sorry girls this might be long....but i need a bit of advice...

most of u will know about all the on going probs i had with FOB and his family, before he went away.
Now ive had to cut all contact with him as he was sending me letters even though i wasnt responding and he was upsetting me.

his sister, to start with was texting me every day and when i didn't reply she'd text me again. i finally got fed up and told her that i was sorry but i didnt have time to sit around waiting for her to text in order to txt back. her texts are now so few and far between its unbelievable

shes seen Ellis ONCE since he was born, (5 weeks ago!) and the 2nd time she'd text to ask if she could come, she left me sitting in the house all day waiting for her,only to text at 5 o'clock to say she couldnt make it! i was so angry at her, it was a whole day wasted completely.

i then was told just before xmas that FOB had pics up of my LO on his bebo. i was fuming, as 1) he hasnt been around, and he hasnt got any photos and 2) he damn well didnt have my permission to put them there. i was then able to see for myself that it was MY pics that had been put on his pro, and it really upset me. his neice had uploaded them, even though they were private, and that meant she had to have saved them to her ocmp before putting them up. i was so upset i called his sister, asking extremely nicely for my pics to be taken down, as he had no right to have them and that the neice had no bloody right taking them and passing them off as his under the heading "MY precious baby boy!" his? HIS? dont fucking think so!!!!
his sister and neice said they'd take them off...two weeks later, there still on there and she'd even had the cheek to put up the SAME pic for his profile display as me.

his ister has text me twice since to see if she can come down and see ellis and twice av made sure i wasnt going to be in. She wants to come down and take pics, to take into HIM and i point blank refuse to allow it.

Am i in the wrong to be pissed off and not want anything more to do with them? they've done nothing for ellis, and the present she brought down for him when he was born had her OWN little boys name on it!!! it was a memory book and when i opened it half of it has been filled in, she hadnt even bothered to get ellis a new one, never mind make sure that the one she was given me hadnt been used!!!
i dont want them here, and i especially dont want them now that they've deliberately ignored my request to have the pics removed, even though ive reported his profile to the bebo site!

what do you girls think? and again, im sorry its so long!


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Sounds like they wanna come down and get there own pics so they can give them to him so he can put them on bebo becuase they would be 'his' pics. Your not in the wrong hun, they've shown no proper interest x

Agree with above!
They've shown no real interest so why should you allow it??

Id be furious too, have bebo replied back to you?

Try not to let them get to you

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No way r u in the wrong! Id be kicking off as well hun. Bebo should either cancel his profile or remove the pics.
They havent bothered there arse to show any sign of concern towards ellis, and from the sounds of things they are just causing u more stress, which in turn will effect ellis. So i would stand by ur guns, keep them outta ur life, and try and keep urself stress free. At least if he writes u can put the letters in the bin without even reading them.

Hack into his bebo urself and delete the account lol Its not like hes updating it!! lol x

You're not in the wrong I'd be furious aswell. I agree if they are not showing genuine interest in Ellis and causing you all this stress then you are better off not wanting anything to do with them.
Sending you hugs xx

First of all lots of

I know it's easier to say and harder to do but in such situations when u really can't influence on them - it's better for urself trying to keep calm. I know it's not easy at all, but the more u think about it...the more u will be upset. I genuine beleive - what goes around comes around...so if he and his family act this way...they will get what they deserve in some or other ways...just sooner or later.

Can you not report the pics? So they have to be taken down or bebo, does it asap themselves?
But i dont think your wrong at all, i would do the same!!!xxx

I would report him on bebo and tell them that they have posted pictures of your child etc and that you want them removed type thing.

Also I would contact him family bring them around and have some serious words with them. Tell them that you dont want fob involved in any way etc and that if they want to see ellis they have to abide by your rules and go by what suits you and your LO. Specify things like no pictures etc and tell them if they dont show up or upset you or make things awkward for you in any way they're out. They wont get to see him and tough sh** but its your LO your thinking of and you cant be hanging around all day waiting on them showing up or having them deliberatly defy you and walk all over you! Stress the whole "one strike and your out" and stick to it hun otherwise they will end up making your life difficult and will constantly stress you out and upset you which isnt good when you've not long had your LO! If they continue to mess you about etc and wont remove them pictures tell them you've had enough and your reporting them to the police for theft of pictures of your LO, and for posting them on the internet without your permission and tell them they will get done for it and possibly be put on the sex offenders list for having images of a baby on their computer without the mothers permission etc!

I kind of waffled a bit but my main point is tell them to piss the hell off and not to mess with you! Be the "bad guy" and dont let them walk all over you!!

Heard anymore, are the pics still up? xxx

I agree with what everyone else has said hun. I would be fuming to