Suz

PS, doesnt matter how much they make, its all a %... and if the court orders he pays and he doesnt pay, then the court can take the money from his pay check and then pay you

mBLACK

No I'm not going to be seeking social assistance. I live with my grandmother and she makes well over enough to support the baby and I, but the thing is my father is CHILDISH and has borrowed literally about 10,000.00 in the past 6 months and he doesn't pay her back. She's low on money because everybody borrows money from her and it's difficult as it is with our financial problems. The city will never let us be on social assistance, she's making about 34-36$ an hour.

P.S. Leeanne I'm sure it's just your pregnancy brain but I'm in Manitoba not Saskatchewan remember? Yes the legal age is 18 here too though.

mBLACK

But then again if I make him pay, he has the RIGHT to see the baby without my supervision right? What if I don't make him pay? Damn it's confusing.

rae05

I have been told that you can still have full custody and he still has to pay. Somehow. How that is, I have no idea.

armychicmkm

My feelings are that if you do not want the father to be in the child's life, then you shouldn't make him pay for a child he is not allowed to see. I've known too many men who are forced to pay for children and when they try and get the courts to give visitation the mother blocks it.

However, if he's just not wanting to take the responsibility of the child then by all means make him pay up. Here, they take it straight out of the paycheck - generally a certain % - and then send a check straight to you. And here you do have some influence over how much you receive. You can request to have the amount lowered or raised and the courts will consider the request.

mBLACK

It's not that I don't want him to see his baby. Moreso I want it to be monitored, he has a very very bad temper and anger problems, VERY bad, he's also a very violent person and I don't trust him with the baby. When he's in rage he can get uncontrollable. Also he TOLD me that his father made a sex video with a younger girl - he told his friend it was a girl named Samatha Weins (she's SIXTEEN), his father is into his 50's and I don't trust his pervert self around my baby without monitoring! So I was trying to figure out if I could get support and still be able to ask that he be monitored while with the baby - and his parents monitored too!

Younglutonmum

I totally agree with you babe. If there's a history of violence, sexual abuse etc then he should defo have supervised contact. As bubs mummy you have every right to feel reassured

meg_lo21

I am pretty sure he legally HAS TO help you with the baby.

WaitingForYou

Im not sure how it works over in america. But if its his child he should have to pay. If you dont want him to see the child and he doesnt want to see it, wouldnt that be a seperate child custody battle?