FOB said he wud put money into my acc today to pay me back for the bouncer etc that he was gonna buy but then let me down and didnt...

well im not surprised to report theres no money in my acc.

I dont know why i keep giving him chances...

awful

Seems like he's giving you false hope, first the cot fiasco, now this

How many more times is he gonna say something then not go along with it? Is he still planning on coming up once you've had Ava?

He needs a bloody good kick up the backside!

It's horrible how much he keeps letting you and Ava down.

Sending you hugs xx

well since i feel like ranting, heres a list of times hes said he will do something and not..

1. made me make a doc appt because he didnt believe it was too late to have an abortion, so he wanted to speak to my doctor. Told him it was a waste of time id made my mind up but made an appt anyways, He didnt make it and i rang him from the appt and he spoke to doc on the phone, he acctually asked how far i was like he didnt believe me, and asked why ''could i not just take the pill'' and ''could the doc not just wait for him to get there in 15 mins'' ... er its a doc appt not a bloody friendly meeting!

2. told me he would meet up to talk i think the week later, didnt show. text me never to speak to him again or try to contact him.

3.got back in touch at about 19weeks i think it was.. said would meet when i got back from canada on holiday.stayed in touch about 2 weeks then was silent for a further 3.

4. arranged to meet up, he didnt show.

5. told him i was leaving london in 3 weeks and had 2 weeks free house sitting for the boss and could meet him to chat then.... He arranges to meet/pop over twice, neither times he did.

6. arranged to meet but instead went out and got drunk, then text at 10pm to pop over then.. i had said yes at 6 but was by 10 going to bed. -bearing in mind it wasnt my house and i was working!

7. i left london, he said he would come up, he didnt get in touch for another few weeks

8. arranged for him to come up 4 weeks in advance, he then didnt get in touch after 3 weeks and of course, didnt come up.

9. the cot fiasco

10. said he would come up again, didnt.

11. said he would order the bouncer and a steriliser set - totaled about £80, he didnt. i used money i have saved for a flat deposit.

12. said he would re-imburse me and money in by today... its not.

i dont know if he will come up, he originally was talking about coming up for the birth (because i can really plan it eh) but has since realised he cant its too unpredictable, and that he will come up newyear/jan time. am i gonna hold my breath ??? no. by now i hope he doesnt come.

He said he will open a bank acc for her and save.. as opposed to maintenence. do i trust him to do this? hell no. (anyways found out he cant open her an acc, wud have to be my acc for her he pays into-least that way i could check he is!)

ARSE

what a long list of not turning up and letting you down.....

I think I can see why you don't want to put him on the birth certificate. I think I am starting to think the same way. If my fob ever comes round I don't know how giving I can become about access after being treated so badly (me and unborn baby). Why can't your fob just make up his mind and stick to it? must b so frustrating going to bank and again seeing that he hasn't put it in... maybe he is really bad with money. I don't know. but when it's your child you would think he would try harder. I suppose at least he contacts and tries a little bit.

also, while im ranting, he told me i should go to london in jan to let his mum meet Ava and that he hates Caitlyn as a middle name and i should use Téagan as its 'irish' and he likes it, im so fed up with him. when he disappears for weeks he claims his phone AND internet are off/blocked/not working, he doesnt even have a contract its pay as you go!!! im so fed up with him. i just want him to go away now, hes causing more stress than its worth!

yea i do wish he would just make his mind up and stick to it. whatever that decision is!

its the constant letting down and lies.. empty promises.. if hes like this now and not done one thing hes said.. he will prob not get much better.. how can i let him near Ava when he will ultimately do the same to her? or is that something i should just step back and let her learn for herself????

hun im sorry to hear hes let you down again, i know its not easy to just walk away and so we give out more chances, but at the end of the day hes walking in and out of your life and hes going to do the same with ava. i wouldnt let him.

he needs a bloody good kick up the arse, your both better off without him at all...dont let him do this to you any more hun, its not worth it.

stay strong and keep ur head up and remember that what we accept for ourselves, we wont accept for our little ones. she doesnt need him and neither do u

hun. its him thats missing out, believe me, but if it was me, i'd be drawing a line, you've put up with more than enough now...and gave him enough chances

xxx

Did he not pay for the cot then? I think I missed that, but it seems not! Honestly he really is messing you around. But you are in a much better place now, back at home..you have got stronger and stronger and I think that you will just let his let downs wash right over you! You and Ava, keep moving ahead. Its up to him if hes going to pull his finger out and be a father! Hugs