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Jun 11th, 2008, 00:07 AM
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Just wondering if any of you have thought about what sort of access your ex will be having once LO is born?? And how soon will that commence??
See me and my ex live nearly 2 hours away from each other & he wants to start taking LO back to his house the weekend afetr she's born. He wants to do this every weekend.
Ive told him number 1 - the baby will not be leaving me for a good while afetr she born
and number 2 - no way am I letting him take my newborn on a train every friday!!
He can either come up & visit us in London or lump it to be honest |
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Jun 11th, 2008, 00:09 AM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | I think your right to want this!
Just sit down an let him know how you feel about letting her go off that far without you for that long while shes so young.
Hope he understands xxx |
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Jun 11th, 2008, 00:16 AM
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Originally Posted by Rachel16+Bump  I think your right to want this!
Just sit down an let him know how you feel about letting her go off that far without you for that long while shes so young.
Hope he understands xxx | Oh ive tried talking to him hunni. He totally doesn't agree!! But oh well, im not going to be swayed on this one lol!!
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Jun 11th, 2008, 00:20 AM
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Jun 11th, 2008, 00:25 AM
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Originally Posted by Younglutonmum Oh ive tried talking to him hunni. He totally doesn't agree!! But oh well, im not going to be swayed on this one lol!!
xxx xxx |  ! Stand your ground and make him understand lol. xx |
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Jun 11th, 2008, 00:25 AM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | Its something i've thought about but thankfully it shouldn't be too much trouble for me.
Ex-OH (sperm donor) is in the RAF and is currently 2.5 hours away from me by car. In september he moves base again and will probably be moving even futhur south again and will end up being 4 hours away from me. Then sometime between september and december he'll be going to Afghan for 6 months. He'll be missing the birth of his first baby completely, and won't see them for the first 4-6 months of their life. After then, god knows where he'll be going.
I don't drive so he'll have to come to us. If he hadn't been an asshole apart from going to Afghan I would be moving round the country/world with him but thats his choice. I expect he'll only see bubs once a month going by his attitude anyhow. |
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Jun 11th, 2008, 00:26 AM
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Originally Posted by Rachel16+Bump ! Stand your ground and make him understand lol. xx | Bloody men!! Ive had enough lol xx |
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Originally Posted by ~ Vicky ~ Its something i've thought about but thankfully it shouldn't be too much trouble for me.
Ex-OH (sperm donor) is in the RAF and is currently 2.5 hours away from me by car. In september he moves base again and will probably be moving even futhur south again and will end up being 4 hours away from me. Then sometime between september and december he'll be going to Afghan for 6 months. He'll be missing the birth of his first baby completely, and won't see them for the first 4-6 months of their life. After then, god knows where he'll be going.
I don't drive so he'll have to come to us. If he hadn't been an asshole apart from going to Afghan I would be moving round the country/world with him but thats his choice. I expect he'll only see bubs once a month going by his attitude anyhow. | I reckon my ex will probably bother about once a month aswell. He wont be at the birth either. I did ask him 2 but he decided to go on holiday with his mates the day im due. Isn't he lovely girls?? lol
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Originally Posted by Younglutonmum Bloody men!! Ive had enough lol xx | Know how you feel! at least your babys daddy wants to know your bubs, mine is just a prick all together and doesn't know what he wants. i just say 'leave em an let em be' ha xxx |
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Jun 11th, 2008, 00:31 AM
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Originally Posted by Rachel16+Bump Know how you feel! at least your babys daddy wants to know your bubs, mine is just a prick all together and doesn't know what he wants. i just say 'leave em an let em be' ha xxx | Oh to be honest mine doesn't know what he wants either. On a good day he wants weekend access but thats rare, 90% of time he doesn't want to know us.
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