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Old Feb 23rd, 2010, 03:42 AM   #21
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Jakes dad did this but once sorted about 8 wks for all dna tests to be done and sent back he had to have it taken straight out of his wages , Katies dad did this but never went for the DNA test so I was told after 6 wks they asummed paternity and he as been paying out his wages for 2 yrs then last week i find out he is taking me to court to prove katie isnt his , now i was open and honest that he may not be the dad and wanted a Dna test but i couldnt force him now i face a long drawn out process of court and maybe having to pay back 2 yrs csa


 
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Old Feb 24th, 2010, 05:43 AM   #22
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Aww hunnie. Hugs for you and Aiden xxx


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Old Feb 24th, 2010, 11:43 AM   #23
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HEs a total wan*. Hope it doesnt take long,but im not sure that its true its baskdated to when you put in the claim? I heard it had changed to when paternity was agreed... (was told it changed recently) ??


 
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Old Feb 24th, 2010, 11:47 AM   #24
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HEs a total wan*. Hope it doesnt take long,but im not sure that its true its baskdated to when you put in the claim? I heard it had changed to when paternity was agreed... (was told it changed recently) ??
It was a year ago that my OH had his dna done, and CSA back dated his payment. Tho they just add like a extra £10 on what he should pay a week anyway.
It may have changed since then this is just what I know with my OH.

Oh btw, I wouldn't take much notice of there website!! Last time I looked it wasn't updated from when they last changed there system :/


 
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Old Feb 24th, 2010, 12:57 PM   #25
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its back dated to when the claim was put it x


 
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Old Feb 25th, 2010, 04:30 AM   #26
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Doesnt he realise he'll just look even more of a selfish w****r when the results come back??

Men!



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Old Feb 25th, 2010, 06:45 AM   #27
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Serina thats awful, but surely he cant do bugger all as he knew the CSA rules? They gave him the opportunity!


 
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Old Feb 25th, 2010, 09:07 AM   #28
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He sounds like an arse. My OH is just about to start paying CSA for his little one - but we are moving soon.....the CSA sent a letter to OH employer and told them to take £304on the 23rd of March and if the employer doesnt do this then they will be taken to court....but its OH last day today so he wont be working there on the 23rd. Because OH new job is shift work they will have to receive a couple of months pay slips before they work out how much OH has to pay.

Also when your ex changes jobs it takes CSA like 8 weeks to sort out money again.....My dad got away with paying because his employer told them he didnt work their. and I know someone else that got away with paying because after every 8 weeks (when CSA sort out the money) he just went and got a new job....CSA dropped the case after that because there was nothing they could do...everytime they tried to get the money, the FOB would change jobs! Also if your FOB works for cash in hand and signs on...you will hardly get any money!!

Alot of blokes nowadays tell their employer they cant work because their ex has the CSA on them, the employers tell the FOB to keep working their and they will pay them cash....I know its agaisnt the law but it happens.

Blokes HAVE got away with paying CSA and I didnt want you to only hear the good side!!

I hope your FOB isnt like this and you get your money!! Good luck hun xxxx


 
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Old Feb 26th, 2010, 05:00 AM   #29
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Also when your ex changes jobs it takes CSA like 8 weeks to sort out money again.....My dad got away with paying because his employer told them he didnt work their. and I know someone else that got away with paying because after every 8 weeks (when CSA sort out the money) he just went and got a new job....CSA dropped the case after that because there was nothing they could do...everytime they tried to get the money, the FOB would change jobs! Also if your FOB works for cash in hand and signs on...you will hardly get any money!!
My ten year olds dad has used every trick in the book to get out of paying csa in 9 years i have received exactly nothing. Every time they catch up to him he quits his job he spent years on and off working properly and cash in hand. Now his latest scam is he is a full time student so i can't get anything. The thing that pisses me off the most though is he lives in the same city as me and only sees my son twice a year through his choice as he can't be bothered.


 
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Old Feb 26th, 2010, 07:27 AM   #30
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Already paying for one child and denying his second?...sounds like this boy needs to learn how to wrap his willy properly if he doesnt want responsibilities!!
Hope you get something from him hun.and I would love to see the look on his face when the DNA test comes back positive!!


 
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