Argh! How hard is no contact?

MissE007 · Nov 21st, 2009, 21:15 PM

I can't stop myself. Everytime I have these positive thoughts that all will be ok with just moving forward and the last time we spoke I even told him for for the 100th time "fine, I'll just move on and never contact you again" and then eventually after a time I always go and end up making myself look silly by trying to talk to him.

I am seriously annoying myself now. How can I move forward and get on with my life?

Ash_P · Nov 22nd, 2009, 07:45 AM

Delete his number!! Anytime u feel like u wanna contact him, then just go and do something to keep urself busy. Go clean the windows, or have a bath, paint ur nails, listen to some music. Or call a friend instead.
I know its hard, but u can do it, and the longer u do it the easier it becomes.
He sounds like a complete waste of space, and if he doesnt want anything to do with the baby, then why tell him if its moving etc. Just cut all ties. I bet if u ignore him for a while he`ll be the one contacting u x

MissE007 · Nov 22nd, 2009, 10:34 AM

Thanks, I'm gonna try the distraction method because I've deleted his number a thousand times but I know it by heart now.

I didn't even see the other thread just like mine, I'm glad I'm not the only one. He won't even talk to me now at all anyway. Its just frustrating that I can't control myself when I know even if he does talk to me he won't say anything nice anyway.

walkerscrisps · Nov 22nd, 2009, 11:11 AM

he sounds like a right waste of space, no-one deserves someone like that, is there a close friend or relative you can speak to or spend time with when you feel like this? chances are if you do something on your own you're only gonna feel more lonely, being with someone is so much easier, believe me

surprisebaby · Nov 22nd, 2009, 11:49 AM

Well he has made it clear what he wants, so there isn't really a reason to contact him apart from the fact that perhaps its because you having weak moments of feeling lonely or whatever it is.

I think maybe now is the time to have something else to occupy your mind. I find I can be quite obsessional also, and it often takes a new guy or a new project to take your mind of it. For example; decorating the nursery or organising Christmas. I don't know, thats what I'm trying to do.

i still really like my fob in a way, but now I just think he's not good enough for me. You could try and ping yourself with an elastic band on your wrist everytime you think of him! So you think about him less. I don't know.

Good luck!xxxx

Nov 21st, 2009, 21:15 PM	#1
MissE007 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: UK Posts: 145	Argh! How hard is no contact? I can't stop myself. Everytime I have these positive thoughts that all will be ok with just moving forward and the last time we spoke I even told him for for the 100th time "fine, I'll just move on and never contact you again" and then eventually after a time I always go and end up making myself look silly by trying to talk to him. I am seriously annoying myself now. How can I move forward and get on with my life?

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Nov 22nd, 2009, 07:45 AM	#2
Ash_P Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Belfast, Northern Ireland Posts: 997	Delete his number!! Anytime u feel like u wanna contact him, then just go and do something to keep urself busy. Go clean the windows, or have a bath, paint ur nails, listen to some music. Or call a friend instead. I know its hard, but u can do it, and the longer u do it the easier it becomes. He sounds like a complete waste of space, and if he doesnt want anything to do with the baby, then why tell him if its moving etc. Just cut all ties. I bet if u ignore him for a while he`ll be the one contacting u x

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Nov 22nd, 2009, 10:34 AM	#3
MissE007 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: UK Posts: 145	Thanks, I'm gonna try the distraction method because I've deleted his number a thousand times but I know it by heart now. I didn't even see the other thread just like mine, I'm glad I'm not the only one. He won't even talk to me now at all anyway. Its just frustrating that I can't control myself when I know even if he does talk to me he won't say anything nice anyway.

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Nov 22nd, 2009, 11:11 AM	#4
walkerscrisps Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Hampshire, but originally Queensland! Posts: 453	he sounds like a right waste of space, no-one deserves someone like that, is there a close friend or relative you can speak to or spend time with when you feel like this? chances are if you do something on your own you're only gonna feel more lonely, being with someone is so much easier, believe me

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Nov 22nd, 2009, 11:49 AM	#5
surprisebaby Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 823	Well he has made it clear what he wants, so there isn't really a reason to contact him apart from the fact that perhaps its because you having weak moments of feeling lonely or whatever it is. I think maybe now is the time to have something else to occupy your mind. I find I can be quite obsessional also, and it often takes a new guy or a new project to take your mind of it. For example; decorating the nursery or organising Christmas. I don't know, thats what I'm trying to do. i still really like my fob in a way, but now I just think he's not good enough for me. You could try and ping yourself with an elastic band on your wrist everytime you think of him! So you think about him less. I don't know. Good luck!xxxx

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