hey
Sorry to hear what a shit he has been. You are definately better off away from him/not with him. Dont worry about doing it on your own.. it will all come naturally to you and you will cope perfect. Once you see your baby you wont even want your ex all you will want is baby!! Im 23 and was also on the pill and the FOB also said i had ruined his life and everything, he has since come round but i moved back to my parents, so now im in central scotland in a village and hes in london. But at the end of the day its his fault!!

Is there any way you can just defer uni for a year? its perfectly do-able to finish your degree with a baby, they have nurserys n stuff, maybe moving nearer your family is a good idea so they can give you support. Maybe look at changing your uni and defering for a year, its all possible if you want to do it?

My friends are the same, all plan weekends out n stuff but they dont invite me cos they assume i wont want to or cant go. which isnt true, ive just let them get on with it cos i need to focus now on having baby. Saving money, and getting into 'the zone' for labour. If you can... id look for somewher to live NEAR your family, but if you cant, would moving back for 6 months-1 year be so bad? FOB cant make you stay there and you shouldnt have too if you have limited support.

Everything willl fall into place, I still panic sometimes but then i regret thinking i wont be able to do it, of course i will. its all new and its all a learning curve, but we will be mummys!! best job in the world apparently? and were all on the shortlist!

I was with someone who, same as you fob, is at uni and is 21. I got pregnant unexpectedly too. I told him when I was 3 1/2 weeks pregnant by text message ( he didn't answer the phone when I tried) and I wanted to tell him as soon as I could. He was away in Northern Ireland at the time and me in Scotland. Anyway we were going out with each other, but after I sent this message I didnt hear from him until I was 17 weeks pregnant. He basically ignored all my attempts to contact him. He eventually last week wrote an email saying to get an abortion, and that he didn't want me ruining his life.... yep the same words!! Not taking any responsibity. He doesn't want to hear from me ever again or anything to do with baby.
I am coping much better since I have heard from him. It was awful not knowing what he was thinking etc. I now don't contact him at all. Its easier with time.

Don't worry about uni, you could go back on a couple of years . You'll love being a mum!

God you're all SO lovely . He just came round with his mum and brother and collected all of his stuff, didn't even look at me, i was inconsolable but coming on here and reading all your comments has made me feel so much better- thank you so much!

I can't wait to be a mum, she is literally everything to me and i know if i had ended up staying with FOB then he wouldn't have been able to cope with all of my attention being on her anyway, he would have made life a living hell. At least i won't have some imbecile pestering me for sex after i've just given birth!

It's so sad to hear all your stories about what your horrible FOB's have put you through, but it's nice to know that you have found ways of coping- so hopefully i will find it easier in time.

I think i will most probably end up moving back in with my parents, they'll be able to help me financially (not that i was getting any help from cock face), it's just hard to imagine losing my independence. But you're right, it could just be for a year if i defer and change universities, the reason i wasn't doing that originally is because my course is finishing so i won't be able to go back to it at Exeter- but now i have nothing to keep me down here.

Thank you so much for giving me hope ladies xxxx

lol @ cock face... there's one I've not used in a while *adds onto list of insulting names for current use*

Where are your parents based? Im sure itll all work out, he sounds like a nasty peoce of work!

sorry to hear that the FOB of your baby is a Ahole my babys dad left me when i was 12 weeks pregnant and i struggled throught the pregnancy all alone as my family arnt very close.

you learn to cope and i bearly even think about FOB now he as never seen her and changed his number before i could tell him she was even here so he doenst even knwo if he has a son or daughter.

i was with him 2 years nut he was 10 years older than me so you would think he was a little more mature but NO think he thought he was still 18 not 38!!!

I'm sorry to hear about what happened with your ex.

My ex ended things went I found out I was pregnant back in June. I've not seen or spoken to him since. He's made it clear he doesn't want to be involved.

You'll get through this. You have more strength than you think xx