LO's birthdays and exes

AppleBlossom · Jun 27th, 2009, 18:49 PM

I am having a party for Grace on her birthday at half 5 cause all my family are in work as it's on a thursday. I already told him he could see her on her birthday and then he could have his own party at the weekend. Which I thought was fair enough. Only he wants to have her from 9am till 5.30pm... bearing in mind she goes to bed at 8.30 and I would like to spend more than 3 hours with my daughter on her first birthday. He is having a party for her at the weekend as well so I don't think he is being fair. I said I wanted him to come later, about half 10 so she could open her presents and stuff here without madly rushing about trying to get her ready and he said "Well if I can't have her from 9 then I will bring her back later" but he can't because it's her party. I'm thinking of refusing to answer the door to him until we are ready. Do you think that I'm being a bit harsh not letting him have her for the day?

sparkswillfly · Jun 27th, 2009, 18:52 PM

I think hes being pretty selish by saying he would bring her back later and spoil your party! I would tell him its 11-4 or nothing.

kaylynn040485 · Jun 27th, 2009, 18:55 PM

Yeah i agree with sparks, i would say 11-4 or something too, why should he have her all day then u only get a couple of hours plus family will all be there so u wont get 2 mins to spend some time just u and her. If he tries to be awkward then i would just tell him your having her party during the day and he cant have her and he can have her for the day a t the weekend to do his thing! Kx

AppleBlossom · Jun 27th, 2009, 18:57 PM

Hmm... well he can't physically do anything if he decides to turn up at 9 can he? He can't force his way into my house. I just want to get up with Grace, have some breakfast, open her presents, have a play with them, get her ready and then give her to him for a few hours. If I gave him her at 9 she would wake up at half 7ish/8 and I would have an hour to get her breakfast, dressed, presents opened...

BlackBerry25 · Jun 27th, 2009, 18:59 PM

Nah, just don't open the door. Tell him that you have plans already, and as you are her primary caregiver, you have every right to do so on her birthday.

Becky · Jun 27th, 2009, 19:15 PM

After the last thread you posted he is lucky to be having her at all! x

sparkswillfly · Jun 27th, 2009, 19:17 PM

9-5 is way too much because then hardly get to see her!

Becky · Jun 27th, 2009, 19:23 PM

His time with her is Saturday! Just because Jason wants doesnt mean he gets! I would ignore the door all day or say he has to stay at yours with her x

AppleBlossom · Jun 27th, 2009, 19:33 PM

I just think if I ignore him till we're ready, he will bring her back late and she'll miss her own party. Which he would do without a shadow of a doubt because he is that much of a dickhead. Because you see, he wouldn't think twice about his daughter being late for her own birthday party if he thought he would be getting his own way

xJG30 · Jun 27th, 2009, 19:34 PM

Tell him to bugger off, he's messed you about enough.

Jun 27th, 2009, 18:49 PM	#1
AppleBlossom Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Liverpool, UK Posts: 25,860	LO's birthdays and exes I am having a party for Grace on her birthday at half 5 cause all my family are in work as it's on a thursday. I already told him he could see her on her birthday and then he could have his own party at the weekend. Which I thought was fair enough. Only he wants to have her from 9am till 5.30pm... bearing in mind she goes to bed at 8.30 and I would like to spend more than 3 hours with my daughter on her first birthday. He is having a party for her at the weekend as well so I don't think he is being fair. I said I wanted him to come later, about half 10 so she could open her presents and stuff here without madly rushing about trying to get her ready and he said "Well if I can't have her from 9 then I will bring her back later" but he can't because it's her party. I'm thinking of refusing to answer the door to him until we are ready. Do you think that I'm being a bit harsh not letting him have her for the day?

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Jun 27th, 2009, 18:52 PM	#2
sparkswillfly Mum (Mom) Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: London Posts: 9,888	I think hes being pretty selish by saying he would bring her back later and spoil your party! I would tell him its 11-4 or nothing.

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Jun 27th, 2009, 18:55 PM	#3
kaylynn040485 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Glasgow Posts: 4,875	Yeah i agree with sparks, i would say 11-4 or something too, why should he have her all day then u only get a couple of hours plus family will all be there so u wont get 2 mins to spend some time just u and her. If he tries to be awkward then i would just tell him your having her party during the day and he cant have her and he can have her for the day a t the weekend to do his thing! Kx

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Jun 27th, 2009, 18:57 PM	#4
AppleBlossom Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Liverpool, UK Posts: 25,860	Hmm... well he can't physically do anything if he decides to turn up at 9 can he? He can't force his way into my house. I just want to get up with Grace, have some breakfast, open her presents, have a play with them, get her ready and then give her to him for a few hours. If I gave him her at 9 she would wake up at half 7ish/8 and I would have an hour to get her breakfast, dressed, presents opened...

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Jun 27th, 2009, 18:59 PM	#5
BlackBerry25 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 15,180	Nah, just don't open the door. Tell him that you have plans already, and as you are her primary caregiver, you have every right to do so on her birthday.

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Jun 27th, 2009, 19:15 PM	#6
Becky Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: Bucks Posts: 3,122	After the last thread you posted he is lucky to be having her at all! x

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Jun 27th, 2009, 19:17 PM	#7
sparkswillfly Mum (Mom) Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: London Posts: 9,888	9-5 is way too much because then hardly get to see her!

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Jun 27th, 2009, 19:23 PM	#8
Becky Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: Bucks Posts: 3,122	His time with her is Saturday! Just because Jason wants doesnt mean he gets! I would ignore the door all day or say he has to stay at yours with her x

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Jun 27th, 2009, 19:33 PM	#9
AppleBlossom Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Liverpool, UK Posts: 25,860	I just think if I ignore him till we're ready, he will bring her back late and she'll miss her own party. Which he would do without a shadow of a doubt because he is that much of a dickhead. Because you see, he wouldn't think twice about his daughter being late for her own birthday party if he thought he would be getting his own way

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Jun 27th, 2009, 19:34 PM	#10
xJG30 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Nottingham Posts: 18,403	Tell him to bugger off, he's messed you about enough.

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