Will it change?

Ash_P · Oct 25th, 2009, 06:23 AM

I had my chum up last nite for a few drinks (i watched her lol) and we got talking about ex`s and the situation etc. She split with her ex when she was 7 months pregnant with her second. Her first was 1. Its now been 1yr 6months since they split.
Anyway we got talking about meeting people in the future and new men in our lives etc, and I said At the minute, I still cant imagine kissing anyone else. And certainly cant imagine having sex with anyone else. And I asked her when will that stop? when will i start to look at other men and "want" them etc if u know wot i mean.

She told me that 18months after her and her ex split, she still cant imagine being with anyone else. Is that the case with most of you? I really dont wanna be in that situation in a years time where I cant imagine being with anyone else

sweetlullaby · Oct 25th, 2009, 06:33 AM

Im not sure...i reckon it will change if you meet someone special enough. Personally i dont want a man anywhere near me ever again

But i know i dont really mean it!

Is your friend over her ex? Im not too sure.... you could be perfectly happy in a years time without having a guy around or you could have met someone else or be involved with someone else! I guess it all depends on you. You probably could imagine yourself with someone else in a years time or you could be that busy and happy with LO that its the last thing on your mind!

Sorry i havnt been much help!!xx

Ash_P · Oct 25th, 2009, 06:48 AM

i dont think she is completly over him, but she wudnt admiit it. I enjoy mens company but if they start to get flirty with me i feel uncomfortable. I know its still fresh and the wounds havent healed yet and once bubs turns up im sure men will be the last thing on my mind. but time will tell. thanks hun x

teal · Oct 25th, 2009, 07:57 AM

I can't imagine myself with anyone else at the moment. I'm definitely over my ex so I imagine it's down to being pregnant and having a baby in February next year.

I'm sure you'll be fine when the right guy comes along!

tinkabells · Oct 25th, 2009, 08:14 AM

Ok i must be a slut or something then lol
Hollie is 6 weeks old, i have met someone, started speaking to this guy when i was 8 months pregnant, and we've met up a few times havent done anything, had a kiss and cuddles, but it depends what type of relationship you was with with your ex
I was on and off with mine as some of you know my situation but im not looing for anything with this guy, were just keeping each other company, i cant imagine sex yet at all!!!

Hope i've helped maybe lol xxx

Ash_P · Oct 25th, 2009, 19:43 PM

relationship with ex was very strong (or so I thought) together 5 years, married for a yr and a half. We were very close, holding hands, arms round each other. Hugs and kisses loads throughout the day and a very good sex life (any bloody wonder I was so shocked when he ended it!!)
So thinking about doing those things with someone else seems abit weird. Maybe I should go and shag someone who means nothing and get it outta the way lol

KaeRit21 · Oct 25th, 2009, 20:20 PM

i cant imagine being in a relationship or sleeping with someone else yet, and defo not now being only 5 weeks away from due date.
im not quite over the hurt my ex has caused yet, but hes defo out of mine and bubs life for good, and id like to think that im not going to be alone forever more.

ive been thorugh the whole "whos going to want me now" and "thats it, im single forever" thing and now im strong enough to think, you know what, i might still find mr perfect.
im not looking, defo not what i mean, but im not adverse to thinking hes out there, and maybe hoping that hel find me when the times right

itd be nice, theres defo things i miss about being that close to someone...but itl happen in its own time

xxx

xxannxx · Oct 26th, 2009, 06:42 AM

I think that this is different with each woman, and is up to you mostly.
I had split with my ex a year before i had sex with anyone else, not because i couldn't bear it, i just hadn't been out much and hadn't met anyone. However, i have a friend who has now been split with her ex for a year, who still couldn't look at another man, and who is actually really bitter towards all men.

lou_w34 · Oct 26th, 2009, 09:14 AM

Ummmm while im carrying bubs the thought of being with anyone else is soooooo far from my mind! Even though i dont want to be with anyone right now, i do feel lonely alot, and when im in bed especially i always wish i had someone to cuddle.

