I am angry beyond words at fob.
I'm wondering if anyone else has ever tried this?

Believe me, i really wanted to get some kind of revenge at the time, but i decided that the best kind of revenge is to do nothing and get on with my life and show him that i do not need him, Because when you hold your baby in your arms everything will seem complete and worth it, he will be the one left in the cold with nothing. Thats the best kind of revenge in my opinion

You havent done anything wrong! If he wants to act like a tit, then let him. Who knows, he could just be scared, and needs a lot more time to get his head around it, a poor excuse, but it does happen.

If i were you, id just leave him for now, i wouldnt bother texting or calling him, If he does get in contact then you will see how involved he actually wants to be. The best revenge in this case, is to just ignore him, and get on with your life, and leave him wondering what your up too all the time heehee

Hope it goes ok

Thanks, I guess you're right.
Thanks for replying, that advice really has given me something to think about

Yeah i thought that too, i was with my ex for nearly three years, thought he was the one ect ect, then found out he was cheating for a year and a half. I had to get a STD check aswell as he wasnt using anything with all these other girls, and yes it is embaressing, but its better to no nothing is wrong, it will give you piece of mind when the results come back

I know its hard right now, but a couple of months down the line, everything will seem so much easier, and you will wonder why you ever thought you needed him. Get on with your life and leave him too it, dont plan anything around him, and if he does decide to get in contact somewhere down the line you can decide what to do then.

Youll feel so much stronger soon, and youll be really proud that you did it all by yourself

hey i really wanted revenge too, and it has taken me a long time to finally get on with my life (7 months!!!) i now have no contact with him, he has never met our son who is 8 weeks old, that is his own choice. although he would never admit it i know deep down that this is eating him up (i still have contact with his family) and that is enough revenge for me, as we are getting on with our lives without him. It doesn't make me happy though, as i wanted my son to have a dad, no matter what happened between us, surely my son deserved that

lou is right the best revenge is to get on with your life and be a stronger person for it x

Oh i had that with my FOB, he siad he was never with his ex who his got a baby with, and soon as i found out i was pregnant it all came out, but he didnt want her finding out, cos they have loans out in there names, but i wanted revenage, i wanted to ruin his relationship with her and tell all his family and friends, but i thought, why should i be the bitch, it will all come out his a wantstain, its just not worth it, it will feel good at 1st but its just not worth it xxx

Where do all these assh**es come from? They seem to be all over the place!!!! I would leave things too. Its just not worth it. Wait and see what happens. try building your life without him. I know tis hard! I find it so too. We all do. But our babies I hope will keep us strong and resolute! Sending you a big hug

I defo agree with the girls. I still want revenge and its been 5 months, but he does his best to do things knowing they wil get to me. I have honestly thought about doing so many things to him, but id only be lowering myself to his pathetic level.
One thing I will say is KEEP ur self respect, dont beg, dont pleed, just try and get on with things and take each day that hits u. I made sure that my husband never seen me crumble. Cause I know that when Im completely over the situation I can always hold my head high and say i never begged and I still have my self respect.
Im a strong believer in what goes around comes around, and Karma pays its dues to everyone. It may take a hell of a long time but he will get what he deserves in the long run.
I know that eventually my ex will get every inch of pain and hurt that he deserves, and when he does, il be sitting smiling away. Thats the best kind of revenge. Sit back, and watch them crumble, and u at that stage will be settled with ur beautiful wee baby and ur new life.

Sorry for long post, when I get started I dont stop lol (hope ur ok hun, keep ur chin up) x

yeah, I don't let him be in her life or know anything about her,
it works. He is hating me now

Thanks ladies, I can't express how much better it makes me feel to hear from other women in a similar situation. I still feel like taking an axe to his head, but I've def calmed down a lot!

Well I spoke to him last night. He was sitting there with his 'first' child and actually didn't bother to tell me this until I heard something in the background near the end of the conversation. Child number two is due before the month is up, and apparently the mother of that child is also on his back, but they are in contact and he will be seeing that baby.
How the hell he was planning on hiding this from me I will never know.

He claims that he didn't tell me about them because he didn't know where the relationship was headed - which is a lie...unless he was just planning on ditching me at some point and not telling me.

He also said that he doesn't want my child because he doesn't know me as well as he knows the other two women - apparently one of them he has known for 10 years and the other nearly as long. And also that I am 'forcing' this child onto him. He didn't ask either of the others to have an abortion for this reason. Apparently number three, by number three is simply too much for him to handle!

I'm upset that he has turned what I thought was a relationship into a joke, and I am so angry that I am even in this ridiculous Jerry Springer type situation and my child is now going to be the one who misses out on having a father all because of his lies - because there is NO WAY I would of gone near him knowing what I do now.

I guess I'll contact him, or try to in April to let him know when his son is born and I have to just learn to live with the situation as it stands!