Moulder86

Ok so until recently I didn't think about it, as far as I'm concerned (or was) my baby should have his daddy's surname, we should choose his name together you know as it should be.

Only thing is now he's seeing someone else I'm having different thoughts and need some advice....I don't know what to do about his name expecially his surname? If I give him his dads what does that mean?? What's going to happen when it comes to daddy having him (if he changes his ways, doesn't currently only has his 4yr old for a few hours a couple days a week)? What about his first name, I can't decide on it on my own it's a big responsibility.

Any advice ladies?

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lauren-kate

Me and Ryan's dad went with both of our surnames so it's double-barrelled (mine-his, just because it sounds very weird the other way around). We decided on his first name together and it was the only one we could agree on. I really really liked the name Ethan and was pretty set on it, but decided I could compromise so we had one we both really liked. Good luck on choosing names x

Moulder86

Moulder-Flynn sounds odd to me, we've agreed on his middle name Jon (his dad's name, his middle name and my dad's middle name) he likes Max which I think it cute but his ex before me likes it too I'm too scared to know if he's spoken to the current one about it.

I like Riley, Brennan and Christian and others but he doesn't like any of them.

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Younglutonmum

I've chosen to have my baby take on my surname. As far as im concerned ive come through this pregnancy with no financial or emotional support from her daddy so why should she take his surname? But obviously it does depend on your circumstances. If he's been supportive & you believe he's going to be a good dad then by all means go for it but I woulddn't do it just because you may think it's the 'right' thing. Its the 21st century you know lol!!

As for the first name, once again if your on good terms & he's playing an active role then let him have his input. My ex has been useless so i've choosen my babys name without him & yes he hates it lol!!

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~ Vicky ~

I've chosen my baby's names myself. Ex-OH has been given a zillion chances to get involved so as far as i'm concerned matters like that are out of his hands. The name i've chosen for a boy if thats what bubs turns out to be happens to be one I know he loves but that didn't sway my decision its just coincidental.

As for surnames, even though I don't need to be considering circumstances, i'm giving our baby both our surnames so he/she will be double barreled (my surname then his).

Younglutonmum

Is anyone not even having the father named on the birth certificate??

I'm not & so many people have said that's wrong but I really don't want him on there!!

~ Vicky ~

I will be. He doesn't deserve to be but if I want any sort of matinence money off him then he has to be named.

Younglutonmum

Yeh know what you mean but for me I dont care if I dont get maintanance. I feel that stronglY!! I dont want him to have parental responsibility which is what will happen if he's named on the birth certificate

Moulder86

Again name on the birth certificate probably but only because it's the way I fel it should be. I know it's the 21st Century but at the same time I kinda feel it the way it should be, traditional I suppose or something like that.

~ Vicky ~

See, even if my ex is an asshole, he's still the Dad and the baby *is* going to want to know him, even at some stage. One thing I know i'm not going to do is badmouth Gav infront of my child. They themselves can work out what an asshole he really is and they can't use it against me in the future should we ever argue or anything. Gav won't be able to use it against me either by claiming i've turned his child against him.

In a perfect world he'd have nothing to do with LO at all, but its not a perfect world. I'm not ashamed to admit i'm going to need some financial help off him. I wish I didn't need to, but I can't afford to hold down my flat and feed both myself and my baby everyday. I would starve if I needed to, but I don't want to starve and he needs to take some responsibility, even if it is a fiver a week.