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Old Feb 22nd, 2010, 11:42 AM   #1
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CSA update - FOB has denied paternity!


Well, I rang the CSA this morning for an update and it's official - the ******* has denied that Aiden is his!

So DNA test it is. What a SCUMBAG. How dare he?! He knows Aiden is his. ARGHHHH I'm fuming! oh well, the thought of him having to pay out £500 of his "hard earned" money makes me chuckle to myself!

Can anyone tell me what the process is? How long it'll take, what will happen if he doesn't show up for the dna test etc?


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Old Feb 22nd, 2010, 11:56 AM   #2
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Hi this happened to me after I had my first. He denied he was the father so the CSA offered him a DNA test. If he is the father they keep the money but if he is not the father they will give him his money back, or that's what they used to do, so the man doesn't have anything to lose. We never got to that stage as "dad" wouldn't take the test. When they refuse the test it then becomes a court process but the CSA take that as an admission if they refuse the test to an extent and start the process of completing maintenance assessments.

Sorry I can't help about how long it takes to get the test done. In my situation it all became a bit of a joke when the CSA were involved and I never received any maintenance despite them getting court papers proving paternity. Baby's dad used to be self employed so it became a joke for the CSA to ever find him.

Hope you have better luck than me!


 
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Old Feb 22nd, 2010, 11:58 AM   #3
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No advice hun but what a stupid twat not only has he just denied his son he is basically calling you a slag
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Old Feb 22nd, 2010, 12:00 PM   #4
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Hi this happened to me after I had my first. He denied he was the father so the CSA offered him a DNA test. If he is the father they keep the money but if he is not the father they will give him his money back, or that's what they used to do, so the man doesn't have anything to lose. We never got to that stage as "dad" wouldn't take the test. When they refuse the test it then becomes a court process but the CSA take that as an admission if they refuse the test to an extent and start the process of completing maintenance assessments.

Sorry I can't help about how long it takes to get the test done. In my situation it all became a bit of a joke when the CSA were involved and I never received any maintenance despite them getting court papers proving paternity. Baby's dad used to be self employed so it became a joke for the CSA to ever find him.

Hope you have better luck than me!
God I'm sorry to hear that Have you never had a single penny then? x


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Old Feb 22nd, 2010, 12:02 PM   #5
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No advice hun but what a stupid twat not only has he just denied his son he is basically calling you a slag
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Well I don't see it that way, I just see it that he's trying anything to get out of paying for Aiden. He's already paying for 1 child, so to pay for 2 for the next 18+ years means most of his working life, he will only see like 60% of his wages! So it doesn't really surprise me that he's trying to get out of it!


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Old Feb 22nd, 2010, 12:20 PM   #6
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Ha! what a total loser hun!


 
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Old Feb 22nd, 2010, 12:23 PM   #7
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:@ sorry to hear hunnie xxxxxxxxxxxxxx


 
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Old Feb 22nd, 2010, 12:25 PM   #8
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Arrrrgh how bloody annoying..sorry hun no advice I just wanted to let you know I think your FOB is a scumbag too, because when it comes back positive he is just going to look like a right idiot! But he is just wasting your time as well he is better off just admitting it, sorry your going through this hun x x x ...


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Old Feb 22nd, 2010, 12:32 PM   #9
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isnt he going to look an arsehole when they prove aiden is his. what a pr**k i hope they aort it son for you xx


 
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Old Feb 22nd, 2010, 13:07 PM   #10
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when my OH's ex went to CSA he requested A DNA test has round time of his daughter being concived, she used to vanish for nights, or ring him and say she was getting a taxi and then take hours for a 20min journey.
Anyway, he requested a DNA (not because he thought his ex was a slag, or because he was trying to put off paying csa or anything or that he was a pr**k etc) simply because he wanted to be 100% before comiting himself to paying CSA for 18years.
Anyway it took a month or 2 to be fully completed, and CSA back dated his payment to when his X put in her claim.
So if your ex thinks he will get out of a couple of months of paying, he wont.


 
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