LO's birthdays and exes - Page 2

sparkswillfly · Jun 27th, 2009, 19:35 PM

If your worried he wont bring her back I would be tempted to say he can only see her at your house for an hour or not at all. Like it or lump it. As Becky said his time is at the weekend

AppleBlossom · Jun 27th, 2009, 19:37 PM

I think I would feel bad for his mum though... she has booked the day off and to be fair this isn't her fault. I suppose I could say she is welcome to come down and see her...

**Vickie** · Jun 27th, 2009, 19:41 PM

honestly I'd tell his mom she is welcome at her party to see her during the day and tell Jason that you have her on her birthday since he's having her on the weekend....

AppleBlossom · Jun 27th, 2009, 19:44 PM

He isn't going to like that one bit

I suppose there isn't much he can do if I say he can't see her. If I don't open the door he can't see her, simple. What would I say to his mum? I think I'd feel really awkward if she came down and I wasn't letting her son see his daughter on her birthday (although he will come off with his favourite line of "you can't actually deny me that")

**Vickie** · Jun 27th, 2009, 19:45 PM

it's not fair to you to not see her all day imo and he is having her (and I would assume a party for her over the weekend) so personally I would say Thursday is your day

**Vickie** · Jun 27th, 2009, 19:45 PM

or maybe let him take her for a little birthday lunch for a couple of hours tops?

AppleBlossom · Jun 27th, 2009, 19:47 PM

Thanks. I think I will text her tomorrow and let her know. And I will just say to him that he can feel fee to come to mine at 9am but we won't be answering the door and he can't sit there all day if he likes, he has her on saturdays, like he does every week.

Ok at least I know I'm justified now

AppleBlossom · Jun 27th, 2009, 19:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Vickie

or maybe let him take her for a little birthday lunch for a couple of hours tops?

He doesn't understand the concept of a couple of hours. If I thought I could trust him to bring her back when I said I would let him but after the latest stunts he's pulled I wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him!

xxannxx · Jun 28th, 2009, 16:23 PM

My ex always does things like this, and it really p*** me off!!!

Your the 1 who takes care of her, day in day out, 24/7, and then he expects to reap the rewards by spending every special occasion with her. I'd tell him if he doesn't like what your suggesting he can wait til the weekend. Every birthday is a milestone, and is a chance for you to spend quality time with her and be proud of how shes growing up, and proud of yourself for doing such a good job, on your own, don't let him ruin your day!!!
(Sorry, for the rant)

MoonMuffin · Jun 29th, 2009, 16:09 PM

If he would bring her home late just because he can't get what he wants he might to it anyways even if he does, I wouldn't risk him taking her at all, tell him he can come over to during the day if he wants, but he's not taking her anywhere. If he's going to threaten to bring her back late then how can he expect to be trusted?

Jun 27th, 2009, 19:35 PM	#11
sparkswillfly Mum (Mom) Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: London Posts: 9,888	If your worried he wont bring her back I would be tempted to say he can only see her at your house for an hour or not at all. Like it or lump it. As Becky said his time is at the weekend

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Jun 27th, 2009, 19:37 PM	#12
AppleBlossom Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Liverpool, UK Posts: 25,860	I think I would feel bad for his mum though... she has booked the day off and to be fair this isn't her fault. I suppose I could say she is welcome to come down and see her...

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Jun 27th, 2009, 19:41 PM	#13
Vickie Mum (Mom) Administrator Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Toronto, ON Posts: 75,655	honestly I'd tell his mom she is welcome at her party to see her during the day and tell Jason that you have her on her birthday since he's having her on the weekend....

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Jun 27th, 2009, 19:44 PM	#14
AppleBlossom Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Liverpool, UK Posts: 25,860	He isn't going to like that one bit I suppose there isn't much he can do if I say he can't see her. If I don't open the door he can't see her, simple. What would I say to his mum? I think I'd feel really awkward if she came down and I wasn't letting her son see his daughter on her birthday (although he will come off with his favourite line of "you can't actually deny me that")

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Jun 27th, 2009, 19:45 PM	#15
Vickie Mum (Mom) Administrator Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Toronto, ON Posts: 75,655	it's not fair to you to not see her all day imo and he is having her (and I would assume a party for her over the weekend) so personally I would say Thursday is your day

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Jun 27th, 2009, 19:47 PM	#17
AppleBlossom Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Liverpool, UK Posts: 25,860	Thanks. I think I will text her tomorrow and let her know. And I will just say to him that he can feel fee to come to mine at 9am but we won't be answering the door and he can't sit there all day if he likes, he has her on saturdays, like he does every week. Ok at least I know I'm justified now

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Jun 28th, 2009, 16:23 PM	#19
xxannxx Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 151	My ex always does things like this, and it really p*** me off!!! Your the 1 who takes care of her, day in day out, 24/7, and then he expects to reap the rewards by spending every special occasion with her. I'd tell him if he doesn't like what your suggesting he can wait til the weekend. Every birthday is a milestone, and is a chance for you to spend quality time with her and be proud of how shes growing up, and proud of yourself for doing such a good job, on your own, don't let him ruin your day!!! (Sorry, for the rant)

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Jun 29th, 2009, 16:09 PM	#20
MoonMuffin Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Norwalk, CT Posts: 3,369	If he would bring her home late just because he can't get what he wants he might to it anyways even if he does, I wouldn't risk him taking her at all, tell him he can come over to during the day if he wants, but he's not taking her anywhere. If he's going to threaten to bring her back late then how can he expect to be trusted?

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