help!!

princessellie · Mar 19th, 2010, 20:55 PM

so my dickhead fiance has just decided that he wants to break up, he wants to give me 15% of his wages and 50% of everything i need to buy for the babies, he said he wants to have them 3 days a week and if i dont agree we will go through the courts and i wont get nowhere near as much, oh and he also said he wants me out of our house...

just wondered what i would be entitled to as a single mother to two kids? anyone know?

x

sezzlebum · Mar 19th, 2010, 21:29 PM

on benefits?

income support and child tax credits +child benefit

£64.30+ £129.71 +£33.40 (based on 2 children)

csa as he's working £20 a week (if he gives you more it will affect your income support)

oh and let him go through the courts, as shitty as it seems, if he gets granted what he says he wants and then messes you around, he loses his rights

lou_w34 · Mar 20th, 2010, 06:23 AM

He wouldnt get three days a week in court any way hun, so call his bluff and tell him to take you. Most judges will not allow over night access untill the child is three, so the most he will get is once a week for a few hours, maybe even less for your newborn when they are actually born.

Im not sure about the house, is your name actually on it anywhere? If it is then you are entitled to half, if it is not, then im not too sure... Is there anywhere you can go stay for a while with your lo, like maybe family?

And the benifits are about right as above, youd also be entitled to housing benifit aswell if you were to move out. But if your name is on the house i would try and get him to go, if he will that is.

xx

sweetlullaby · Mar 20th, 2010, 06:54 AM

Agree with what the others have said. Also hun if its a council house in both your names because you already have a child and are pregnant with your second you have priority over him as in he would be the one leaving not you

(not 100% on that tho)

princessellie · Mar 20th, 2010, 10:19 AM

thanks all of you, no its not council house, its private rented in his name so if he says i have to leave then i do unfortunately

going by the amounts up there it seems id get more than i do now so should be fine, am so relieved!!! hes told me now he was joking about wanting to break up, i think because he realised im serious! i told him last night that he would get nowhere near as much as 3 days a week and he was like oh yeh right, and how would you know that? have seen enough single mothers on here to know that he wouldnt get 3 days but he was trying to call my bluff...idiot!!!

thanks for all the advice

x

purpledahlia · Mar 22nd, 2010, 18:20 PM

aw no he def wouldnt get 3 days a week, has anything been resolved or is it still all off? xx

princessellie · Mar 22nd, 2010, 22:27 PM

were working it through atm but am still very upset with him, trying to act normal for leylas sake and so my bp doesnt go through the roof but we are far from fine

he is trying though, bless him

x

purpledahlia · Mar 23rd, 2010, 10:27 AM

thats something then

tinkabells · Mar 23rd, 2010, 11:19 AM

Good luck xxx

Mar 19th, 2010, 20:55 PM	#1
princessellie Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: May 2008 Location: Darlo Shore Posts: 11,032	help!! so my dickhead fiance has just decided that he wants to break up, he wants to give me 15% of his wages and 50% of everything i need to buy for the babies, he said he wants to have them 3 days a week and if i dont agree we will go through the courts and i wont get nowhere near as much, oh and he also said he wants me out of our house... just wondered what i would be entitled to as a single mother to two kids? anyone know? x

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Mar 19th, 2010, 21:29 PM	#2
sezzlebum Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: manchester Posts: 1,779	on benefits? income support and child tax credits +child benefit £64.30+ £129.71 +£33.40 (based on 2 children) csa as he's working £20 a week (if he gives you more it will affect your income support) oh and let him go through the courts, as shitty as it seems, if he gets granted what he says he wants and then messes you around, he loses his rights

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Mar 20th, 2010, 06:23 AM	#3
lou_w34 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 1,987	He wouldnt get three days a week in court any way hun, so call his bluff and tell him to take you. Most judges will not allow over night access untill the child is three, so the most he will get is once a week for a few hours, maybe even less for your newborn when they are actually born. Im not sure about the house, is your name actually on it anywhere? If it is then you are entitled to half, if it is not, then im not too sure... Is there anywhere you can go stay for a while with your lo, like maybe family? And the benifits are about right as above, youd also be entitled to housing benifit aswell if you were to move out. But if your name is on the house i would try and get him to go, if he will that is. xx

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Mar 20th, 2010, 06:54 AM	#4
sweetlullaby Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Uk Posts: 6,337	Agree with what the others have said. Also hun if its a council house in both your names because you already have a child and are pregnant with your second you have priority over him as in he would be the one leaving not you (not 100% on that tho)

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Mar 20th, 2010, 10:19 AM	#5
princessellie Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: May 2008 Location: Darlo Shore Posts: 11,032	thanks all of you, no its not council house, its private rented in his name so if he says i have to leave then i do unfortunately going by the amounts up there it seems id get more than i do now so should be fine, am so relieved!!! hes told me now he was joking about wanting to break up, i think because he realised im serious! i told him last night that he would get nowhere near as much as 3 days a week and he was like oh yeh right, and how would you know that? have seen enough single mothers on here to know that he wouldnt get 3 days but he was trying to call my bluff...idiot!!! thanks for all the advice x

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Mar 22nd, 2010, 18:20 PM	#6
purpledahlia Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 14,871	aw no he def wouldnt get 3 days a week, has anything been resolved or is it still all off? xx

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Mar 22nd, 2010, 22:27 PM	#7
princessellie Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: May 2008 Location: Darlo Shore Posts: 11,032	were working it through atm but am still very upset with him, trying to act normal for leylas sake and so my bp doesnt go through the roof but we are far from fine he is trying though, bless him x

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Mar 23rd, 2010, 10:27 AM	#8
purpledahlia Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 14,871	thats something then

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Mar 23rd, 2010, 11:19 AM	#9
tinkabells Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 4,088	Good luck xxx

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