loulou83

Yes as somebody else said it's not his fucking decision to make! That's the one thing that winds me up the most about men... they seem to think they can opt out. Take him to court and get money off him if nothing but to be spiteful imo. after you get the 300 quid of course!

mBLACK

Take that SOB to court!!!

BurtonBaby

Right after she is born, I would partition the court for a DNA test. If he wont acknowledge her and go on the birth certificate. He can't not show up to court, he would be in contempt. Then when they have the results and its his, you can ask for a wage assignment for the child support. And the good thing is the courts decide how much he has to give you, which would probably be more than you could get his ass to agree to outside of court. My mom had to literally take my dad to court 35 times over 5-6 years. She would get a wage assignment and he would quit his job. But he ended up owing so much back child support. And they were married and she was left single with 3 young kids. Some men are terrible. Dont wait around after your daughter is born, take him to court straight away, especially if he wont go on the birth certificate. Good luck!! =)

Younglutonmum

Thanks hunni

I don't actual want him on the birth certificate but shall be passing his details over to CSA straight after Anais is born lol!! xxx

CurlySue

Ladies, trust me. If you live in England (I know not all of you do) they LEGALLY cannot avoid paying child support if the child is theirs. It is dictated on earnings. They HAVE to pay a proportional amount related to their earnings and, if they do not, then get taken to court.

Holidays, driving lessons, no court would take those into account when dictating what he should be paying, i.e if he can afford holidays and driving lessons he can afford to pay you for the upkeep of HIS child.

Younglutonmum

Im entitled to a whole £9 a week from him!! Oh woop

Arghhh well, least it's £9 I know he doesn't want to pay lol

CurlySue

Its the principle though, isn't it? If nine quid is what it is dictated he can afford then, even if he misses some nine quid payments he gets taken to court.

They can actually put people in prison for repeatedly failing to pay up! Will he want to go to jail for the sake of nine quid?

Also, if he gets a higher paid job then the money you get for the baby goes up. Like I said, if he can afford to go to Spain and get driving lessons he can afford a child he helped to create.

Don't let him off lightly!

Younglutonmum

Oh I certainly won't hun!!

It really is down to the principle of the matter

I know he's looking for a better paid job so I pray he gets one as it's more money for LO lol

Probably the only time I wish him well

Iwantone!!!

have u still got the txt ? i would send it bk to him saying do u remember ur commited to ur son or daughter ur letting them down before they are even born xx

Younglutonmum

I just can't be bothered with the fight anymore

I'm just gonna sit back & enjoy these last 7 weeks with my bump

He's ruined alot of my pregnancy for me & i'm determined that he doesn't ruin the rest of it for me