For those of you who don't know the story - my ex ended things when I refused to have a termination back in June. I've not spoken to him since I was 4 weeks pregnant. We exchanged some messages in August when I was around 12 weeks with him basically reminding me that I've ruined his life and it's unfair what I'm doing to him (by having the baby)

That was the last I'd heard from him until the week before last.

He sent me an email saying that he had a new bebo account. At first I thought this was just an automated email but it came from his email address and he sent it to my 2 email accounts.

I ignored them at first but when I received more I emailed him. I just said that I received his friend requests/emails but reminded him that when he said he doesn't want to be involved I was fine with it but it meant he couldn't contact me whenever he has nothing better to do. I asked if this was still the case and if it was I'd appreciate it if he didn't send me emails about social websites.

I received a reply from him saying he needs to know how I am. He also said he needs to know if I went ahead with the pregnancy and if I've had it. (he really did say it) He added at the end that once I tell him he'll leave me alone and never contact me again

I'm just confused and angry. He knows fine well that I kept the baby. I also have no idea what to make of him saying he'll leave me alone once I tell him. Does that mean if I don't answer him he'll keep emailing me? Why does it matter to him if he still doesn't want to be involved.

I've not emailed back and I'm not sure if I will. He still doesn't want to be apart of my babys life and I really can't deal with him popping up every few months for no reason whatsoever. I know it's only an email but it really gets to me having to see his name.

Aww huge hugs hun.
I dont know what to say, but i think if it was me id ignore him to. He cant say what he has and expect you to be ok with him.
xx

If he still doesnt want to be involved either way, then why does he care so much??
I wouldnt bother emailing him back, unless he shows some commitment to you and the baby.

Men!

xx

I would just say to him, you made it clear you want no part of whatever i do, so why do you want to know these things? lets just leave it how you wanted it.

then dont reply,

Thanks for the replies girls. I appreciate them

If he doesnt want to be involved at all then why does he 'need' to know? Sod that ignor him completly dont respond at all to anything unless he turns up at your house armed with the best reason in the world as to why he abandoned you. That just my opinion sorry got cross! Guess you've seen his true colours.

I wouldnt email back, i would block him from sending you emails, but i know it can be hard not replying when your blood is boiling, but have a think before you reply if you do xxx

He doesn't need to know anything, HE was the 1 that decided months ago he didn't want to be involved, the only reason he would need to know is if he's gonna be there for the baby from now on.

Their conscience gets the better of them in the end, it will be at the back of his mind for the rest of his life, he's got to deal with that not you.

Thanks girls
I think I'm going to leave it just now and see if he does ask about the baby. Now that he's made contact after how many months he'll probably disappear until he has nothing better to do again.

I had two more emails from him. One on the 16th and one yesterday. Pretty much having a go at me for not replying He said it's important that he knows how I am. The one yesterday said I can't ignore him and he's going to keep emailing me until I reply.

To start with I didn't even read them until this morning. I was admitted to hospital on Wednesday afternoon and kept over night until I was discharged yesterday afternoon. I felt a gush of fluid and they wanted to check I wasn't leaking amniotic fluid. They had me hooked up to a monitor for 30 mins on Wenesday night and again Thursday morning to check heart rate and movements but it was fine. After a scan which showed the fluid around my baby was fine and an internal exam confirming my cervix ws closed they let me go. The consultant couldn't tell where the fluid was coming from but took swabs to check for any infections. I'm only 30 weeks so I was terrified.

So that was why I didn't see his email.

I feel like he is trying to push me into replying to him and I feel sick at the thought he might start calling/texting me (although that would mean he would have to tell me his number and after he went to the bother of changing it I'm hoping he won't). I honestly have nothing to say to him. He wanted to know how I was and if I went ahead with the pregnancy - he knows I was keeping the baby and how I'm doing has nothing to do with him. It would be different if he was asking how the baby was and if he was now wanting to get involved but he's not. He's said he'll leave me alone once I answer but I don't want to go down the road where he thinks it's ok to contact me when it doesn't involve the baby he has walked away from.