Hiya,
As some of you might have seen, i asked whether i should contact FOB's family or g/f well i decided against going to the g/f and start ww3, and i messaged his sister and this is what i put, i have blanked out his name

Hi,

I know you don’t know me directly, but I’m assuming you are aware of who I am and the situation? Although I don’t know how much .... has let people know, however, as we all changed numbers due to the circumstances and to save a lot of hurt and upset I cannot get in touch with him. I feel I should let someone in his family know that his daughter is here. She was born on 11th September 2009 and I called her Hollie-Eve.

I understand and totally appreciate that it is a difficult situation but I feel at least now I have done my part in letting the other half of Hollie’s family know, and hope in the future a civil agreement/arrangement can be reached so that .... and his family are able to be part of Hollie’s life. I have gone through the CSA as per .... wishes so he should be hearing from them some time soon.

The last thing I want to do is put you in a difficult situation so I do not expect a reply back but simply ask if you could pass the message onto .....

Thank you.

Lauramarie

I said about his family being incontact with Hollie, so they cant say i didnt say it etc xxx

That sounds great, very mature and decent of you considering circumstances, I hope things works out hun x

Thank you, thats what im hoping it comes across as, and will see if i get a reply or not xxx

It sounds fine to me!! Really mature and your letting them know about your LO as well as giving them the opportunity to get in touch but also letting them know that you arnt expecting anything.

i hope it all works out ok for you!! xx

Sounds really good! Let us know if you hear anything back xx

Yeah i will do, im hoping i hear back from them, but a nice message ya no, i dont want anything from them as such, just for her, but i will try and keep it, to show hollie, i did try xxx

Good for u hun. Sounds very grown up, mature, and civilised. At least u took the adult way about it and dealt with it in an appropriate manner.
Hopefully everything works out the way u want them to. But u can always have a clear mind that u did what was needed and took the rite action.
Well done hun.

Perfect hun it's a brilliant message. Shows how far you have come and how mature you are

well done you.

Perfect hun it's a brilliant message. Shows how far you have come and how mature you are

well done you.

much much luck!