MissE007

I can't stop myself. Everytime I have these positive thoughts that all will be ok with just moving forward and the last time we spoke I even told him for for the 100th time "fine, I'll just move on and never contact you again" and then eventually after a time I always go and end up making myself look silly by trying to talk to him.

This evening I went out with friends and on the way home I just had this urge to talk to him. The baby was moving about, I felt like a huge whale and I just felt so lonely.

I sent him a text asking if he would meet me, and he just ignored it. Then I called him...four times. His phone was off, so he obviously predicted I would ring him because he definitely got the text.

This man hid two other children from me, and the second one which was due this month, has probably been born by now so I guess he has a lot on his plate. He's a waste of space and I know it, but I can't keep up the anger - I feel like I need him and I can't do it on my own.

He doesn't want me or the baby. He even said on the phone he'll have involvement with the two other children - but not mine.

I am seriously annoying myself now. How can I move forward and get on with my life?

Ash_P

Delete his number!! Anytime u feel like u wanna contact him, then just go and do something to keep urself busy. Go clean the windows, or have a bath, paint ur nails, listen to some music. Or call a friend instead.
I know its hard, but u can do it, and the longer u do it the easier it becomes.
He sounds like a complete waste of space, and if he doesnt want anything to do with the baby, then why tell him if its moving etc. Just cut all ties. I bet if u ignore him for a while he`ll be the one contacting u x

MissE007

Thanks, I'm gonna try the distraction method because I've deleted his number a thousand times but I know it by heart now.

I didn't even see the other thread just like mine, I'm glad I'm not the only one. He won't even talk to me now at all anyway. Its just frustrating that I can't control myself when I know even if he does talk to me he won't say anything nice anyway.

walkerscrisps

he sounds like a right waste of space, no-one deserves someone like that, is there a close friend or relative you can speak to or spend time with when you feel like this? chances are if you do something on your own you're only gonna feel more lonely, being with someone is so much easier, believe me

surprisebaby

Well he has made it clear what he wants, so there isn't really a reason to contact him apart from the fact that perhaps its because you having weak moments of feeling lonely or whatever it is.

I think maybe now is the time to have something else to occupy your mind. I find I can be quite obsessional also, and it often takes a new guy or a new project to take your mind of it. For example; decorating the nursery or organising Christmas. I don't know, thats what I'm trying to do.

i still really like my fob in a way, but now I just think he's not good enough for me. You could try and ping yourself with an elastic band on your wrist everytime you think of him! So you think about him less. I don't know.


Good luck!xxxx