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Old Nov 10th, 2009, 22:52 PM  
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News!! finally heard from fob!


Today I got an email from my fob! The first contact for three months. For people who don't know my situation. I am 17 weeks pregnant. I found out in the middle of august. I texted fob the news I am pregnant when I was 3 1/2 weeks pregnant, and he never ever responded. He basically ignored all contact I made and I emailed, texted quite a bit.

This week I wrote to his mum and send the letter recorded delivery and told her everything. I put in two scan photos as well. i think its the first time she had heard any of this.

Anyway this is the email he wrote is this(what do you think??):

First and foremost, I don’t know how you managed to gain access to my
> parent’s home address but don’t dare bring them into this. Leave them
> be. I don't live at home, you won't be able to contact me there. I don’t
> want to hear from you. I can only apologise for that but I have my
> entire future ahead of me, I don’t need you ruining that. I would like
> to think you’d do the honourable thing and have an abortion – but that’s
> your choice. If what you want is financial aid then that’s fine. But
> don’t expect me to contact you again. I’d appreciate you not
> contacting me either.
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Old Nov 11th, 2009, 00:06 AM  
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What a fucking arsehole!! Sounds like u are welll shot of him hun. Have u heard anything back from his mum? At least u have made her aware of the fact she is going to be a grandmother, if she doesnt bother then thats her choice, but at least u can always say that u had the decency to let her know.

As for him, he really does sound like a complete prick. Do the "honourable" thing and have an abortion!! Who the hell does he think he is. If he feels that his whole life is being ruined then he should of kept his d*ck in her trousers!!
Sorry for the rant, but Im so shocked, these men we were all with just get worse as the days go on. Def make sure that U take him for CSA and get what LO is entitled to.
He is the one missing out, maybe one day he`ll regret it, but it`ll be too little to late at that stage.

How do u feel after reading that?
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Old Nov 11th, 2009, 01:25 AM  
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omg, what a utter complete pr*ck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GRRRR, sounds like ur best without him and good luck to you xxx
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Old Nov 11th, 2009, 03:35 AM  
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OMG what a harsh one!
You ruining his future?
I doubt you took his sperm by some medical procedure and inserted yourself....
He sounds very unresponsible, part from the financial aid comment.
I'm sorry he's being like that.
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Old Nov 11th, 2009, 08:59 AM  
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What a superstar he is!!! WOW - just think of all these wonderful guys out there! Hes going to be such a catch for someone later!...... NOT. Surely its up to his parents to decide whether they want anything to do with their grand child or not????
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Old Nov 11th, 2009, 09:23 AM  
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Don't dare bring my parent's in to this??!! Erm why? They are the child's grandparents, god some men are so stupid!! Just cuz he wants to be a dick does that mean he can speak for them to?

Have you had any response off his Mom? Is there any way for her to contact you?

Funny how he gets in touch, even though apparantly you can't contact him there!!
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Old Nov 11th, 2009, 10:20 AM  
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I would probably say something like (to his mum) "thank you for getting xxx to contact me I really appreciate it as I know where I stand now and feel I can just get on with it. I just want you to know that I'm not going to have any issues with you seeing your grandchild if you wish to, even though xxx isn't interested"


just have to say..... what an utter prick!!! (don't aay that to his mum, as tempting as it probably is)
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Old Nov 11th, 2009, 10:25 AM  
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The honerable thing is to have an abortion??? TOSSER
You should reply back with 'why dont you do the honerable thing and stop taking up valuble oxygen on this planet' haha

But seriously... your so much better off if that is the reply you get. Id make sure you save that email aswell, just incase.

Did his mum reply to you personally?

My fob still hasnt told his parents yet either, and im due in less then 5 weeks!! So well done you for being brave enough to tell them

Id just forget him now, he's the one missing out, while you are gaining everything, you win, he loses. End off.

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Old Nov 11th, 2009, 10:26 AM  
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wtf!!! what an arse!! if hes agreed to give you financial aid, milk it for all hes worth
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Old Nov 11th, 2009, 10:57 AM  
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It sounds like you and your little one are going to better off without him. Can't believe some of these FOB's.

That must have been hard for you to contact his parents - I agere that it's up to his parents if they want to see their grand child - it's not up to him.

The honourable thing would be to step up, support and be a part of his childs life.

Sending you hugs xx
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