Pointless...rant... need to get it out!

lou_w34 · Feb 17th, 2010, 10:44 AM

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xxxx

teal · Feb 17th, 2010, 11:26 AM

It's annoying that he thinks it's ok to swan in and out of her life when he feels like it. 10 weeks is a long time to not see his daughter

wonder if he will show up to meet you.

That's great Scarlett is smiling at everyone but it would bother be aswell

Why should he get to see her all smiles when he doesn't bother most of the time.

Sending you lots of hugs

xx

suzanne108 · Feb 17th, 2010, 11:27 AM

I would be hoping she didnt do it too. Can you train her to cry?! Or just before you pass her to him pinch her ha (only joking!!!)

If she does it I would laugh and say 'she does that to everyone!'

Will he actually turn up anyway? Sounds like you haven't had much luck with him

lou_w34 · Feb 17th, 2010, 11:44 AM

It doesnt seem fair to me either

I dunno if he will, so far he hasnt bothered... but who knows whats goin though his head!

If she does i will deff say she does it to everyone! haha Shame you cant train them too cry lol

And WOW!!! look at your bump teal!!! any day now!!!! Soooo exciting!!

suzanne108 · Feb 17th, 2010, 11:48 AM

Even better say "she does it to everyone, she even did it to a tramp on the street/bus/train on the way here"

She sounds like a lovely friendly baby

xx

teal · Feb 17th, 2010, 12:02 PM

I agree about making a point of saying she does it to everyone. Don't want him feeling special or anything!!

Thanks Lou

Still can't believe how close I am. Really hoping I don't go over due - don't think I could face another 3 weeks of pregnancy! xx

MissEfendi · Feb 17th, 2010, 12:12 PM

He cannot make demands like that, You should stick to an agreement of when he can see her and if he does not make it, then tough he has to wait until it is the agreed time to see her again. I agreed every other fortnight with my ex, if he does not make it, he will have to wait until it is his time.

I know what you mean aboout the smiles and stuff, I do all the hard work with C so I don't want the ex to get to make him smile and laugh ( so far C has only cried and moaned when in his father;s presence) but one day he will smile and laugh for him and I will probably be quite upset only because he is useless and rubbish and he does not deserve to have the nice side of our son.

lou_w34 · Feb 17th, 2010, 12:25 PM

Ahhh i hope you dont either!! Im glad scarlett decided to come a tad early! I dont think i could have handled going over due! lol

And

at the tramp comment lol! I should so use that! lol

Its hard to get him to stick to arranged dates.... he doesnt turn up, just assumes he can come when he wants, and im to much of a chicken to say "no, not untill you actually decide to bother comming" incase he gets all arsey! Anything for an easy life

lol

xxx

teal · Feb 17th, 2010, 13:58 PM

Thank you

I'll keep you updated anyway!

I see what you mean about having an easy life

It's bad that he thinks once every 10 weeks is enough. xx

sweetlullaby · Feb 17th, 2010, 16:13 PM

Lou there's an easy life and there's letting him walk all over you hun!

I would say to him look you can come see scarlett every wed in town for an hour or something like that. If he doesnt appear then he cant come on the fri or sat it will be next wednesday as arranged. basically i agree completly with MissEfendi im sure you have a lot of better things to do than wait on him.

Love the smiling at a tramp idea

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Feb 17th, 2010, 11:26 AM	#2
teal Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 11,385	It's annoying that he thinks it's ok to swan in and out of her life when he feels like it. 10 weeks is a long time to not see his daughter wonder if he will show up to meet you. That's great Scarlett is smiling at everyone but it would bother be aswell Why should he get to see her all smiles when he doesn't bother most of the time. Sending you lots of hugs xx

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suzanne108 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Manchester Posts: 6,844	I would be hoping she didnt do it too. Can you train her to cry?! Or just before you pass her to him pinch her ha (only joking!!!) If she does it I would laugh and say 'she does that to everyone!' Will he actually turn up anyway? Sounds like you haven't had much luck with him

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lou_w34 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 1,988	It doesnt seem fair to me either I dunno if he will, so far he hasnt bothered... but who knows whats goin though his head! If she does i will deff say she does it to everyone! haha Shame you cant train them too cry lol And WOW!!! look at your bump teal!!! any day now!!!! Soooo exciting!!

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Feb 17th, 2010, 11:48 AM	#5
suzanne108 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Manchester Posts: 6,844	Even better say "she does it to everyone, she even did it to a tramp on the street/bus/train on the way here" She sounds like a lovely friendly baby xx

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teal Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 11,385	I agree about making a point of saying she does it to everyone. Don't want him feeling special or anything!! Thanks Lou Still can't believe how close I am. Really hoping I don't go over due - don't think I could face another 3 weeks of pregnancy! xx

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MissEfendi Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: London Posts: 100	He cannot make demands like that, You should stick to an agreement of when he can see her and if he does not make it, then tough he has to wait until it is the agreed time to see her again. I agreed every other fortnight with my ex, if he does not make it, he will have to wait until it is his time. I know what you mean aboout the smiles and stuff, I do all the hard work with C so I don't want the ex to get to make him smile and laugh ( so far C has only cried and moaned when in his father;s presence) but one day he will smile and laugh for him and I will probably be quite upset only because he is useless and rubbish and he does not deserve to have the nice side of our son.

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Feb 17th, 2010, 12:25 PM	#8
lou_w34 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 1,988	Ahhh i hope you dont either!! Im glad scarlett decided to come a tad early! I dont think i could have handled going over due! lol And at the tramp comment lol! I should so use that! lol Its hard to get him to stick to arranged dates.... he doesnt turn up, just assumes he can come when he wants, and im to much of a chicken to say "no, not untill you actually decide to bother comming" incase he gets all arsey! Anything for an easy life lol xxx

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Feb 17th, 2010, 13:58 PM	#9
teal Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 11,385	Thank you I'll keep you updated anyway! I see what you mean about having an easy life It's bad that he thinks once every 10 weeks is enough. xx

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Feb 17th, 2010, 16:13 PM	#10
sweetlullaby Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Uk Posts: 6,338	Lou there's an easy life and there's letting him walk all over you hun! I would say to him look you can come see scarlett every wed in town for an hour or something like that. If he doesnt appear then he cant come on the fri or sat it will be next wednesday as arranged. basically i agree completly with MissEfendi im sure you have a lot of better things to do than wait on him. Love the smiling at a tramp idea

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