I never thought.

faolan5109 · Nov 15th, 2009, 13:24 PM

MY best friend who was in the hospital ( she is pregnant too) last night for bleeding. She is totally okay thankfully. However my now ex fiance has left me because i simply parked my car outside one of my friends houses and left it there over night. I called him all night to tell him, but he didn't pick up. I messaged and messaged and now I have finally spoke to him. He left me because he saw me car parked somewhere it "should be". But not only this, now he has decided that are child isn't his.

What do I do?

DizzyMoo · Nov 15th, 2009, 14:22 PM

Not sure what you're asking hun, What do you do about what exactly? ( sorry if that seems daft ) x

faolan5109 · Nov 20th, 2009, 07:51 AM

Im suddenly a single parent because my fiance left me due to the fact he saw my car at my friends house over ngiht. But not only that he refuses to help with the kid because he feels it isnt his...what I do in this situation...Im so lost.

purpledahlia · Nov 20th, 2009, 15:17 PM

what a stupid reason to leave you!

It seems like maybe he was looking for an excuse to go? (no offence) and that he might of always worried about paternity but now has a ''reason'' to say it out loud??

Men's minds work in WEIRD ways....

Im not sure what you should do.. Ask him to pay for a DNA test or tell him to F off till baby is born and then call CSA?

woadie · Nov 20th, 2009, 16:08 PM

Or he might have just thrown a major wobbly...is that possible? You'll know what his moods are like... so is there a chance he's just gone off on one and will calm down, do you think? It sounds like you two have just had a major barmy as its happened in the past 24 hours, and i hope it sorts out for you x

hang in there and see if he sees a bit more sense when he calms down.

lillprutten · Nov 20th, 2009, 16:12 PM

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Originally Posted by faolan5109

Im suddenly a single parent because my fiance left me due to the fact he saw my car at my friends house over ngiht. But not only that he refuses to help with the kid because he feels it isnt his...what I do in this situation...Im so lost.

It sounds like he has trusting issues and may need councelling. Thats not normal rational behavior.

McLovin · Nov 20th, 2009, 16:27 PM

i guess all you can do is try your best to convince him of the truth until you're blue in the face. You shouldn't have to, granted, but it's just the way it is sometimes.
i'm really sorry that's not much help xxx

faolan5109 · Nov 23rd, 2009, 06:28 AM

NO it is, thank you...all of you. I think Im just going to stick it out by myself.I mean it sucks but if he has to go to great length to find an exit what kind of father would he have been? Not to mention he recently got into a fight with a male friend of mine because he brought me lunch.He full out decked the poor guy in the face! I mean cmon that cant be good as father material can it?

sweetlullaby · Nov 23rd, 2009, 18:00 PM

No, i dont think that is good father material...you can have friends that are both sexes! It sounds to me as though he is jealous of your guy friends and him saying the baby isnt his etc.....i got a dna test demand thrown at me at 19 weeks...which FOB later apologised for saying he knows the babys his but in your case i think either this has been a heat of the moment type thing or he suffers from serious security/trust issues or as purpledahlia said it could be possibly his way of a cop out?

I wouldnt worry too much about it now

stress aint good for you or your LO! let him make up his mind/ get back in touch with you type thing...and if he still has these issues once your LO is born then contact CSA and if he denies he's the father they will make him take a dna test and think he'll have to pay for it as well!

Hope it all works out ok!! xx

woadie · Nov 23rd, 2009, 18:19 PM

The stress is the thing you really need to consider here. You're carrying a child and you deserve to be happy here, not going through shit. He's behaving very badly towards you and really not taking your feelings into consideration x

Nov 15th, 2009, 13:24 PM	#1
faolan5109 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: jersey Posts: 947	I never thought. MY best friend who was in the hospital ( she is pregnant too) last night for bleeding. She is totally okay thankfully. However my now ex fiance has left me because i simply parked my car outside one of my friends houses and left it there over night. I called him all night to tell him, but he didn't pick up. I messaged and messaged and now I have finally spoke to him. He left me because he saw me car parked somewhere it "should be". But not only this, now he has decided that are child isn't his. What do I do?

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Nov 15th, 2009, 14:22 PM	#2
DizzyMoo Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 5,902	Not sure what you're asking hun, What do you do about what exactly? ( sorry if that seems daft ) x

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Nov 20th, 2009, 07:51 AM	#3
faolan5109 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: jersey Posts: 947	Im suddenly a single parent because my fiance left me due to the fact he saw my car at my friends house over ngiht. But not only that he refuses to help with the kid because he feels it isnt his...what I do in this situation...Im so lost.

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Nov 20th, 2009, 15:17 PM	#4
purpledahlia Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 14,871	what a stupid reason to leave you! It seems like maybe he was looking for an excuse to go? (no offence) and that he might of always worried about paternity but now has a ''reason'' to say it out loud?? Men's minds work in WEIRD ways.... Im not sure what you should do.. Ask him to pay for a DNA test or tell him to F off till baby is born and then call CSA?

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Nov 20th, 2009, 16:08 PM	#5
woadie Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 115	Or he might have just thrown a major wobbly...is that possible? You'll know what his moods are like... so is there a chance he's just gone off on one and will calm down, do you think? It sounds like you two have just had a major barmy as its happened in the past 24 hours, and i hope it sorts out for you x hang in there and see if he sees a bit more sense when he calms down.

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Nov 20th, 2009, 16:27 PM	#7
McLovin Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: London Posts: 286	i guess all you can do is try your best to convince him of the truth until you're blue in the face. You shouldn't have to, granted, but it's just the way it is sometimes. i'm really sorry that's not much help xxx

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Nov 23rd, 2009, 06:28 AM	#8
faolan5109 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: jersey Posts: 947	NO it is, thank you...all of you. I think Im just going to stick it out by myself.I mean it sucks but if he has to go to great length to find an exit what kind of father would he have been? Not to mention he recently got into a fight with a male friend of mine because he brought me lunch.He full out decked the poor guy in the face! I mean cmon that cant be good as father material can it?

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Nov 23rd, 2009, 18:00 PM	#9
sweetlullaby Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Uk Posts: 6,337	No, i dont think that is good father material...you can have friends that are both sexes! It sounds to me as though he is jealous of your guy friends and him saying the baby isnt his etc.....i got a dna test demand thrown at me at 19 weeks...which FOB later apologised for saying he knows the babys his but in your case i think either this has been a heat of the moment type thing or he suffers from serious security/trust issues or as purpledahlia said it could be possibly his way of a cop out? I wouldnt worry too much about it now stress aint good for you or your LO! let him make up his mind/ get back in touch with you type thing...and if he still has these issues once your LO is born then contact CSA and if he denies he's the father they will make him take a dna test and think he'll have to pay for it as well! Hope it all works out ok!! xx

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Nov 23rd, 2009, 18:19 PM	#10
woadie Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 115	The stress is the thing you really need to consider here. You're carrying a child and you deserve to be happy here, not going through shit. He's behaving very badly towards you and really not taking your feelings into consideration x

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