Does FOB always 'go back' to MOB?

MyFirstNoodle · Feb 28th, 2010, 10:30 AM

I don't know if this is the right place to ask?! BUT....

My OH and his ex have a LO together....and a few people have said to me "oh you want to be careful there, because the FOB always ends up going back to the woman he has had a child with and their little family"

After hearing it sooo many times, It's starting to bug me! Me and OH do love eachother and we are TTC ourselves but I can't help but think OH will go back to his ex because thats who he has a kid with and I wont mean anything?!

I know it sounds stupid because we have been together for 2 years but is this
at all true? Does FOB always go back to his ex and baby? and when he picks his LO up he has sex with his ex? <------(No1 has said to me OH has slept with his ex...its just I have read on here that even though FOB has a new girlfriend...the MOB still sleeps with FOB....)

I probably sound loopy but I hear that happens all the time and hope I'm just being paranoid

Anyone??

Linz88 · Feb 28th, 2010, 11:40 AM

hey i understand your paranoid.. but if you feel like this i dont think you should be ttc unless you trust him 100%

MissE007 · Feb 28th, 2010, 11:58 AM

Um, no! I think that only applies in cases where the guy has feelings for that woman already. Although maybe sometimes I think SOME men may try this to get sex the 'easy' way if he knows the woman hasn't moved on - you'd recognise a man like that a mile off though!

BUT you need to remember that if a man is going to cheat - he will find a way with whoever - baby or no baby. And if he really wanted to be with his ex, he would be with her and not with you.

Don't entertain what other people say, and don't entertain these thoughts either because they can ruin relationships!

karamel · Mar 1st, 2010, 10:30 AM

I have an ex & ALL he wanted was to be a "happy family" with his son & MOB ; I found emails that he wrote her, blah blah blah. He also cheated on me countless times with MOB ; but also he cheated with countless other women. A cheater's a cheater.

But then there's FOB ; he has a son from a previous relationship & he and MOB broke up when the child was about 1 year. & In that case, there was ABSOLUTELY no way of he & MOB getting back together, nor does he want to get back together with her. He actually more or less despises her, but loves his son, so tolerates her kind of thing.

So ; basically what I'm trying to say is ; if a man wants to be with the MOB, he will be, or will try to be. He won't be in a relationship with one woman, attempting to start a family if that's not what he truly wants.
You have to trust you OH ; if he didn't want to be with you, he wouldn't.

xox hope i helped and didn't harm xox

MyFirstNoodle · Mar 1st, 2010, 17:16 PM

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Originally Posted by karamel

I have an ex & ALL he wanted was to be a "happy family" with his son & MOB ; I found emails that he wrote her, blah blah blah. He also cheated on me countless times with MOB ; but also he cheated with countless other women. A cheater's a cheater.

But then there's FOB ; he has a son from a previous relationship & he and MOB broke up when the child was about 1 year. & In that case, there was ABSOLUTELY no way of he & MOB getting back together, nor does he want to get back together with her. He actually more or less despises her, but loves his son, so tolerates her kind of thing.

So ; basically what I'm trying to say is ; if a man wants to be with the MOB, he will be, or will try to be. He won't be in a relationship with one woman, attempting to start a family if that's not what he truly wants.
You have to trust you OH ; if he didn't want to be with you, he wouldn't.

xox hope i helped and didn't harm xox

Nope that was exactly what I wanted to hear! OH HATES MOB but again like your OH just tolerates her for his daughter...its just with everyone saying "oh be careful because blokes always go back to the MOB" got me thinking...OH hasn't shown my ANY reason to think it, its just other people if that makes sense?! but I do trust him!

To the other person that said I shouldnt be TTC....well as I said I do trust OH as I know he really doesnt like MOB its just when friends and family keep saying "he will go back to MOB" not because he has shown any indication that he would its just "what they do" and I just wanted to know if that was true!

Thanks for the comments though I'm really grateful

xx

Yazz_n_bump · Mar 1st, 2010, 17:25 PM

No that's a bunch of rubbish. Unless there are signs and OH is very close to ex like warning signals it should be fine. He's with you not this other bird. There an ex for a reason.
My OH of nearly 2 years has two kids with his ex. His ex has tired to spilt me and OH up a numerous amount of times, she even texts him 'Oh i love you' etc. And rarely anything about the kids. She even found out my phone number and rang me and said her and OH were cheating on me lol. But Oh turned up at my door like 2 minutes later? So yeah more fool her lol.
Ex's are ex's for a reason, just because they have history and children together doesn't mean they'll go running back.

karamel · Mar 2nd, 2010, 10:34 AM

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Originally Posted by MyFirstNoodle

Quote:

Originally Posted by karamel

I have an ex & ALL he wanted was to be a "happy family" with his son & MOB ; I found emails that he wrote her, blah blah blah. He also cheated on me countless times with MOB ; but also he cheated with countless other women. A cheater's a cheater.

