missjacey44

My ex doesnt give me a penny he would rather spend it on himself the selfish **** so girls count yourselfs lucky even if your getting something !

chel27

me and my ex have an arrangement...he pays me £125 month x

jesse k + x

DD's father pays $85 mth..... it used to just be $14/mth sadly. For now its a bit better....

Babys father might not pay a thing if he refuses to sign forms (birth certificate, statatory declaration etc) acknowledging this is in fact his baby.

saff1978

Havent read through all these posts, but I have 4 kids by 3 dads (dont ask!!) it took me years to get money from the first 2 through the csa and now touch wood they do both pay, I'm newly seperated from my husband and now he's refusing to pay too....i sure know how to pick em!! :-)

taperjeangirl

AW You do dont you!! I hope you get something sorted with your ex husband soon, it's a pain when its all up in the air and nothing is sorted.

purpledahlia

Im a bit nervous about all this as the FOB is refusing to be any part of it he doesnt even want to be friends with me, we dont talk and he told me i am just ruining my life and if i get in touch ill be runing his. Anyway he wont eb signing the birth cert or having any parental responsibilities over this baby but i will call csa about him and see if they can do anything, ill be on benefits till i can get back to work but even if he pays x amount and i only see 20 of it i will still feel better that he is paying his part, even if it goes into the gov. why should he not have to pay for his child!? bloody men!

edinsam

Purple quite right - dont let him get away with it.

Mines is exactly the same - we have no contact whatsoever, none, havent spoken to him in ages despite the fact that I work beside him every day. Mines earns around 90K a year so too bloody right I will be at CSA straight away and if it takes years then it takes years - I will not be giving in! You shouldnt either

itsmelou1984

it wont take that long if ya hav his national insurance number they can check up on everything using that. i let my DD's dad off a whole year without paying/giving im a chance...but as soon as january came i csa'd his ass and its been the best thing since, i got £300 a mth (as he owed arrears!!) and now i get just short of £270 a month, it really is worth it. if your on some kind of benefit i think tey take some back, but im not so i wouldnt know what thats all about. just split up with father of the twins...and damn right ill be csa'ing his ass too!! x

edinsam

hi itsme

DOnt you worry hun I am on the case

Not as easy as getting his NI number as he is self employed and will try every trick in the book - should have know better than to mess with me huh!!!

Sorry to have read your story - i think you are coping remarkeably well

purpledahlia

edinsam - i will contact csa for sure. You will have no trouble with CSA as you know his workplace and salary etc, I unfortunately dont have all his details BUT once you make a claim they go by that date, so if it takes one year, it will be backdated for that year. So if i have to wait i will, I would rather he saw the child and paid, but if hes going to refuse then I will take his money no matter how selfish he thinks i am being. (he said i am for mentioning csa - i think HE is the one being selfish!) I dont have his national insurance number though but i know he was in jail and i know when and he had a tag at his parents house and i know the area, I might try to find out the company though. but im assuming as he has a criminal record (even tho he got not guilty) that will make it easier for them to track him? x