Hey girls,

Need advice, i was having pub lunch with my mum today and she said she has been trying to pluck up the corage to ask about FOB to ask me a few questions, so she asked had i told him she was here, said no, cos we both changed numbers for the facebook stuff when it all got out he was the dad and his g/f kicked off etc, she said is he gonna start paying, said im taking him through csa, but it can take months and prob wont get anywhere til next yr feb march, i should think it should be done by then?!
So she then says, well why dont you contact his g/f and sister who both on facebook and tell them, hollie is here, and you've sent csa his details and they will be intouch

so anyway, my question is, would you contact his g/f and sister and what would you say, cos obviously this is gonna kick up again?!

Oh and i havent spoken to him since it all came out, when he said he would pay for hollie, i kept all of his txts about her, but then his g/f said he wasnt gonna do anything and she was gonna control him now!!! That was in july!!! xxx

i wouldnt contact the gf, but id think about maybe contacting the sister, in my opinion and experience it will just piss him off even more if you contact the gf and she will get all nasty with you too. The sister, is in the end, hollie's family.. so if anyone id contact her. But please please think about how the message is worded because last thing you wanna do is make her angry at you!

I wouldnt contact either of them, unless u have they have indicated in the past they wished to know, or b part of her life. If not why bring more grief/misery on yourself when u just dont need it

Yeah, I know, I just dont know what to do, I want him to know hollie is here, when it all came out his g/f got pretty nasty in last few messages, so i rubbed it in her face in last message and then blocked her so she couldnt write anything back, but i just think he should know she is here, she is 3 months nearly now, and cos csa are taking so bloody long to do anything xxx

the csa will inform him that shes here, at least thats sumthing. either that or u could pop a letter in d post to him, with a pic and leave it at that see what happens next

I dont have his door number, and i couldnt give that to csa, otherwise i would of done, i dont want anything to actually do with him, but i think he should know and also hear it from me she is here, i expect he does know she is here as a few people have seen me with her xxx