hi

split up nearly 10 weeks ago, haven't seen him in about 7 weeks, all contact was through texts, which i stopped about 3 weeks ago. anyway i wanted to know if the house had been surveyed, as it is taking so long and he replied that the man that surveys is on holiday and that was it, but i got angry that he hadn't asked about baby or dog, he said that he did want to know how we all were but i probably wouldn't tell him. told him that he needs to grow up and speak to me face to face as texting is pathetic. he invited me round to house, i refused, but i asked him if he wanted to go to the beach with the dog, which he agreed.

anyway we had an amicable conversation about baby, how he wants to be involved and he will help me in any way he can, and that he is going to find it really hard being a part time dad!! (told him that was the decision that he made).

he told me that his life was crap he has been accused of crashing into someones car, which he say he didnt do, but is being charged by the police for failing to report an accident, a bus crashed into his lorry 2 weeks ago! he isn't coping with paying all the bills and doesn't have enough money to eat properly (has lost a lot of weight!) he asked his boss if he could have weekends off, which he claims is to see baby, but isn't it would fit in with his lifestyle with her, boss said no chance and he can't sleep, only sleeps for couple hours a day, told him that it was guilt, he agreed!

we spoke about access, said that he didn't want to go to court and would agree with what ever i wanted, told him my only request was that the other woman never has anything to do with my child, and he agreed to that, he said that he would chose baby over her!!!!

and he actually apologised to me!

anyway it all made my day, knowing that my life is a lot better than his

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does anyone believe in psychics?

Hey, Glad to hear your doing well. You have to remember what goes around comes around and your ex will get his just deserts. xx

On the subject of Psychics, if i recall correctly your in Aberdeenshire, i am from there originally and have been to see Maureen Smith at Fyfie twice, my mum and several other people i know have been and she is spot on. My mum has been 3 times, shes also seen a few others and non have compared to Maureen.

When i went to see her she told he a lot of things that no one else would know, i got my 2nd time recored and my OH who thinks its all crap was even amazed at the things she said and knew.
I do know that she has a waiting list but its def worth the wait, if you fancy her number drop me a pm, she also does events local that are apparently excellent xx

hey thanks for reply, yeah from aberdeenshire, my mum has been to maureen twice, so i have got appointment on the 17th of this month, made it 3 months ago! have been told that she is very good.

went to see an elizabeth chubb last week from peterhead area, who also has good reviews, had mixed feelings about it, half of what she said was totally accurate (she knew my brothers name and describe him accurately), but when it came to my relationship she got it completely wrong, left feeling a bit confused, don't always take these things seriously, just amazed by how much she got right.

im not obsessed with psychics, just interested in these types of things

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aw hun glad you came out of it feeling that you were in a better place. However I do know how you feel about him in general - he was 10 weeks ago the love of your life. I am trying to think how I would feel having that meet up with my ex and how I would feel knowing that he was suffering. As much as we hate what they have done to us did you not feel a tad sad for him? I absolutely know he does not deserve that (neither of our exes do) but what are you feeling now hun? Did you talk about any form of reconciliation or is he still adamant he wants to be with this other woman?

I guess these are not the types of questions I would normally ask someone who has just gone through what you and I have in the last 10 weeks - god in reality no one should ever have to go through what we have. But what are you thinking now? Sometimes things can work out.

Re Psychics well my best friends mum is one and a healer. I refuse to go for a reading with her as I am a bit cynical in that but I have been having regular healing with her every week now for the last 10 weeks - has helped me tremendously. Because she knows how I feel about the whole psychic thing then she doesnt push it but bit by bit she is telling me stuff during my healing whether I want to hear it or not. She has seen a few of my friends who have ended up in tears after seeing her and I do believe these people are real and do exist - one thing I would say hun is try and not live your life by what they tell you. She always tells me life is mapped out for us but many people choose to go in a different direction and thats fine. What they can see in the future is what was originally mapped out for us. The last conversation I had with her was basically her telling me that my next 3 months were going to be absolutely hell and that David will make my life misery and then basicallyl when the baby is born that everything in my life will change. I keep on asking her what that means and she tells me I know what that means!! I have gone through weeks of thinking about that and now its torturing me and I wish she hadn't said that so what I am saying is just take what they say as knowledge and in the end your decisions are what feels right for you.

I personally know deep down in my heart that David will return, I think I have always known that and basically she told me she is telling me this info to prepare me in the next 3 months for whats to come at the end of it. She did however tell me that I don't take him back and thats a major revelation for me! I had one of the most endearing moments with him last Thursday before he went on holiday. The sadness between us filled every space of the room, but I need to block that out.

Please remember how far you have come - I remember speaking with you in the early days and you were like me a complete and utter wreck - you are an inspiration to us all on here in the same situation. Good on you for being upbeat and keeping strong, its a testiment of where we have came from in the last 10 weeks.

Secretly as well if you are like me its an ego boost to see them so crap!! (wrong I know but very satisfying!)

Keep in touch hun

Sam
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Glad you came out feeling good about things, and knowing your in a better place than he is!

hey sam

i know what you mean i still love him and will admit that i still want want him back, and knowing that life isn't good for him, maybe makes me hope that he will come to his senses, although im not going to be unrealistic about it. i told myself before i went to meet him that i wouldn't mention other woman or get into an arguement, which i managed to do. so we didn't talk about reconciliation, he is still with her and taking her to a family wedding on saturday!

psychic told me that he will come back and we will try again, but possibly could be better off without him, and he is confused about what he wants from life. he did seem genuinely upset about baby, and not being there full time and said that he would rather bond with baby than be with other woman.

but i can't make him change his mind, although i still think about him constantly, i am trying to get on with my life without him.

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aw hun its just sooo not what we need right now is it!

So what for you now? just continue you as and then see what happens? Are you waiting for him to ask you to make a go of it?

I really really really wish it to work out for you - god I need some hope in life that things work out with people - you so deserve it. Good on you for moving forward - I know how hard that is.

My psychic woman has told me that basically David in his head has agreed to give it a year with his ex and then he cant take any more. She says he is already miserable but is too stubborn to admit it and that eventually when the baby is born everything changes and he leaves her again. I asked her "well where will he go" and she just looked at me and I was like eh not back to me surely - she never answered!

When I left her house the other night I asked her about any new feelings that she had and she said again Sam he's not going to stay there - he doesn't love her, he just can't cope with the baby and hates the situation. My friend was firing all questions at her and then asked her finally "will he try and get back with Sam" she didnt answer. When I left the house that night I asked her "will he?" she said "hun I don't know all I know is that its not over, there's something not over between you, not sure what it is but its not over" I asked her what she meant and that would I have a relationship with him again and she was like I don't know, need to spend more time in the spirit world to find out but all I know is that its not over"

This has haunted me for weeks now!

Be strong - keep up the good work - I am sure the fact that you are so super strong is coming over to him and that is probably killing him even more

Keep us posted

S
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i know exactly what you mean, psychic said he would come back, but i got upset and said no i really didn't think he would, she said that it may just be for contact and access to baby, i shouldn't have said anything, got too emotional.

i let you know how i get on with the next one on the 17th meant to be very good.

i am just going to wait and see what happens just now, i know in my heart that everything will change when baby is here, but i can't do anything about situation up until then, he now knows my mobile number so we will see if he ever contacts me.

xx

hun never give up hope, never

keep me posted

S
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Good luck on the 17th, i am thinking on going back to see her after my baby is born. Let us know how you get on