motion! He has difficulty sitting still, and following socially acceptable rules. He has never been a "lap kid." Even at 13months old he was climbing all over chairs & tables in doctor's office waiting rooms. I have tried so many times to take him to community events, library events, music classes, kid's gym classes, etc....... but it is always a disaster! He does not follow any rules, runs down hallways, runs out of the room, knocks things over, dumps anything he can get his hands on, etc.... rather than focus on the activity at hand. When he is verbally disciplined he either laughs or completely ignores me and continues the negative behaviors. If i physically try to stop him from doing something, he throws himself on the floor and tantrums.

He is now almost 28 months old, and can not be trusted around other kids. I need to be right on him at all times or he is pushing, shoving, grabbing toys, or tackling other kids to the ground. He has never been a biter or anything like that... but he is very impulsive and just grabs whatever toy he wants or gets into a brawl if he wants what another kid has.

I know some of his behaviors are "typical two year old" behaviors.... but every time we are around other kids it is painfully obvious that his behaviors are to the extreme, compared to the other kid's his age. His daycare teachers often times tell me he has "grabby hands" or was acting aggressively.

I have tried 1-2-3 magic, i use time-outs, i use rewards & revoke privliges, i talk to him ahead of time about how i expect him to act on outtings, i praise him for positive behaviors, etc. It just seems he can't control himself sometimes... like he has too much evergy, or has impulsive urges!

Is it silly to have a two-year-old evaluated for ADHD? Would people think i'm crazy??

Any thoughts would be appreciated!

Tegans Mama

I don't have much to say, since I have no experience with children with ADHD but I hope he doesn't have it.

babyblue14

he's still very young, i'd see how he goes. far too many children are labelled these days.
i speak from experience xx

MommyTammyPA

Hr.lr - Is your little Tegan a boy or a girl? I absolutely love that name!

Babyblue - I love your tattoo, very cool!

Thanks for your replies!

asacia

I wouldn't worry to be honest. It all sounds very similar to me as a child, especially the climbing, I definitely don't have ADHD. While he might be on the more hyperactive side of normal, I don't think that, given his age, there is a problem.

kk1981

Sounds simular to my son, the closer he got to 3 the more he listened, from about 2yr 6 month he would actually stay on the naughty chair. He has a speech delay so his understanding was also delayed so the more he learns to communicate the more i am able to control him.
He has always played nice and its only recently he he has decided to snatch and push.
I also found a structered day works, and made sure rountines were kept in check, and things like sitting at the table when eating, then plate goes away when leaves table after asking if he had finished. Sometimes consistancy is the key but you have to keep at it.
Try one set of rules punishments ie naughty chair with 2 warnings and your out.
Waiting is still a NO NO! doctors surgeries etc no go areas lol, will let you know how the dentist goes as thats next on the TO do list!

You could also contact you HV or GP.

MommyTammyPA

Thanks KK - i keep hoping it will get easier as he gets older and as he cognitively can understand more! My son has a language delay as well and is receiving speech therapy. We just attempted holiday pictures over the weekend... what a disaster! And we also have our 1st dentist appointment scheduled... this wednesday... i can only imagine how this is gonna go!

Thanks for the advice on structure... my son really needs structure and routine or he gets all out of whack! I am good with routines as far as bedtime, naptime, night-time routine, etc... but i am not very structured as far as sitting at the table to eat, having him clean up his toys, etc. That's def something i need to work on!

xxxjacxxx

Hi, he sounds just like my boy did at 2. My DS started seeing a child pyscologist(sp) at the age of 2 1/2 for various reasons. It was mentioned at the time about ADHD but told me in no uncertain terms would they diagnose him with anything so young.
It took them until he turned 6 to properly diagnose him, apparently they will not diagnose ADHD before this age.
He only went onto medication to go to high school as we worried about hos he would cope with the change in routine, new faces, peer pressure..everything you would normally have fears about satrting high schiool, but on a higher level for a child with ADHD.

My advice would be to discuss your concerns with HV and even your doctor and if you feel strongly about it maybe push to be referred to a child pysc.

Good Luck, I know how you feel!

Tegans Mama

She's a girl Sorry I didnt notice you'd replied until now!

amylk87

ADHD in itself is open for discussion. What the doctors look at to diagnose ADHD, its just a list of things normal children do. Some examples i found online:
* Seems not to listen to what is said to him or her.
* Avoids tasks like homework that require sustained mental effort.
* Easily distracted.
* Forgetful in the course of daily activities.
Hmm sounds like alot of children to me... I might be being biased as i'm studying social work and we get taught the social model opposed to the medical model, so when behaviour is diagnosed as a disease, it just doesnt fit right with me.
I hope your son is OK, good luck x