I need help QUICKLY please!

suzanne108 · Sep 26th, 2009, 05:54 AM

I've got a letter off FOB in a birthday card...I can't explain the full situation cos I'm in a rush lol...but can you tell me if the following sounds nasty....

I just got your card and letter, thanks.

I know we have not spoken now for nearly 4 weeks and I wasn't happy about that either. To be honest, I've kind of felt that you aren't very interested so I haven't wanted to bore you with details that I didn't think you were bothered about. I'm not saying this in a nasty way, but you haven't asked how the pregnancy is going, you haven't asked about my appointments, you haven't asked about the things I've been buying or how I'm getting on with my life preparing to be a mum. You didn't even reply to the scan picture that I sent you. So...I just thought that you weren't bothered about all these things. I've not purposefully not contacted you because I don't want us to be friends, I just don't have much to say other than pregnancy related things as it's my life at the moment!

I said before we broke up that I wanted us to be friends for the baby's sake. Maybe I've given you the impression that I don't want to be friends, it's difficult for me because I can't help the anger that I feel for some of the things that have been done, said and just the way things have turned out.

I'm going on to say a few friendly things at the end...but its this middle bit I'm worried about.

HELP!!!!

SweetNothings · Sep 26th, 2009, 06:01 AM

Thats definitely fair enough in my eyes. You expressed exactly what you felt in a mature and civil tone...cant be much fairer than that!!! Good luck!!!

suzanne108 · Sep 26th, 2009, 06:04 AM

Thank you!!!

I hate all this...I just want to shout and give him abuse. But gotta be careful about what he has in writing!!!

xxx

lou_w34 · Sep 26th, 2009, 06:05 AM

Doesnt sound at all horrible to me! You sound very fair and reasonable

SweetNothings · Sep 26th, 2009, 06:06 AM

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Originally Posted by suzanne108

Thank you!!!

I hate all this...I just want to shout and give him abuse. But gotta be careful about what he has in writing!!!

xxx

Oh you definitely do. My mom learned that pretty quickly when my parents got divorced because my dad is a lawyer so anything you put in writing can be held against you.

But that sounds like a great letter...I think its good you are doing it in writing because it gives you a chance to put EVERYTHING on the table ...often times when we talk to someone we forget to mention certain things or we back down but letters are a good way to communicate if you cant deal with your ex in a good manner in person.

Hope it goes well!

Bee26 · Sep 26th, 2009, 06:50 AM

your too nice!! But yeah, very mature and civilized x

purpledahlia · Sep 26th, 2009, 12:42 PM

sounds fine to me!

amazed · Sep 26th, 2009, 13:51 PM

I think it sounds great not nasty at all hun

surprisebaby · Sep 26th, 2009, 13:57 PM

sounds fine to me too.
Hey suzanne, do you ever write a nasty version first and then realise you can't send it and change it a completely different letter that is much more light and positive! I do that a lot with my messages to FOB.

tinkabells · Sep 26th, 2009, 14:41 PM

didnt wanna read and run, but it sounds fair and to the point xxx

Sep 26th, 2009, 05:54 AM	#1
suzanne108 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Manchester Posts: 6,844	I need help QUICKLY please! I've got a letter off FOB in a birthday card...I can't explain the full situation cos I'm in a rush lol...but can you tell me if the following sounds nasty.... I just got your card and letter, thanks. I know we have not spoken now for nearly 4 weeks and I wasn't happy about that either. To be honest, I've kind of felt that you aren't very interested so I haven't wanted to bore you with details that I didn't think you were bothered about. I'm not saying this in a nasty way, but you haven't asked how the pregnancy is going, you haven't asked about my appointments, you haven't asked about the things I've been buying or how I'm getting on with my life preparing to be a mum. You didn't even reply to the scan picture that I sent you. So...I just thought that you weren't bothered about all these things. I've not purposefully not contacted you because I don't want us to be friends, I just don't have much to say other than pregnancy related things as it's my life at the moment! I said before we broke up that I wanted us to be friends for the baby's sake. Maybe I've given you the impression that I don't want to be friends, it's difficult for me because I can't help the anger that I feel for some of the things that have been done, said and just the way things have turned out. I'm going on to say a few friendly things at the end...but its this middle bit I'm worried about. HELP!!!!

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Sep 26th, 2009, 06:01 AM	#2
SweetNothings Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 142	Thats definitely fair enough in my eyes. You expressed exactly what you felt in a mature and civil tone...cant be much fairer than that!!! Good luck!!!

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Sep 26th, 2009, 06:04 AM	#3
suzanne108 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Manchester Posts: 6,844	Thank you!!! I hate all this...I just want to shout and give him abuse. But gotta be careful about what he has in writing!!! xxx

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Sep 26th, 2009, 06:05 AM	#4
lou_w34 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 1,988	Doesnt sound at all horrible to me! You sound very fair and reasonable

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Bee26 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Halesworth, Suffolk, Uk Posts: 1,515	your too nice!! But yeah, very mature and civilized x

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purpledahlia Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 14,871	sounds fine to me!

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amazed Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Warwickshire,uk Posts: 5,378	I think it sounds great not nasty at all hun

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Sep 26th, 2009, 13:57 PM	#9
surprisebaby Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 823	sounds fine to me too. Hey suzanne, do you ever write a nasty version first and then realise you can't send it and change it a completely different letter that is much more light and positive! I do that a lot with my messages to FOB.

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tinkabells Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 4,088	didnt wanna read and run, but it sounds fair and to the point xxx

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