No birth partner? - Page 2

jenny_wren · Nov 23rd, 2009, 12:13 PM

i could have done it alone ...
i didn't want family or friends anywhere
near me when it came to the serious parts
if i was single i would have done it alone
the nurses i had were amazing i would have
just held her hand lol

if you wanna do it alone go for it

giving births so embarassing i couldn't have
anyone but my oh there who didn't need to be there

xx

Freya · Nov 23rd, 2009, 14:37 PM

I dont think I coul have had my mum in with me either!

I guess, being in labour is a very natural state and it's better if you shut the thinking part of your brain off for a bit and let your body do what it needs to do, amongst other things, a birth partner can speak on your behalf so you dont need to get into meaningless chit chat during a contraction. Or can express your birth preferences.

A birth partner can help motivate you if you're fed up or tired, they can sooth you if you get worried, encourage you when you're near the end. If not a friend, do think about hiring a Doula.

XXX

tinkabells · Nov 23rd, 2009, 14:50 PM

If you feel you can do it yourself then go for it, your a much stronger person, then do it, i had my mum and bestfriend with me, i needed them there, so i wasnt on my own and as mw was in and out i wasnt on my own waiting for mw or baby, but i also wanted to share something special with my family xxx

Lexx · Nov 23rd, 2009, 16:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Freya

I dont think I coul have had my mum in with me either!

I guess, being in labour is a very natural state and it's better if you shut the thinking part of your brain off for a bit and let your body do what it needs to do, amongst other things, a birth partner can speak on your behalf so you dont need to get into meaningless chit chat during a contraction. Or can express your birth preferences.

A birth partner can help motivate you if you're fed up or tired, they can sooth you if you get worried, encourage you when you're near the end. If not a friend, do think about hiring a Doula.

XXX

The thing is I live in Cumbria I doubt the local hosp have electricity let alone know what a Doula is!

suzanne108 · Nov 23rd, 2009, 17:33 PM

Lol as far as I know you hire the doula yourself and she goes into the hospital with you. Its not something the hospital organises - I don't think!! x

Freya · Nov 24th, 2009, 03:18 AM

That's right, you hire the Doula yourself. Look at the website Doula UK they have a list of DOula's who've undergone the approved training. PAckages can vary, you can get pre natal, birth attendance and post natal visits/support, or just birth support, or just post natal support.... Price varies too. A Doula in training (needing to attend more births for experience) offers a low price but will just be as good.

I guess it's an option to look at anyway. Not that I dont think you aren't strong enough to 'go it alone', I just think it would be lovely for you to have someone there who is completely for you.

xxx

Nov 23rd, 2009, 12:13 PM	#11
jenny_wren Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: farnborough, hampshire Posts: 16,997	i could have done it alone ... i didn't want family or friends anywhere near me when it came to the serious parts if i was single i would have done it alone the nurses i had were amazing i would have just held her hand lol if you wanna do it alone go for it giving births so embarassing i couldn't have anyone but my oh there who didn't need to be there xx

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Nov 23rd, 2009, 14:37 PM	#12
Freya Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: Derbyshire Posts: 2,600	I dont think I coul have had my mum in with me either! I guess, being in labour is a very natural state and it's better if you shut the thinking part of your brain off for a bit and let your body do what it needs to do, amongst other things, a birth partner can speak on your behalf so you dont need to get into meaningless chit chat during a contraction. Or can express your birth preferences. A birth partner can help motivate you if you're fed up or tired, they can sooth you if you get worried, encourage you when you're near the end. If not a friend, do think about hiring a Doula. XXX

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tinkabells Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 4,088	If you feel you can do it yourself then go for it, your a much stronger person, then do it, i had my mum and bestfriend with me, i needed them there, so i wasnt on my own and as mw was in and out i wasnt on my own waiting for mw or baby, but i also wanted to share something special with my family xxx

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Nov 23rd, 2009, 17:33 PM	#15
suzanne108 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Manchester Posts: 6,844	Lol as far as I know you hire the doula yourself and she goes into the hospital with you. Its not something the hospital organises - I don't think!! x

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Nov 24th, 2009, 03:18 AM	#16
Freya Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: Derbyshire Posts: 2,600	That's right, you hire the Doula yourself. Look at the website Doula UK they have a list of DOula's who've undergone the approved training. PAckages can vary, you can get pre natal, birth attendance and post natal visits/support, or just birth support, or just post natal support.... Price varies too. A Doula in training (needing to attend more births for experience) offers a low price but will just be as good. I guess it's an option to look at anyway. Not that I dont think you aren't strong enough to 'go it alone', I just think it would be lovely for you to have someone there who is completely for you. xxx

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