Matthew's finally settled so can update lol

Well....they came round just after 7pm I was so nervous and shaky right up to them coming i just couldnt relax!His mum was acting all nice and kept saying he's gorgeous and he reminds me of FOB with his nature etc which really pissed me off but i kept my mouth shut coz i knew if i said what i wanted to say it would start an argument etc. I nattered on a bit about him feeding etc and his weight gain etc and a few of his wee quirks and FOB barely spoke. I mean hardly at all. He just shied behind his mother and seemed really really uncomfortable and couldnt even look at me just murmered hi hope your ok. and here's a present for matthew its like a teddy. His mum then started saying something about photo's etc and how both their phones were messed up and they couldnt get the picture we sent them(yeah right, FOB's phone is like top notch iphone type thing) and for FOB to get his phone out. It got a bit tense because i said we can bluetooth a few and his mum went to speak and FOB said to my mum can i take a photo if him and my mum looked at him and said "its not me you need to ask its his mother" and i said yes one photo and he took a picture then shook his phone and said dam phone keeps playing up and went to take another and i said my mum will use her phone and take a few and bluetooth you them. I then said that he wasnt to put any of the photo's on bebo or facebook that i hadnt even put any up and i didnt want his photo's plastered all over the net type thing. And he said "he wouldn't do that" "he would ask me first" ...not sure if i believe him or not but got a mate keeping an eye out on facebook for me. His mum then said about holding him and i said to FOB do you want to hold him and he held him for a few mins really awkward and handed him straight back i then said to FOB mother did she want to hold him and FOB said to her "now dont start crying" and she said yes and held him and then he started bawling so she handed him back to me and he stopped crying immediately kind of felt a bit of secret pleasure at that lol his mum then said something about dont be afraid to ask for anything and then they left. They were ok part from photo thing think they wanted to stand their and snap lots of pictures etc.

Just thinking about it all....and kind of feel a bit sad. FOB seemed almost like he didnt want to be there and when he left i opened the bag and they'd got him a teddy and a 3 pack of 3-6month vests. I mean...its his son and he claims he cares...his cousin gave him lots of baby stuff etc and his mum said they'd been gathering bits and pieces ages ago....but yet im kind of wondering where is it all? Im not being greedy etc I dunno im just dissapointed and feel a bit weird that they basically came, got to hold him, got a few photo's and spent probably less than a tenner on him. Yet they have demanded so many things about access and wanted him to have FOB surname etc and birth certificates and urg my heads just a bit confused over it all. I really dont know. I mean his mum said not to be afraid to ask for anything....should it not be FOB offering?

Just gonna keep an eye out over the next week or so and if i feel or notice that im being followed or theres a car floating about outside the house etc then il ring the police and report it and get advice. thanks for the advice about panic stuff etc i worry that id be home alone with matthew and FOB would show up at the door and harrass me or something.

x

Aww sounds like you're meeting wasn't too bad, and at least the first one is out the way

FOBs mum sounds so interfering though, almost like she is controlling FOB?! From what you say I just can't imagine him visiting on his own or off his own back?

A pack of 3-6 month vests????!!!!!! Lol, weird. I would have expected a cute little outfit or at least vests/sleepsuits in the right size! My FOB was the same saying he's been buying stuff....and when I asked what "stuff" he said socks cos everything else was pink or blue. Suppose he doesn't buy his own socks so its a start

Matthew is lovely by the way xxx

Yeah...I dunno, im almost getting the impression that his mother is pushing him and he isnt really bothered anymore coz matthew's a boy ...he always said he wanted a girl. Urg just got it all spinning around in my head and had a look at the teddy and vests again....the vests his mum bought when she first found out i was pregnant. I know that for a fact coz FOB told me right after she bought them and that it was a three pack of vests on a hanger from asda.When i was 9 weeks pregnant. And the teddy has been on offer in tescos for months at a £5 ....so basically he's spent a fiver on his own child. I dont know... its kind of upsetting me because im confused now...i dont know what he wants?! Is it that he wants the novelty factor of having a son as in take him out and about etc (which isnt gonna happen) and show him off? Or is he just gonna disapear(would be better lol) or what? Urg need to stop thinking about it all!

I'd take each day as it comes and try not to worry too much, easier said than done and I will need to take my own advice when the time comes!

Its only a matter of time before you should find out what FOB plans on doing. I'd keep visiting at your house, or at least you should be there, and they have to stick to your rules. Show them who's boss and make the point that YOU are in control of this situation (even if you dont feel it!)

I felt exactly the same when i met fob with scarlett! My legs felt so shaky and i felt sicky!

Anyways... it didnt sound like it went too badly, it sounds like you were in control, which is good

Hopefully he wont put any pics up, at least without asking you first!

I dont think your being greedy anyways, its not a bad thing to expect him to provide a bit more than he has for his son, after all, i expect youve spent hundreds already, so it wouldnt kill him to put his hands in his pocket a bit more.

I think he needs to grow some balls aswell and step out from behind his mother a bit more!

xxxx