But i do think about when ive had the baby, and there may be someone out there who will look after both of us. Though at the moment all i can really think is 'im so fat and ugly' that thats it for me lol

I am a believer in 'when your not looking the perfect person will find you' though, as i think the more you look, the more it doesnt happen, but when you relax and take time out for yourself, someone will come along

I just have to hope they will be someone lovely who will want me and bubs, and take us for days out and spoil us rotten

haha

lou_w34 · Oct 26th, 2009, 09:15 AM

I just read that back.... i sound so pathetic

Oct 25th, 2009, 06:23 AM	#1
Ash_P Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Belfast, Northern Ireland Posts: 997	Will it change? I had my chum up last nite for a few drinks (i watched her lol) and we got talking about ex`s and the situation etc. She split with her ex when she was 7 months pregnant with her second. Her first was 1. Its now been 1yr 6months since they split. Anyway we got talking about meeting people in the future and new men in our lives etc, and I said At the minute, I still cant imagine kissing anyone else. And certainly cant imagine having sex with anyone else. And I asked her when will that stop? when will i start to look at other men and "want" them etc if u know wot i mean. She told me that 18months after her and her ex split, she still cant imagine being with anyone else. Is that the case with most of you? I really dont wanna be in that situation in a years time where I cant imagine being with anyone else

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Oct 25th, 2009, 06:33 AM	#2
sweetlullaby Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Uk Posts: 6,337	Im not sure...i reckon it will change if you meet someone special enough. Personally i dont want a man anywhere near me ever again But i know i dont really mean it! Is your friend over her ex? Im not too sure.... you could be perfectly happy in a years time without having a guy around or you could have met someone else or be involved with someone else! I guess it all depends on you. You probably could imagine yourself with someone else in a years time or you could be that busy and happy with LO that its the last thing on your mind! Sorry i havnt been much help!!xx

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Oct 25th, 2009, 06:48 AM	#3
Ash_P Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Belfast, Northern Ireland Posts: 997	i dont think she is completly over him, but she wudnt admiit it. I enjoy mens company but if they start to get flirty with me i feel uncomfortable. I know its still fresh and the wounds havent healed yet and once bubs turns up im sure men will be the last thing on my mind. but time will tell. thanks hun x

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Oct 25th, 2009, 07:57 AM	#4
teal Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 11,382	I can't imagine myself with anyone else at the moment. I'm definitely over my ex so I imagine it's down to being pregnant and having a baby in February next year. I'm sure you'll be fine when the right guy comes along!

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Oct 25th, 2009, 08:14 AM	#5
tinkabells Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 4,088	Ok i must be a slut or something then lol Hollie is 6 weeks old, i have met someone, started speaking to this guy when i was 8 months pregnant, and we've met up a few times havent done anything, had a kiss and cuddles, but it depends what type of relationship you was with with your ex I was on and off with mine as some of you know my situation but im not looing for anything with this guy, were just keeping each other company, i cant imagine sex yet at all!!! Hope i've helped maybe lol xxx

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Oct 25th, 2009, 19:43 PM	#6
Ash_P Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Belfast, Northern Ireland Posts: 997	relationship with ex was very strong (or so I thought) together 5 years, married for a yr and a half. We were very close, holding hands, arms round each other. Hugs and kisses loads throughout the day and a very good sex life (any bloody wonder I was so shocked when he ended it!!) So thinking about doing those things with someone else seems abit weird. Maybe I should go and shag someone who means nothing and get it outta the way lol

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Oct 25th, 2009, 20:20 PM	#7
KaeRit21 Mum (Mom) Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 1,701	i cant imagine being in a relationship or sleeping with someone else yet, and defo not now being only 5 weeks away from due date. im not quite over the hurt my ex has caused yet, but hes defo out of mine and bubs life for good, and id like to think that im not going to be alone forever more. ive been thorugh the whole "whos going to want me now" and "thats it, im single forever" thing and now im strong enough to think, you know what, i might still find mr perfect. im not looking, defo not what i mean, but im not adverse to thinking hes out there, and maybe hoping that hel find me when the times right itd be nice, theres defo things i miss about being that close to someone...but itl happen in its own time xxx

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Oct 26th, 2009, 06:42 AM	#8
xxannxx Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 151	I think that this is different with each woman, and is up to you mostly. I had split with my ex a year before i had sex with anyone else, not because i couldn't bear it, i just hadn't been out much and hadn't met anyone. However, i have a friend who has now been split with her ex for a year, who still couldn't look at another man, and who is actually really bitter towards all men.

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Oct 26th, 2009, 09:14 AM	#9
lou_w34 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 1,987	Ummmm while im carrying bubs the thought of being with anyone else is soooooo far from my mind! Even though i dont want to be with anyone right now, i do feel lonely alot, and when im in bed especially i always wish i had someone to cuddle. But i do think about when ive had the baby, and there may be someone out there who will look after both of us. Though at the moment all i can really think is 'im so fat and ugly' that thats it for me lol I am a believer in 'when your not looking the perfect person will find you' though, as i think the more you look, the more it doesnt happen, but when you relax and take time out for yourself, someone will come along I just have to hope they will be someone lovely who will want me and bubs, and take us for days out and spoil us rotten haha

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Oct 26th, 2009, 09:15 AM	#10
lou_w34 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 1,987	I just read that back.... i sound so pathetic

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