But then there's FOB ; he has a son from a previous relationship & he and MOB broke up when the child was about 1 year. & In that case, there was ABSOLUTELY no way of he & MOB getting back together, nor does he want to get back together with her. He actually more or less despises her, but loves his son, so tolerates her kind of thing.

So ; basically what I'm trying to say is ; if a man wants to be with the MOB, he will be, or will try to be. He won't be in a relationship with one woman, attempting to start a family if that's not what he truly wants.
You have to trust you OH ; if he didn't want to be with you, he wouldn't.

xox hope i helped and didn't harm xox

Nope that was exactly what I wanted to hear! OH HATES MOB but again like your OH just tolerates her for his daughter...its just with everyone saying "oh be careful because blokes always go back to the MOB" got me thinking...OH hasn't shown my ANY reason to think it, its just other people if that makes sense?! but I do trust him!

To the other person that said I shouldnt be TTC....well as I said I do trust OH as I know he really doesnt like MOB its just when friends and family keep saying "he will go back to MOB" not because he has shown any indication that he would its just "what they do" and I just wanted to know if that was true!

Thanks for the comments though I'm really grateful

xx

You're very welcome

Feb 28th, 2010, 10:30 AM	#1
MyFirstNoodle Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 929	Does FOB always 'go back' to MOB? I don't know if this is the right place to ask?! BUT.... My OH and his ex have a LO together....and a few people have said to me "oh you want to be careful there, because the FOB always ends up going back to the woman he has had a child with and their little family" After hearing it sooo many times, It's starting to bug me! Me and OH do love eachother and we are TTC ourselves but I can't help but think OH will go back to his ex because thats who he has a kid with and I wont mean anything?! I know it sounds stupid because we have been together for 2 years but is this at all true? Does FOB always go back to his ex and baby? and when he picks his LO up he has sex with his ex? <------(No1 has said to me OH has slept with his ex...its just I have read on here that even though FOB has a new girlfriend...the MOB still sleeps with FOB....) I probably sound loopy but I hear that happens all the time and hope I'm just being paranoid Anyone??

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Feb 28th, 2010, 11:40 AM	#2
Linz88 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: West Brom\Bham, Uk Posts: 1,679	hey i understand your paranoid.. but if you feel like this i dont think you should be ttc unless you trust him 100%

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Feb 28th, 2010, 11:58 AM	#3
MissE007 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: UK Posts: 145	Um, no! I think that only applies in cases where the guy has feelings for that woman already. Although maybe sometimes I think SOME men may try this to get sex the 'easy' way if he knows the woman hasn't moved on - you'd recognise a man like that a mile off though! BUT you need to remember that if a man is going to cheat - he will find a way with whoever - baby or no baby. And if he really wanted to be with his ex, he would be with her and not with you. Don't entertain what other people say, and don't entertain these thoughts either because they can ruin relationships!

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Mar 1st, 2010, 10:30 AM	#4
karamel Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 453	I have an ex & ALL he wanted was to be a "happy family" with his son & MOB ; I found emails that he wrote her, blah blah blah. He also cheated on me countless times with MOB ; but also he cheated with countless other women. A cheater's a cheater. But then there's FOB ; he has a son from a previous relationship & he and MOB broke up when the child was about 1 year. & In that case, there was ABSOLUTELY no way of he & MOB getting back together, nor does he want to get back together with her. He actually more or less despises her, but loves his son, so tolerates her kind of thing. So ; basically what I'm trying to say is ; if a man wants to be with the MOB, he will be, or will try to be. He won't be in a relationship with one woman, attempting to start a family if that's not what he truly wants. You have to trust you OH ; if he didn't want to be with you, he wouldn't. xox hope i helped and didn't harm xox

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Mar 1st, 2010, 17:25 PM	#6
Yazz_n_bump Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: UK Posts: 3,872	No that's a bunch of rubbish. Unless there are signs and OH is very close to ex like warning signals it should be fine. He's with you not this other bird. There an ex for a reason. My OH of nearly 2 years has two kids with his ex. His ex has tired to spilt me and OH up a numerous amount of times, she even texts him 'Oh i love you' etc. And rarely anything about the kids. She even found out my phone number and rang me and said her and OH were cheating on me lol. But Oh turned up at my door like 2 minutes later? So yeah more fool her lol. Ex's are ex's for a reason, just because they have history and children together doesn't mean they'll go running back.

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