How hard is it to call him daddy?

suzanne108 · Feb 17th, 2010, 11:36 AM

just wondered how difficult you find it to call fob "daddy"?

Lola is never gonna know he's her dad unless I start saying things like "daddy is coming today" etc....

Am I the only one that finds it hard?

lou_w34 · Feb 17th, 2010, 11:46 AM

Very hard!!
But as you no he's only seen her once, i dont even think he has earnt the right to be called daddy.

If i ever mention him to a friend, i just call him by his name, i never say 'scarletts dad'

xxxxxx

tinkabells · Feb 17th, 2010, 12:01 PM

Very hard, so called him his name, and then when he heard me saying it he winced but hey you aint been there, why get the full name? xxx

teal · Feb 17th, 2010, 12:05 PM

I think I'd find it hard. My ex still wants nothing to do with the baby so I worry all the time about explaining it to LO.

MissEfendi · Feb 17th, 2010, 12:07 PM

I find it so hard. I especially hate it also when he says 'My son' and I get so angry and want to shout out ' your son? do you change his bum? feed him? sing him to sleep? take him for his appointments? endure the sleepless nights? know what makes him laugh? play with him? rub his gums when it is sore? share your bed with him?" and so on. Just because he produces the sperm and is making sure he throws his weight around since it was his sperm, does not mean he is a DADDY or that he has the right to say "MY son" it takes much more than that.
I carried him, I gave birth to him, I have been there every single second of his 6 months of life. He is MY son until one day he becomes an adult and will be a person in his own right but definitely, I hate saying Daddy or father because he is just not a nice person and C is just too good to have a father like that.

bloodbinds · Feb 17th, 2010, 12:11 PM

My family and I call him 'The Sperm Donor' - Because so far that's all he is. He has to earn the name 'Daddy'

nievesmama · Feb 17th, 2010, 12:46 PM

I dont refer to my youngests fob as dad, he has seen her once for 10 mins (if that) at a day old. Shes 15 mths now.
He harrassed me, threatened me all the way through my pregnancy and hounded me into having to flee my home. What decent ` dad` does that?? x

suzanne108 · Feb 17th, 2010, 15:52 PM

MissEfendi - I know exactly what you mean. He sometimes calls her "our little girl" which pisses me off because she is MY little girl. He even commented on my FB profile pic which was a pic of her saying lots of love daddy....I deleted it on the advice of the girls here!!!

I do in my head think of him as the sperm donor....dad is something he definitely hasnt earned yet. But I cant say things like that to Lola....what happens when she's 5 or 6 and asking questions. Which is why I wish I could call him daddy to her but the words just wont come out of my mouth!!!!

Also....if mummy isnt her first word she's gonna be in trouble lol so that is being drilled into her head already

suzanne108 · Feb 17th, 2010, 15:53 PM

MissEfendi - I know exactly what you mean. He sometimes calls her "our little girl" which pisses me off because she is MY little girl. He even commented on my FB profile pic which was a pic of her saying lots of love daddy....I deleted it on the advice of the girls here!!!

I do in my head think of him as the sperm donor....dad is something he definitely hasnt earned yet. But I cant say things like that to Lola....what happens when she's 5 or 6 and asking questions. Which is why I wish I could call him daddy to her but the words just wont come out of my mouth!!!!

Also....if mummy isnt her first word she's gonna be in trouble lol so that is being drilled into her head already

purpledahlia · Feb 18th, 2010, 07:49 AM

yeah i agree with what everyone has said, I just use his name tbh, he hasnt even asked to come see her so i dont think i have to worry about it yet

Feb 17th, 2010, 11:36 AM	#1
suzanne108 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Manchester Posts: 6,844	How hard is it to call him daddy? just wondered how difficult you find it to call fob "daddy"? Lola is never gonna know he's her dad unless I start saying things like "daddy is coming today" etc.... Am I the only one that finds it hard?

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Feb 17th, 2010, 11:46 AM	#2
lou_w34 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 1,988	Very hard!! But as you no he's only seen her once, i dont even think he has earnt the right to be called daddy. If i ever mention him to a friend, i just call him by his name, i never say 'scarletts dad' xxxxxx

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Feb 17th, 2010, 12:01 PM	#3
tinkabells Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 4,088	Very hard, so called him his name, and then when he heard me saying it he winced but hey you aint been there, why get the full name? xxx

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Feb 17th, 2010, 12:05 PM	#4
teal Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 11,385	I think I'd find it hard. My ex still wants nothing to do with the baby so I worry all the time about explaining it to LO.

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Feb 17th, 2010, 12:07 PM	#5
MissEfendi Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: London Posts: 100	I find it so hard. I especially hate it also when he says 'My son' and I get so angry and want to shout out ' your son? do you change his bum? feed him? sing him to sleep? take him for his appointments? endure the sleepless nights? know what makes him laugh? play with him? rub his gums when it is sore? share your bed with him?" and so on. Just because he produces the sperm and is making sure he throws his weight around since it was his sperm, does not mean he is a DADDY or that he has the right to say "MY son" it takes much more than that. I carried him, I gave birth to him, I have been there every single second of his 6 months of life. He is MY son until one day he becomes an adult and will be a person in his own right but definitely, I hate saying Daddy or father because he is just not a nice person and C is just too good to have a father like that.

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Feb 17th, 2010, 12:11 PM	#6
bloodbinds Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Birmingham Posts: 6,563	My family and I call him 'The Sperm Donor' - Because so far that's all he is. He has to earn the name 'Daddy'

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Feb 17th, 2010, 12:46 PM	#7
nievesmama Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Far. far away Posts: 601	I dont refer to my youngests fob as dad, he has seen her once for 10 mins (if that) at a day old. Shes 15 mths now. He harrassed me, threatened me all the way through my pregnancy and hounded me into having to flee my home. What decent ` dad` does that?? x

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Feb 17th, 2010, 15:52 PM	#8
suzanne108 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Manchester Posts: 6,844	MissEfendi - I know exactly what you mean. He sometimes calls her "our little girl" which pisses me off because she is MY little girl. He even commented on my FB profile pic which was a pic of her saying lots of love daddy....I deleted it on the advice of the girls here!!! I do in my head think of him as the sperm donor....dad is something he definitely hasnt earned yet. But I cant say things like that to Lola....what happens when she's 5 or 6 and asking questions. Which is why I wish I could call him daddy to her but the words just wont come out of my mouth!!!! Also....if mummy isnt her first word she's gonna be in trouble lol so that is being drilled into her head already

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Feb 17th, 2010, 15:53 PM	#9
suzanne108 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Manchester Posts: 6,844	MissEfendi - I know exactly what you mean. He sometimes calls her "our little girl" which pisses me off because she is MY little girl. He even commented on my FB profile pic which was a pic of her saying lots of love daddy....I deleted it on the advice of the girls here!!! I do in my head think of him as the sperm donor....dad is something he definitely hasnt earned yet. But I cant say things like that to Lola....what happens when she's 5 or 6 and asking questions. Which is why I wish I could call him daddy to her but the words just wont come out of my mouth!!!! Also....if mummy isnt her first word she's gonna be in trouble lol so that is being drilled into her head already

Status: Offline

Feb 18th, 2010, 07:49 AM	#10
purpledahlia Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 14,871	yeah i agree with what everyone has said, I just use his name tbh, he hasnt even asked to come see her so i dont think i have to worry about it yet

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