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Dunno if any of u seen my post in 3rd tri or not, but I had a 30 week MW appointment yesterday, went up, got checked, and she decided to admit me to hospital! Baby is 1/5 engaged, and they thought that waters had broken, so they kept me in overnite to monitor me and LO.
I of course let MIL know, and she let FOB know, which i dont care about. So he foned me and said, I know ur being kept in, Im just gonna go ahead on holiday on monday and if baby comes while Im away Il get an earlier flight back home!
I near fell through the f*cking floor. All he spoke about was his holiday, Im mean WTF!! I dont actually give a shit about his holiday, my baby is more important.
He then said he wanted to speak to a doctor to find out if it was ok for him to go on holiday, and what health implications would arise to baby if it did come now.
I just thought u f*cking arsehole, u are not controlling this situation, with MY baby, cause ur more concerned about ur holiday, than u are the child, and U aint dont nothing for 7 months so why the hell should u start now.
So I had a long think in hospital last nite........
And the decision I have came to is.............
He will NOT be informed when I go into labour, as i orginally said that I would. I always said he would be contacted, and he could wait outside in the waiting room but wasnt getting into the birthing room.
But I text him today and told me to leave me alone, that until he gets his priorities in the correct order, then he was NOT to contact me again. And if he did, he would NOT get a reply from me. So i told him that once baby is BORN then he will get a fone call saying he has a son or daughter, weighing such in such, and called such in such.
Some of u may think this is harsh, but I feel its the best decision for baby and me. With the high risk of early labour, and the stress he causes me, I can not be doing with him causing un-needed stress to me.
well done, What an ass. Talking about holidays while your in hospital and trying to take over and talking to a doctor. He doesnt deserve the right to know. Go you!
Hes a f*cking dick, he dont deserve to be a daddy. I hope he has a horrible time on holiday, that it rains the whole time, that he runs outta money, and that someone steals his passport and his case lol
Infact, I just hope he goes away and stays there, then i would get peace from him.
I realised something last nite, I kept wishing that karma would catch up with him, and he would be punished for the horrid things he has done to me.
Then it hit me........ Im gonna be the karma that bites him in the arse.
When it comes down to it, im gonna have the final say in regards to baby, and its gonna hit him like a train wreck when he cant do and demand what he wants.
The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. That`ll be enough karma to last him a lifetime. Hes a control freak, and I wont let him control my baby.
I don't think it was harsh at all. You didn't need the extra stress to begin with and you really don't need it now that you're at risk from early labour
I can't believe he had the cheek to talk to you about his holiday when you were in hospital.
I didnt see your post Ash but what a complete and utter prick! lets hope he gets beaten up and mugged or something eh!
Do what is right for you, let him bugger off enjoy it while he can because he's going to be getting all his disposable income eaten up by the CSA pretty soon.
Hope you and Baby are ok!! Cant believe he was going on about his holiday whilst you were in hospital!! Selfish Pig he is!!
Your doing what is right for you and your LO and you've thought about it and made up your mind. At the end of the day there is always gonna be someone that says thats harsh etc but they arnt in your shoes and dont know exactly whats going on or has happened.
I've found that every decision i've made in regards to FOB i havnt made in any hurry. I've thought it over and over and seeked advice etc and when someone says "you shouldn't do that" "he has rights" or "thats harsh" etc etc I have smiled politely and said I've had nine months to think about all of this and you dont know what its like etc!
Im also not informing FOB when I go into Labour. xx
I've stumbled across your post by accident but I am so sorry he's being such a selfish fool.
Anyone with a bit of sense would not go on holiday if there was the slightest risk of their child being born prematurely while they were away.
I think you have to do what feels right for you and the baby, he's putting himself first, you are putting the baby first. I can't imagine how stressed you might feel going into labour with your ex waiting outside, if he cared enough to even turn up and wait, which sounds doubtful anyway in his case.
He might even be glad you are giving him this 'out.' He can happily not turn up now and blame you for keeping him away. Of course, I don't know him so I might be being unfair in saying that. But if he knows you are in hospital at risk of premature birth and still says he's going on holiday then that's why I have doubts he would come and wait if you called him.
It took me a few seconds to work out what FOB meant and at first I came up with a less polite version which I think might suit him better than the real meaning. You stick to your guns and do whatever you know in your heart is the best thing for you and your baby.
