rae05

So I'm feeling sort of sad for my baby today. So far, everything about Adam has just been him being an ass and being his own selfish self. It just kind of really hit me that she isn't going to have a dad. I mean, how the hell do you explain to a child why everyone else has a dad and she doesn't? She's going to miss out on so much. I mean, I love my dad and I have no idea how I could even imagine my childhood without him being a central part of it. It makes me really sad that she isn't going to be able to experience that.

He's such an asshole and I just don't understand how someone could just abandon their child. It isn't his life or my life he's making difficult - its hers. I'm so angry with him today in an entirely different way than I was before.

wantababybump

I didnt know what else to say so I just wanted to give you hugs hun. xo

~ Vicky ~

I feel exactly the same, so you're not alone chick. I'm so happy with my decision to not have Gav involved, but I often feel that's selfish of me (when it's what he really wants).

Think of it like this.. Penelope is going to benefit SO much more from her life with her Mom who loves her more than anything and would do anything for her, than she would with a Mom and Dad who can't stand to be around each other, hate each other, and Dad is only there because he *has* to be.

You never know Rae, you might not go for long before you find another guy who is willing to take on you AND Penelope and he'll be a better Dad than Adam could ever be.

codegirl

I agree with Vicky, you don't know that by the time P asks the question about her dad she might HAVE a dad in her life.

Just take it one day at a time gf, one day at a time.

thelilbump

You are gonna b an ace mum rae n when penelope is old enough to undertsand she will know everything you've ever done is in her best interest (not that she'd prob admit it haha). If Adam doesn't wanna be involved thats his look out. there are lots of kids out there in single parent families and most of them are probably better off

Moulder86

Yea it is hard, I wonder how I'm going to explain to Max why his daddy doesn't want much if anything to do with him but spends regular time with his half brother. I suppose it's one of those things where 'you'll cross that bridge when it comes to it'.

And like Vicky said she may have a dad by the time that question needs answering.

xx

Baby-Love

I didn't have a father present and in all honesty, I never felt I missed out at all.
I asked questions as to why I didn't have a Daddy like my friends..my Mum just told me I was born to be loved by everyone not just a Mummy and Daddy. That I am still lucky as some children don't have any parents. I never felt like I missed out. She never talked bad about my father, so it never seemed like it was a bad thing not having one around.

Don't feel so bad. xx Your baby is loved regardless.

wendino

These days not everyone has a dad. Lots don't! I have a dad, but I hardly ever see or speak to him and it really has not hurt me at all.

The thing that matters is that she has a family that loves her, and it sounds like she does

Younglutonmum

I know exactly how you feel. I look at Maya & think how on earth could anyone walk away from her, she doesn't deserve it

But as the others have said she'll do fine with just you & you never know you may meet someone she calls daddy.

You're going to be just fine & so is Penelope!!

xxx

nikky0907

It's a shameful thing that he walked out on his child.That he was so incredibly selfish.

It can't be easy explaining to her why she doesn't have a father,but you are a good mom already Rae...you're gonna be more than enough for her.
He would have been a terrible father and that would leave more serious consequences on her.
I would know! Having grown up with a father who wasn't good at all in that role sometimes even makes me wonder if he would have made me a bigger favour by simply walking out (then again leaving me with my mother would probably drive me to a suicide)...

Penelope will never miss out on any love,that I'm sure off!