This is a long thread so sorry for the rant. Also opinions on what happened would be greatly appricated.

I told MIL that I no longer wanted to hear about anything that happened to ex and unless it was affecting the welfare of baby then tell me NOTHING. One minute she saying that when he seen the 3d pic of the baby and threw it across the table, then she told me that she thinks that once LO is born he will see baby and realise he made a huge mistake and want me back. My reply, I dont give FUCK what he wants, I dont want him back.

Anyway next day (yesterday) he sends me a text saying that he seen the pic and thought baby was gorgeous, and could be know the sex, and that he wanted to talk to me about getting stuff in for the baby and arrangements that needed made for when it comes along. I took the mature way and foned him, Im not getting into arguements over texts. he started on a rant, so I lost the head and said, U know where I live, U wanna talk about ur child then be at my house for 4!

Much to my surprise he turned up, I showed him the dvd of baby, he sat like a little boy with his mouth hung open watching it, proceeded to tell me how much he wants to be involved and what he wants to do with baby and all this rubbish, ( i wont hold my breath) He then went on to talk about his relationship!!! WTF!!! About how hes moved on and is happy now, and how he realised after 5 years that we Just werent suited.
I gave off to him that he hasnt even as much as gave me 50p towards a blanket for his baby.

Then he text me today saying that although he seemed disappointed about the sex of the baby he is genuinely pleased that it was just shock, and he loves the name I have picked. And to make him a list of things that I need for my bag and babies hospital bag and he will get them.

What u make of it all, and apologies for long post.

Mmm i would actually, send him a list and give him a time limit so that if he doesnt come through you have enough time to get it yourself, but i think he has now realised you are pregnant, yes it does take them awhile and because he has seen baby on dvd, its now real to him
But i think he was telling you about his new relationship because, he prob wants to show you, that cos you dont want him anymore, at leats someone else does, lets just hope she doesnt go through what you do, but nif she is a cow, lets hope he does hahaha xxx

Well I cant fully blame het cause it takes too. But I hate her. She split up my marriage, She knew he was married and knew I was pregnant and yet still went for him. So I hope he puts her thru shit to be honest lol

What kinda things should I ask for? I dunno lol

Ask for expensive stuff!!!!

Its good that he's come round...although to be honest, now that my FOB has kinda come round I find it even harder than when his head was in the sand. SORRY, not what you want to hear is it?! It might just be me being weird. But I hate that he is always texting and stuff and asking things about MY baby...just after I had gotten used to him not being here. xx

Totally understand suzanne. thats y i wanted him to totally leave me alone so it would b easier to deal with. it bothers me that the longest part of the pregnancy is over and now he shows an interest. but i give him til LO is 8 weeks old til he gets bored, then we can get on with our lives x

Yeah I'm thinking (and VERRRRRY selfishly hoping) that FOB will get bored too. Mine is gonna have to travel 150 miles to get here, and although I won't be unnecessarily nasty I won't be welcoming him into my parents house with open arms!! I reckon he'll get bored of baby not doing much....so yeah they may disappear again.

Thats the annoying thing....they can come and go as they please and there isn't much you can do about it. If he wants to be in LOs life we can't obviously push them out...but then its so easy for them to walk away. So unpredictable, and we don't want that for our bundles of joy!!

I won't be making FOB feel welcome until he has well and truly proved himself (the amount I hate him though, he'll prob never prove himself!!)

I wish I could forget my feelings and just think about LO knowing its daddy.....but its so hard!!

(sorry I waffled!) xx

Id write him a list and like Tinkabells said, give him a time limit so if hes not forthcoming you still have time to get it.
I understand about thinking of the baby as yours, when you have noone to support you etc you do feel that way. It slightly annoys me that these men can put us through crap, not wanting to know etc yet when they finally grow up and think they are ready we have to allow them in.
Good luck hun, hope it goes ok xx

Deffinatley ask for expensive stuff! heehee
Its hard to know what to suggest... who knows how he's gunna act when bubs gets here. Until then your playing the waiting game to see how he's gunna react.

I think they enjoy making life complicated!

suzanne i totally get what you mean...ive cut all contact with FOB because i think its completely unfair that he didnt take an intrest my full pregnancy in me or my baby, but the minute hes here hes sending cards and letters welcoming "HIS baby boy into the world" hah, no chance, hes paid for nothing, done nothing and basically he can go F**k himself.

ash, make a list, a BIG EXPENSIVE list, and hand it to him. then watch his face go white as he realises theres no way out and theres nothing he can do! haha

xxx

Yeah big list, like expensive moses baskets, baby bedding, blankets, loads of stuff, go to like mothercare website and the things you, want but wouldnt buy yourself get him to buy xxx