Right im registering mason on saturday .. obviously im single but the FOB if there involved or want to be involved have to go with you to be on the birth cerifiticate.. But i dont know what to do.. its hard cause id just put him on it but iv read about the rights and it says hell have the same rights as me..

Me and his dad still talk but i think he thinks cause weve got a kid together that were going to be an item again which iv made clear that were not i just dont feel that way towards him anymore and recently i dont even feel close to him anymore as friends its odd..

He dont exactly know how to take care of mason hell feed and change him but im just so worried to leave him with him if i chose to.. hes not the type of lad to take me to court i dont think over him either. But he hasnt brought a thing for him since hes been born or while i was pregnant.. and he wont pay towards him now cause he cant afford to as he only gets EMA off college .. (he needs to obviously get a job but he says he cant find anything).

Has anyone else been in this situation?
like still friends with the FOB what did you do put them on the birth certificate or not?

im not in your situation so maybe i cant fairly comment but i think for mason you should put his dad on the birth certificate. If his dad does end up being in his life then when he is older you may have to explane why his dad is not on there. But like i said i could feel different if i were in your situation so maybe im not the best person to answer.

i wont be puttin m fob on the bc.. noway would i want him havin the same rights as me when he hasnt been to any scans and he sed he wont be either.

Hiya Becy

My FOB is on Lolas BC. We're not exactly friends and I hate his guts but he does want to be involved so I thought it was only fair on Lola. I also thought that if I didn't his mum would talk him into taking me to court so he'd end up on there anyway.

There are times when I've regretted it and I even nearly changed my mind in the registrars office but I do think I made the right decision. I hope he proves me right.

From what I've read in your other posts he doesn't seem like a bad person and I would say that I think you should put him on, thats only based on what I know though. I think you should do it for Masons sake. I completely understand why other girls on here haven't put FOBs name on their LOs though so I think it totally depends on the situation.

I think he should be giving you money though especially if you do put him on the BC...even if its only a little amount until he gets a job.

Does he know that you're in two minds?

Sorry I waffled! Xx

Thanks suzanne!
hes not a bad person at all hes lovely i just dont want to get back with him because i dont feel the same anymore we do get on and everything but he thinks were guna get back together cause of mason and iv told him were not but he can still see him and everything.

Same thing about his mum i think shell convince him to take me to court if i didnt put him on it cause soon as i went round for first time with mason she went are you putting jamie on the birth certificate.. and i was like yeah cause i wasnt going to go no lol!

I spose its best for mason specially that hes not a horrible person and he wants to be a dad.. but it does my head in how he doesnt know anything about babies or how to do things but i guess hes got to learn lol! he dont know im thinkin 2 things im going to register him saturday lol think ill just put him on it miswell !

do you let lolas dad have her ? on his own or does he come to you?

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My FOB isn't on my LO's i did want him on it, but he keeps changing his mind xxx

Well...this is why I keep having little regrets because he hasn't been to see her since the day we registered her which was 4 weeks ago. He lives about 2 and a half hours away so I won't be letting him take Lola down there until she's old enough.

Definitely dont get back together if you dont want to...my fob cant seem to get the message either but they will eventually!

Good luck with it xxx

Mine is a diff situation, so i cant say fairly either, but my fob is not on the BC and it was the best decision i have ever made.

He has done nothing for scarlett, seen her once (nearly 11 weeks ago now) Paid for absolutley nothing, and when he feels like it talks to me like crap if he even troubles himself to get in contact, says he's gunna come down but doesnt show up.... you get the picture lol

But yeah, if he's a nice guy, and wants to be a dad, then i see no harm in it, just make sure you are not pushed into something you may regret



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I see a birth certificate as something that is for the child, nothing can change who the babies daddy is so I put it on, its not a weapon that i think should be used (i'm not saying you ladies are doing that!)

if my babies dad would of had nothing to do with Fin i would of still wanted him on that BC for my childs sake...

I didn't put FOB on the birth certificate because he didn't want to be on it :-/ I asked him to come with me and he said he didn't want to. He said he doesn't matter and the only reason he would be on it is to get custody of Bella if i died, and that he doesn't think my family would make it very difficult for him to get custody of her and he doesn't want that hassle :-/

I'm glad he's not on it anyway, i don't want him having the same rights as me, he can barely look after himself, let alone a baby!