Well I've been mooching around in here for a couple days and answered a few topics but now I think I'll introduce myself.

My name is Helen - although I like to be called Ellie but I'll answer to either lol - I'm 24 years old and I have a LO whos 15 weeks on Friday called Josh.

On 2nd Feb me and Rob (OH) had a ridiculous argument over nothing and he got up, packed a bag and left for Sheffield. No amount of me asking persuaded him to come home to even talk. He eventually came back on the Saturday with £50 for Josh and told me he didn't love me anymore and we were over for good. He left at 5 that night and I cried my eyes out. We've been texting back and forth about legal and him asking about how Josh is.

He visited again this Saturday gone (13th) and then told me 'never say never'. Now I'm not getting my hopes up, but to me thats like he wants to get back together further down the line. He's given me to our wedding anniversary on the 8th August to change but like I say I don't want to get my hopes up.

Well - lol - end of my long-winded whinge. Thanks for reading lol

Just curious as to why you need to change? Surely he should love you the way you are, you shouldn't have to change for anyone x

I was wondering this as well. xx

Big hugs hun xxx

As the other ladies have said why should you have to change?

My ex was bit like that, said he would think about us getting back, i then woke up and realised that if he wanted to be with me. He wouldnt need to think about he would be here beside me.

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I agree that you shouldn't have to change for someone

Yeah i wouldnt change for anyone, he did love you the way you were when you first met, so why now change? Do you think his met someone else and isnt sure it will work so keeping you on the backburner for just incase? xxx

The reason he wants me to change is cause over the time we were together I changed into this mardy, snappy, horrible person and I was a nightmare to be around. I was always nagging at him for the slightest thing, moaning at him for nothing etc.

I know you all say why should anyone change for their other half, but I wouldn't want to live with me like that. I know myself I need to change and I'm not just doing it for Rob, I'm doing it for myself and Josh too.

Oh I see now. Maybe go to the doctors and see about your hormone levels because if your snapping and moody all the time they may be causing it Hope you manage to get things sorted xx

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