Last night, I had an interesting text convo with the father of my children...

He sends me texts daily begging me to go back with him etc, and last night he was saying how he need me to believe in him that he can give up the drink etc cos unless I believe in him and believe he can do it, he won't be able to.

So I replied telling him that if he should be doing it for anyone, it's his kids cos it's them who need him to be a father.

He then replied that he is doing it for them, but obviously I don't know how much I mean to him...and that he needs to talk to me face to face about something I will be angry about.

So I told him to text it to me now as if he were to piss me off in person I don't know what I'll do as he had pushed me to my limit already, plus it would only stress me out wondering what he could have done.

So he sent a text saying until xmas, he had kept a good hold on his drinking...but the thought of facing another xmas without me and DS and bump was too much for him to handle...and got drunk. He then goes on to say how he doesn't know how it happened, but he SLEPT WITH HIS EX! AND NOW SHE IS PREGNANT!!!!!!

I sent a text back saying "oh ****'s devout Jehova Witness parents must be sooo proud of their daughter. Congratulations I suppose!"

He then text me saying he doesnt blame me for being angry at him! I was like...I'm not angry, tbh I don't care!

Am I supposed to be upset by this? Or am I right to not give two shakes of a soggy towel about it? Does he expect me to be a big crying mess about the fact that he is an abusive alcoholic who has got another woman up the duff?

i would have been the same...not cared. I suppose he convinced himself that you would be devastated?

wow - i would have done the same and not cared either

I would have been the same hun x

I wouldn't care either. To hell with him.

you can do better.. he should want to change for himself.. if hes changing for you one arguement could make him turn back to drink... i think you should just focus on your children cause he was no good the 1st tym and i doubt he wil be this tym x

ROFL He has sent texts since, trying to pass the blame onto me! Saying he had controlled his drinking till xmas, but couldnt face xmas without me and our son and bump...so he found himself drinking over xmas and that's how he ended up in bed with his ex!!! I'm sorry, I didn't realise I was there forcing the booze down his neck, then making him shag his ex?

After me pointing out that him sleeping with someone is not down to me and if his "undying love" were really true, he wouldn't be off getting others preg, esp when I'm heavily preg with his daughter! So he text me saying that who he sleeps with is none of my business and unless I told him I wanted him back etc, it still wasn't my business. However, because he got his ex pregnant, it now is my business because he will have to share his time with this baby too...

I pointed out to him that I don't care who he is sleeping with, I never HAVE cared while we aren't together and tbh I still don't see why her being preg too affects me or my children. Esp as he lives 3 hours away from us and it's unlikely my son will care as he doesn't like his father anyway!

Wow why does he feel it neccesary to try and involve me when I have enough to be doing with the whole "giving birth to a baby" thing tomorrow and preparing and making sure my DS knows what is going on and not worried that mummy hasn't come home yet from the docs!!!

i would ignore him hun...ohhh are you having your LO tomorrow??!! xx

Not heard from twat man today, yeah induction in morning!! Woop woop!!!

Good Luck today hun x