CSA update - FOB has denied paternity!

Katieeeee · Feb 22nd, 2010, 11:42 AM

Well, I rang the CSA this morning for an update and it's official - the ******* has denied that Aiden is his!

So DNA test it is. What a SCUMBAG. How dare he?! He knows Aiden is his. ARGHHHH I'm fuming!

oh well, the thought of him having to pay out £500 of his "hard earned" money makes me chuckle to myself!

Can anyone tell me what the process is? How long it'll take, what will happen if he doesn't show up for the dna test etc?

2nd time mum · Feb 22nd, 2010, 11:56 AM

Hi this happened to me after I had my first. He denied he was the father so the CSA offered him a DNA test. If he is the father they keep the money but if he is not the father they will give him his money back, or that's what they used to do, so the man doesn't have anything to lose. We never got to that stage as "dad" wouldn't take the test. When they refuse the test it then becomes a court process but the CSA take that as an admission if they refuse the test to an extent and start the process of completing maintenance assessments.

Sorry I can't help about how long it takes to get the test done. In my situation it all became a bit of a joke when the CSA were involved and I never received any maintenance despite them getting court papers proving paternity. Baby's dad used to be self employed so it became a joke for the CSA to ever find him.

Hope you have better luck than me!

Aidan's Mummy · Feb 22nd, 2010, 11:58 AM

No advice hun but what a stupid twat not only has he just denied his son he is basically calling you a slag

xx

Katieeeee · Feb 22nd, 2010, 12:00 PM

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Originally Posted by 2nd time mum

Hi this happened to me after I had my first. He denied he was the father so the CSA offered him a DNA test. If he is the father they keep the money but if he is not the father they will give him his money back, or that's what they used to do, so the man doesn't have anything to lose. We never got to that stage as "dad" wouldn't take the test. When they refuse the test it then becomes a court process but the CSA take that as an admission if they refuse the test to an extent and start the process of completing maintenance assessments.

Sorry I can't help about how long it takes to get the test done. In my situation it all became a bit of a joke when the CSA were involved and I never received any maintenance despite them getting court papers proving paternity. Baby's dad used to be self employed so it became a joke for the CSA to ever find him.

Hope you have better luck than me!

God I'm sorry to hear that

Have you never had a single penny then? x

Katieeeee · Feb 22nd, 2010, 12:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Aidan's Mummy

No advice hun but what a stupid twat not only has he just denied his son he is basically calling you a slag

xx

Well I don't see it that way, I just see it that he's trying anything to get out of paying for Aiden. He's already paying for 1 child, so to pay for 2 for the next 18+ years means most of his working life, he will only see like 60% of his wages! So it doesn't really surprise me that he's trying to get out of it!

AtomicPink · Feb 22nd, 2010, 12:20 PM

Ha! what a total loser hun!

Linz88 · Feb 22nd, 2010, 12:23 PM

:@ sorry to hear hunnie xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

EternalRose · Feb 22nd, 2010, 12:25 PM

Arrrrgh how bloody annoying..sorry hun no advice I just wanted to let you know I think your FOB is a scumbag too, because when it comes back positive he is just going to look like a right idiot! But he is just wasting your time as well he is better off just admitting it, sorry your going through this hun

x x x ...

louise1302 · Feb 22nd, 2010, 12:32 PM

isnt he going to look an arsehole when they prove aiden is his. what a pr**k i hope they aort it son for you xx

daniellelk · Feb 22nd, 2010, 13:07 PM

when my OH's ex went to CSA he requested A DNA test has round time of his daughter being concived, she used to vanish for nights, or ring him and say she was getting a taxi and then take hours for a 20min journey.
Anyway, he requested a DNA (not because he thought his ex was a slag, or because he was trying to put off paying csa or anything or that he was a pr**k etc) simply because he wanted to be 100% before comiting himself to paying CSA for 18years.
Anyway it took a month or 2 to be fully completed, and CSA back dated his payment to when his X put in her claim.
So if your ex thinks he will get out of a couple of months of paying, he wont.

Feb 22nd, 2010, 11:42 AM	#1
Katieeeee Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Essex Posts: 3,426	CSA update - FOB has denied paternity! Well, I rang the CSA this morning for an update and it's official - the ***** has denied that Aiden is his! So DNA test it is. What a SCUMBAG.** How dare he?! He knows Aiden is his. ARGHHHH I'm fuming! oh well, the thought of him having to pay out £500 of his "hard earned" money makes me chuckle to myself! Can anyone tell me what the process is? How long it'll take, what will happen if he doesn't show up for the dna test etc?

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Feb 22nd, 2010, 11:56 AM	#2
2nd time mum Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Dundee Posts: 1,368	Hi this happened to me after I had my first. He denied he was the father so the CSA offered him a DNA test. If he is the father they keep the money but if he is not the father they will give him his money back, or that's what they used to do, so the man doesn't have anything to lose. We never got to that stage as "dad" wouldn't take the test. When they refuse the test it then becomes a court process but the CSA take that as an admission if they refuse the test to an extent and start the process of completing maintenance assessments. Sorry I can't help about how long it takes to get the test done. In my situation it all became a bit of a joke when the CSA were involved and I never received any maintenance despite them getting court papers proving paternity. Baby's dad used to be self employed so it became a joke for the CSA to ever find him. Hope you have better luck than me!

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Feb 22nd, 2010, 11:58 AM	#3
Aidan's Mummy Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Hull Posts: 11,002	No advice hun but what a stupid twat not only has he just denied his son he is basically calling you a slag xx

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Feb 22nd, 2010, 12:20 PM	#6
AtomicPink Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 19,122	Ha! what a total loser hun!

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Linz88 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: West Brom\Bham, Uk Posts: 1,679	:@ sorry to hear hunnie xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Feb 22nd, 2010, 12:25 PM	#8
EternalRose Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 5,739	Arrrrgh how bloody annoying..sorry hun no advice I just wanted to let you know I think your FOB is a scumbag too, because when it comes back positive he is just going to look like a right idiot! But he is just wasting your time as well he is better off just admitting it, sorry your going through this hun x x x ...

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louise1302 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: manchester,uk Posts: 6,575	isnt he going to look an arsehole when they prove aiden is his. what a pr**k i hope they aort it son for you xx

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Feb 22nd, 2010, 13:07 PM	#10
daniellelk Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: south yorkshire Posts: 3,543	when my OH's ex went to CSA he requested A DNA test has round time of his daughter being concived, she used to vanish for nights, or ring him and say she was getting a taxi and then take hours for a 20min journey. Anyway, he requested a DNA (not because he thought his ex was a slag, or because he was trying to put off paying csa or anything or that he was a pr**k etc) simply because he wanted to be 100% before comiting himself to paying CSA for 18years. Anyway it took a month or 2 to be fully completed, and CSA back dated his payment to when his X put in her claim. So if your ex thinks he will get out of a couple of months of paying, he wont.

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