I am a new single mum I have 3 kids (4,2 and 3 weeks) I have been with my ex 2 years and we have deffo had our ups and downs in the past spesh in the past 6 months . I am so confused though and wonder what other people make of this i will give you some background .In June last year we found out I was pregnant and we were both over the moon in August last year my ex went on anti depression tablets due to depression (doh i know) and he had alot of debt and decided to get a second job to sort it out and he seems to cheer up abit I became ill and spent alot of time in and out of hospital due to pains and high blood pressure ect . In December he cheated on me with a girl he worked with (i found out in jan) when I found out he begged me for a 2nd chance saying he still loved me and was in love with me he wanted to be a family it was all a mistake . I gave him a 2nd chance and drew a line in the sand and started to start a fresh things seem to get better even though there was alot of stuff outside the relationship that happened i.e i fell out with a few friends over him and he got alot of hassle from the woman's friends ect . I gave birth end of feb to a beautiful baby boy and i thought things couldn't get any better we went up to see his parents and everything seemed great he was talking about all of us moving up by his parents and a fresh start adpoting my other two kids , getting married (we were engaged for 1 1/2 years) as far as everyone was concerned things were getting back on track (i say everyone i mean myself , his parents , his friends ) . we came back and 2 days after being back to work he sat me down and told me he was moving out and that we were over . At 1st he was trying to hurry things up by getting me to change the benefits and stuff to say i am single and he even changed his status on fb to single i said i didnt want to rush things and live to regret the choices we were making . Well we still live together at the mo (he keeps saying he is looking at houses to move out thought i have seen no evidence of it ) we are still close he kisses and cuddles me and holds my hand and from time to time talks about things we can do together as a family i.e sorting about a better routine for the kids in the mornings , he still gives his parents the impression that we are trying to sort things out . I am so confused one min he sayz he doesnt love me and then the next min he is telling he does and showing me affection I will admit i still love him and we are each others best friend , his parents and friends keep telling me this is to do with his depression and he is just scared and lashing out and trying to run away but a part of me is worried its not that and that he has been a complete arse and has strung me along i dont know what to do

OMG hunnie, i dont no how u must feel.. i dont no your husband bt inoo if he didnt love you he wouldnt be huggin and kissin u and tlkin about what to do as a family.. mayb he thinks he dosent deserve you.. and the aspect of havin a child is scaring him.. just hold tight and keep doin what your doing now.. im sure he wil come round.. xxxxx

As I said before only you can decide but I do feel he is taking the mick a bit.You are very easy to forgive which is fab but I think he is playing on it.If he wants to be single then he needs to go now and stop playing mind games with you by kissing and cuddling etc x

I hope you sort it one way or the other as it isn't nice feeling confused xx

if it was me, id say "if ur going, hurry up and go" but its hard if u love someone.. especially with his depression.. hope all goes well xx

Hun to me it sounds like he wants the best of both worlds. He wants to be single and be able to sleep with other people, and also have his family life. Personally I wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him. It sounds like he is playing you. If he has cheated once, chances are he has done it before and will probably do it again. You have to think what is best for yourself and your kids. If you think thats to be with the dad even in this situation then fair play to you and I wish you all the best xx

I agree with above, your worth much more how he is treating you

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I agree, I think he wants the best of both worlds. He cheated and you forgave him so he should be trying to make it up to you still. Not telling you its over and kissing and cuddling you on the sofa, Over is over.

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Couldn't have put it better my self

thanks ladies he went away this weekend and i got some head space and i am moving on i have found a house to view tomorrow so its all looking good

Totally agree with littlekitten, he doesnt deserve you, but only you can make that choice xxx